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Should I just give up any hope of her ever loving me???

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Naughty_Nurse
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Oh you are kind of cute with all those brainless things you mention...it only tells me that you aren't the smart ass that you are dying to be.
So, if you are fifty something you dont have the right to fancy a young woman? Why? Are you out of order after certain age? Many women fancy older guys? I think you can learn loads off older guys since you are acting so ...uhm...childish.
Maybe she told him she cheated, just to tell him that she is available?
It's obviously that you dont understand the female brain, you try to narrow it down into one little corner....this corner is not representive for most of us women. But having such a little brain as you have I can understand you, it gets way too difficult for you if you widen your horizon.

Do I 'have' to do/ add something in here? I just stumbled into your narrow minded posts again and decided it was more than enough for my eyes to read your silly words.


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He's fifty something.

He is married and obsessing over another married coworker who is thirty something.

This coworker is pregnant.

She is obviously not interested in him.

She probably told him she cheated to make him 'get' it that he is bothering her and doesn't have a chance.

She has to work in the same office as him, how uncomfortable must that be? He probably leers at her and he even admitted to "jokingly" saying I love you to her often... Wow, creepy workplace he's creating.

After all that he asks for suggestions on how to get this girl... You don't think that's ridiculous?

What have you added by the way? Besides focussing on me? I actually gave him a ridiculous suggestion to match his ridiculous question, hoping he's read between the lines and realize how stupid he's being... What did you do?

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Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
To change the things I can
And by the time I'm 53...Lord at least give me the wisdom to know when it is wrong to obsess over a younger person 20 years my junior...in spite of my spouse and all the hints that my life doesn't need this.
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Oh you are kind of cute



Are you flirting with me? I'm not interested... yak!

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So, if you are fifty something you dont have the right to fancy a young woman? Why? Are you out of order after certain age? Many women fancy older guys?



That's not what I said... I said he is harassing a much younger, pregnant married woman at work. That might be okay with you I suppose, that's your own creepy opinion and you are entitled to it.

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Maybe she told him she cheated, just to tell him that she is available?




Yeah, available... But not to him, duh.

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this corner is not for most of us women. But having a little brain I can understand you, it gets way too difficult for you if you widen your horizon.




Did you just admit to having a little brain?

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Do I 'have' to do/ add something in here? I just stumbled into your narrow minded posts again and decided it was more than einough for my eyes to read your silly words.




Yet you continue to read them...
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Paulie. Here's some more frank honesty:

Your married. Maybe you need to work on that. Fix your marriage or seek a divorce. THEN pursue relationships.

She doesn't take you seriously when it comes to the flirting and 'I love yous' because you're married and or because you two are coworkers, and she's married too.
She didn't consider having an affair with you because youre married and or because you're coworkers.

Her affair distraught you? How? Why? You are married. Maybe being in a broken marriage is the reason you have feelings for her. Perhaps if you worked through your broken marriage you'll find individuality, freedom, happiness and strength.

It makes no sense to WANT to be with someone (who is married) when you refuse to address your own broken relationship. How can someone advise you on how to pursue anything with her when you're not able to address problems with your wife? Is she miserable, too? Why is your marriage such a muck to you? Perhaps that needs some serious contemplation, too.

Affairs don't solve problems - they create problems.

Don't exist forever like you are now. Youre wasting your life. Time is short. Fix it or move on. Be respectful to the woman you married by leveling with her about how you feel.



Hi Metilda!!

I know you are absolutely right in just about everything you say. The only thing is that it was not my broken marriage that lead me to searching for her, on the contrary, it was probably my sentiments for her that exacerbated the problems in my marriage. I found in her that which I would have would have liked my wife to be. My colleague has all the qualities that my wife doesn't possess, and this caused a certain degree resentment towards my wife! I know the grass is always greener on the other side, but believe me, I am (was??) completely infatuated with her, notwithstanding my mature age. And I've never found anyone who has ever made me feel this way!

