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Quote by Dudealicious
Shakes head
I am really disappointed in this statement, a BDSM relationship or a BDSM "kink" has NOTHING to do with beating the shit out of someone. If pain needs to be used as a form of punishment fine. But beating the shit out of someone is a chargeable offence and the police should be called in to arrest the abuser, plain and simple.
Quote by Sensei
I think you have to question a sport where a game lasts 90 minutes and fairly regularly ends in a 0-0 tie.
Quote by Dancing_Doll
I expect them to jizz in their pants.
No, seriously... I do!
Actually I've gotten a lot of great feedback from readers that really covers a huge range, including:
- my partner and I act out and role-play your stories (!)
- I came "X" number of times tonight while reading your stories
- I read one of your stories and then called in sick to work today so I could read the rest of them
- I read your stories with my partner in bed at night or print them off and read them on the beach
- your story inspired me to try anal sex for the first time (from females)
- your story turned me on so much I had wild monkey sex with my husband all afternoon
- I gave your story to my husband to read so he knows the kind of sex I want to try/have
- your story about a cheating girlfriend caused me to contemplate the real reasons behind why my own wife cheated
- I am a psychology professor, can I use your stories in the 'sex and human behaviour' component of the course I teach next semester
- I jizzed in my pants... at work.
I'm probably missing a few that I can't remember at the moment. But basically... how readers react to reading erotica seems to vary a lot. If I have entertained and titillated, then I consider it a success. Really those are my only expectations and everything else is a bonus. It is amazing (and humbling) to imagine that something that comes out of my head has the possibility of impacting someone on the level it does. I think that's how every writer feels - whether it's being turned on or inspired to become more sexually adventurous and liberated with erotica or those that write about serious/touching subject matter that can reduce a reader to tears. That kind of impact through words and the connection between the author and the reader is often an undefinable kind of magic.
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I have 6 stories that are over 30,000 views, with my EP one being close to 70,000 views. I have a 7th story that's at 26,000 views so it's slowly creeping up there too. Many of my others are around the 20,000+ view-mark at the moment as well.
Quote by Mazza
Actually, the story that Stephanie and I co-wrote us almost at the 30,000 mark...
The client on the sixth floor
(I am a shameless whore, aren't I?)
Assumes the position... AGAIN!
God, I dunno if my ass can take much more!!
Quote by latinfoxy
My question is not about hard limits or things involved in the rules you have set up in the BDSM relationship, i mean it more in the normal day to day life, i dont know maybe they said they were gonna be there at certain time and they were late, or forgot to buy milk, or i dont know things like that.
Quote by latinfoxy
I have a question, what happens when is the Dom that mess up? i mean we are all humans and sometimes we make mistakes and in relationships sometimes you piss someone off and sometimes they piss you off.
one that screws up, can you just go to them and yell and call them asshole or whatever you feel like telling them? can you punish your Dom for that? Or is it like in a normal relationship were you have a fight and are allowed to be angry at them and then you just move on? or do they just have to accept everything no matter what it is?
Quote by 1ball
The easiest thing to write is a true story. The story is already written in your mind if you lived it. That is why "my first time" stories are a good first story for a beginning author. Of course, the fantasy of how the first time woulda/shoulda gone is also already written in your mind and might make a better story, because you've embellished it to suit your tastes.
The challenge that grabs me as an author is to get the reader to imagine herself in one of the really interesting roles in the story without resorting to the I-do-this-and-you-do-that cheat. When a reader comments that they've imagined themselves in a role that I hoped would appeal, the genre doesn't really matter, because I got inside the reader's head and took her for a ride that left her satisfied. This doesn't necessarily mean sexually satisfied. Just glad she went on the ride.
Quote by FtLMale
Sprite, thanks for your reply...
So you consider your relationship to be defined by the BDSM aspect, yet built upon your love and trust for each other; really much the same as any relationship?
I also gather that it is the emotional commitment you have made to the relationship that is the glue that motivates you to follow the commands, even the ones you do not enjoy.
Unlike children who will challenge authority to find the limits, you already know them and will break rules to invoke punishment as you relish the absolution your Mistress grants you as well as the love she displays in punishing you.
May I ask, if your enjoyment of physical pain is sexually based, emotional or other?
I suspect that you feel that much of your relationship is unique and you do not choose to be defined by generalizations or pre-defined role models.
Hopefully I did understand correctly.
Quote by lafayettemister
The perfect woman?
Super smart
Great sense of humor
Spectacular rack
Tight pussy
Loves taking it up the ass
Champion cock sucker
and most of all... MUTE
She doesn't exist.
