There are times when I'm out and about, and see a cute woman, and want to give her a compliment. But I hesitate because I don't mean it as a come on and don't want to give her that impression. I appreciate beauty just like everyone else. In this time when people - especially men - have to watch what they say because it can be twisted by others, giving a compliment to women can be a form of harassment. So I'm interested in knowing the way women feel about the situation. Thanks.
That line may not work unless you are in a loud music 'pick-up' bar or night club, in which case, it may get you laid. But out on the street, it could lead to the lady calling the cops on you for harassment. And, please, do not be stupid enough to try that at the workplace. You'll get fired faster than you can blink.
Depends on the setting, the guy, the situation, how and what is said... really, it's something to be careful about. I find I'm more receptive to a brief friendly smile. I'll probably even smile back. It's really a situational thing, though.
It's probably okay for women to compliment other women randomly. I do it all the time. With men, it's really more difficult and very situational. I get complimented for my looks quite often and rarely feel threatened by the attention, but these days, a lot of women don't know how to react to compliments, because it could lead to an unpleasant followup.
I think it's okay for a man to tell an unknown woman she is beautiful only if he walks away immediately. It could make her day. If he sees her again he should smile briefly and walk on. Any more could be considered confrontational. If she wants to take it further it is up to her.
cute? no.... beautiful? yes
In this #MeToo era such compliments have dried up or been forced underground. I like being considered beautiful and comments like addressing me as "lovely lady" make me purr
It's ok as long as you don't make it creepy. It is perfectly fine for a woman to tell another woman that too btw.
I give compliments and receive compliments all the time. And why not? There are a lot of very good looking people about of all genders. Giving a compliment doesn't mean you want to jump into bed with them . Unless of course you want to take it further then that is another subject.
Innocent flirting is OK if (and this is a big IF) the timing is appropriate. It is NOT appropriate in a business meeting or if the person is otherwise engaged with someone else. But a casual glance (even if held a bit too long) and a comment isn't offensive to me. Many of my peers will disagree, however. It seems like they don't want attention based solely on the basis of them being female. My coworkers, especially, seem to go out of their way to downplay their femininity.
Compliments are a wonderful thing it can make you smile for days even if it’s from a complete stranger. I compliment people a lot actually, I think it’s a nice thing to do. I agree with everyone else after you give a compliment walk away. Then they’ll know it was just a compliment.
Don't do it if she's reading a book or wearing headphones. That means she doesn't want to talk to anyone. That includes compliments from strangers. Also don't do it to anyone who seems like they have someplace to be, not because it's creepy but because it's awkward.
Generally, with complete strangers, if you have to ask "Should I say this?", the answer is "No".
I have a few times told a woman that she is beautiful, and to date never had a bad reaction. I have not said this trying to hit on her just that I found her beautiful in her appearance. Usually she will respond with thankyou and I would walk away. Doesn't everyone like to be complimented and appreciated for the effort they made?
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What's wrong with a compliment?
Ive never had a problem with it
I don't see an issue with it, but go with beautiful instead of cute
or better yet gorgeous.
I’m complimented on my looks frequently and I enjoy it every time. I agree women don’t like the word “cute.” Puppies and kittens are cute. Use beautiful, lovely even striking will do. No to “cute”
There is more charm in telling a lady that she is beautiful, gorgeous, not cute. Cute say's to me that he's poking fun, and she's not mature enough for him. Children are cute, just as kitties or puppies. JMHO
From all the comments posted, it would seem there is a disconnect between readers/visitors of Lush (or similar sites) and the real world. Most of the women I know, especially those that I work with or know from work contacts, don't appreciate comments on their bodies by strangers, especially sexually related comments. I don't mind innocent attention or comments, but dislike men who think a comment is the first step to friendship or whatever.
It should be acceptable to approach a woman and say she looks attractive or beautiful and then walk away. Hopefully taken in the spirit of a compliment. Sadly, today's fixation with being so PC means it is being discouraged. We should try to be nicer to each other, care more and hate less.
Kaylee x