I've been married 22 years to my wife, and despite that our marriage is "on the rocks" (yes, my wife is miserable too!!), I have never betrayed her in all these years. It is not an affair that I was looking for with my colleague, I would have even been prepared to leave my wife for her if only she'd have wanted me. But as it stands, and I think you all agree, I suppose it won't be necessary.

PS: I really did appreciate all the time you took out to answer my post, and for your sincere interest and your sound advice!! Grazie mille!!!!
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Flirting with such an simple minded ass like you ? Hahahaha, thanks for making me laugh. For the rest I wont reply because it is so useless, guess that is due to your extremaly slow brain, you still have no idea when to shut up.

Naughty_Nurse wrote:
Oh you are kind of cute

Are you flirting with me? I'm not interested... yak!

Naughty_Nurse wrote:

So, if you are fifty something you dont have the right to fancy a young woman? Why? Are you out of order after certain age? Many women fancy older guys?

That's not what I said... I said he is harassing a much younger, pregnant married woman at work. That might be okay with you I suppose, that's your own creepy opinion and you are entitled to it.

Naughty_Nurse wrote:

Maybe she told him she cheated, just to tell him that she is available?

Yeah, available... But not to him, duh.


Naughty_Nurse wrote:

this corner is not for most of us women. But having a little brain I can understand you, it gets way too difficult for you if you widen your horizon.


Did you just admit to having a little brain? sign5


Naughty_Nurse wrote:

Do I 'have' to do/ add something in here? I just stumbled into your narrow minded posts again and decided it was more than einough for my eyes to read your silly words

Yet you continue to read them...
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i've overheard my baby brother give this advice to his friends.

Dud. there's no stress that a bar of soap can't take care of.

now i personally have never witnessed his friends relieving stress.

but maybe a bar of soap will help you out paulie
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Flirting with such an simple minded ass like you ? Hahahaha, thanks for making me laugh. For the rest I wont reply because it is so useless, guess that is due to you extremaly slow brain, you still have no idea when to shut up.

Naughty_Nurse wrote:
Oh you are kind of cute

Are you flirting with me? I'm not interested... yak!

Naughty_Nurse wrote:

So, if you are fifty something you dont have the right to fancy a young woman? Why? Are you out of order after certain age? Many women fancy older guys?

That's not what I said... I said he is harassing a much younger, pregnant married woman at work. That might be okay with you I suppose, that's your own creepy opinion and you are entitled to it.

Naughty_Nurse wrote:

Maybe she told him she cheated, just to tell him that she is available?

Yeah, available... But not to him, duh.


Naughty_Nurse wrote:

this corner is not for most of us women. But having a little brain I can understand you, it gets way too difficult for you if you widen your horizon.


Did you just admit to having a little brain? sign5


Naughty_Nurse wrote:

Do I 'have' to do/ add something in here? I just stumbled into your narrow minded posts again and decided it was more than einough for my eyes to read your silly words

Yet you continue to read them...


LOL look at this mess... Having trouble figuring out how to use the forum huh? That's okay. It's very hard I know...

Anyway...


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For the rest I wont reply because it is so useless, guess that is due to you extremaly slow brain, you still have no idea when to shut up.


That's what I thought. You can't muster up the brain power to give any kind of real insight. Simpleton.
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In short, yes.

You should give up hope of her loving you, but moreover, you should try and give up your love for her. If it were to happen, it would create such a mess in both your lives that you would probably never see or speak to each other the same way, or possibly ever again depending on how bad it went. Even if she were into you sexually, I suspect that there is virtually no chance of her wanting to spend her life with you, which is what it kind of sounds like you were/are after.

Addressing another note, if you are unhappily married, I encourage you to work on that problem. Talk to your wife about the things that make you unhappy. If that doesn't help, or you're unable to say what you mean maybe see a therapist. If nothing works and you've given what you have and you're certain it's over, then end it. Also, a marriage that ends is not necessarily a failed marriage. If you were both happy once, and have grown apart, then you should both find somebody else. This advice is of course nebulous, since I have no idea if your wife feels the same way, or if she thinks everything is fine.

Anyway, you should not pursue this woman. Try and work things out with your wife, or don't, but there's no point in being married if it makes you unhappy.
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Hihihi thanks for making me laugh again. No, I just have enough insight in how useful it is to respond to people. In your case it is useless because you are way to fond of your own silly ideas and have no eye for others.


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That's what I thought. You can't muster up the brain power to give any kind of real insight. Simpleton.


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I've gotta be deadpan with you, Sir. You're seriously suck on stupid my friend. You need to let this shit go and keep it moving. I'm with Magical_felix on how re-damn-diculous you and this entire situation sounds. Like I said in the beginning; "Let this shit go and keep it moving."
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In short, yes.

You should give up hope of her loving you, but moreover, you should try and give up your love for her. If it were to happen, it would create such a mess in both your lives that you would probably never see or speak to each other the same way, or possibly ever again depending on how bad it went. Even if she were into you sexually, I suspect that there is virtually no chance of her wanting to spend her life with you, which is what it kind of sounds like you were/are after.

Addressing another note, if you are unhappily married, I encourage you to work on that problem. Talk to your wife about the things that make you unhappy. If that doesn't help, or you're unable to say what you mean maybe see a therapist. If nothing works and you've given what you have and you're certain it's over, then end it. Also, a marriage that ends is not necessarily a failed marriage. If you were both happy once, and have grown apart, then you should both find somebody else. This advice is of course nebulous, since I have no idea if your wife feels the same way, or if she thinks everything is fine.

Anyway, you should not pursue this woman. Try and work things out with your wife, or don't, but there's no point in being married if it makes you unhappy.


Thanks a lot for your reply!! By now I have clearly understood that there's no point in me continuing to fool myself in the hope that something would ever have come of it.

As far as my marriage is concerned, I not certain what I will or really want to do, but I think it's almost beyond repair. In any event, my wife has often indicated she's had enough of me and wants to leave me. Maybe she'll end up taking the initiative before I ever come to a decision.
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Thanks a lot for your reply!! By now I have clearly understood that there's no point in me continuing to fool myself in the hope that something would ever have come of it.

As far as my marriage is concerned, I not certain what I will or really want to do, but I think it's almost beyond repair. In any event, my wife has often indicated she's had enough of me and wants to leave me. Maybe she'll end up taking the initiative before I ever come to a decision.


Inaction.
The bane of every relationship. The decision to not act, not talk t out, not put ones foot down.

Why wait for your wife to maybe get around to saying something? Do it or it might never be addressed.

It's your life. Take control. Don't wait. Talk about it. Do something.
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I've never been married but, if I had a man that was interested in someone else I would think that after a short time I would realize he wasn't interested in me. So as for your wife, she probably sensed something wrong awhile ago. If she's still there, then it most likely can be repaired. So Paulie, go home and fix your marriage.
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Almost beyond repair isn't beyond repair. I bet you can do it if that's what you want. A good time to bring it up might be when she says something like that, and you can challenge how serious she is and discuss your actual feelings. I would recommend just doing it, but it sounds like that's not going to happen. Best of luck to you, regardless of what it is you choose do.
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Cut and go.
This woman does not have the same feelings as you have for her.
If you're in such an unhappy marriage, why don't you get a divorce? That's pretty selfish to remain in such a union.
This woman your "in love" with is being selfish too.
In short, it's time to move on.
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Pfff you really have no sense for when you should shut the fuck up and move on. I hardly see a post of you which is nice or useful. Always making fun of others and too often simply NOT funny, but just rude and not nice at all....it's really getting old.



You, should probably shut the fuck up.
How is someone to take you serious with you chiming in like that?