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Would you share what a friend told you privately in a Forum thread?

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On the "Ask the Guys" forum, a thread was recently started that I think opens the door to an interesting Lush ethics discussion.

In the thread, names were not mentioned - but details from private conversations were. And it appears there was no expressed request or permission to share the details publicly.

Maybe I'm naive... but I believe private communication (i.e. BB, email, etc.) comes with an expected level of privacy. That said, I also believe the person sharing anything has to make sure he/she does so with someone who they can trust. I think that is their responsibility - so for example, if they just meet someone and minutes later are sharing all sorts of private info... well... they shouldn't be surprised if that person goes blabbering about in public.

But... if the person they share with is considered a friend and has a level of trust, then I think it is the responsibility of the person receiving the private info to keep it private.

What do you think?

P.S. In writing this topic, I consulted with Dave and Fun - who both gave me permission to share what we discussed smile
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Quote by chatnstroke
On the "Ask the Guys" forum, a thread was recently started that I think opens the door to an interesting Lush ethics discussion.

In the thread, names were not mentioned - but details from private conversations were. And it appears there was no expressed request or permission to share the details publicly.

Maybe I'm naive... but I believe private communication (i.e. BB, email, etc.) comes with an expected level of privacy. That said, I also believe the person sharing anything has to make sure he/she does so with someone who they can trust. I think that is their responsibility - so for example, if they just meet someone and minutes later are sharing all sorts of private info... well... they shouldn't be surprised if that person goes blabbering about in public.

But... if the person they share with is considered a friend and has a level of trust, then I think it is the responsibility of the person receiving the private info to keep it private.

What do you think?

P.S. In writing this topic, I consulted with Dave and Fun - who both gave me permission to share what we discussed smile



You would think that it would be a no-brainer if they respect and want to maintain a frienship
Kiera
Short Arse Brit
Hey Chatty, Dave, Fun

No I absolutely would never betray a friends trust, and certianly not publicly in a forum.

Just goes to show really does it not that one must choose their friends wisely. Just because names were not mentioned doesnt mean it isnt a betrayal of trust. The friend(s) in question did not give their permission, it also seems to me had the OP wanted further information they could have just asked the friend(s) not disclose private information they gave for all to see.

Im sure it was easily identifiable to the friend(s) regardless of whether their names were mentioned that the information provided in the forum came from them, Im sure they are quite hurt and will certainly be more cautious with whom they trust in future.
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I think it's hard for some to keep their mouth shut, because they thrive on drama and attention.
ChuckEPoo
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Quote by chatnstroke
On the "Ask the Guys" forum, a thread was recently started that I think opens the door to an interesting Lush ethics discussion.

In the thread, names were not mentioned - but details from private conversations were. And it appears there was no expressed request or permission to share the details publicly.

Maybe I'm naive... but I believe private communication (i.e. BB, email, etc.) comes with an expected level of privacy. That said, I also believe the person sharing anything has to make sure he/she does so with someone who they can trust. I think that is their responsibility - so for example, if they just meet someone and minutes later are sharing all sorts of private info... well... they shouldn't be surprised if that person goes blabbering about in public.

But... if the person they share with is considered a friend and has a level of trust, then I think it is the responsibility of the person receiving the private info to keep it private.



What do you think?

P.S. In writing this topic, I consulted with Dave and Fun - who both gave me permission to share what we discussed smile



So you want to know about gossiping? A very destructive behavior that always leads to pain for someone.
Beffer
Rainbow Warrior
Never, especially if it was something about them in particular, or anyone in particular for that matter. I would hope everyone here feels that things shared between individuals in PM's should be treated with discretion.
trinket
Convict
This is the first and last time I'm going to comment on this whole ridiculous witch-hunt. I wouldn't have at all, but for the fact a bunch of lies has been posted about me.

For the record, this thread is about me starting a thread about cyber-dating. This had nothing whatsoever to do with you Chatty so I don't know why you posted this instead of your close friend, Kiera seeing as she has already expressed her disapproval of this in almost identical words on my original thread . Perhaps you could spend your time better going shopping for a pair of shorts. You seem to have forgotten to put them on. By accusing me of gossip, aren't you gossiping about me?

Here is the link to my original post in ask the guys and it too


https://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst40719_Cyberdates-Do-you-do-this.aspx
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Ladies please feel free to post your own experiences or thoughts with this, here.

Here is my opening post.

Recently 2 of my online girl friends have told me their cyber-partners "date" them. I had never heard of this before. One girl told me her online partner would send her an email telling her where he would be taking her for their "date". Links to pics of where they would be having dinner etc might be included in that. They would then meet online at a specific time. I don't think either couple use webcam so the fantasy remains just that. . Both my friends told me it's the guy who plans all this.

Do any of you guys do this? If you do can you tell me why? I have been at lush for two and a half years and this is the first time I've heard of this.

If you would feel more comfortable sending me a PM with your post please do. "


I did not poke fun of of any kind at this practice and even stated I was intrigued. I don't see any names , no particular details and nothing that would identify who the 2 people are.

You are enraged that I posted about something you told me, (2 very short sentences). If you are really so enraged WHY are you splashing your business all over the lush forums in more than one thread? Nobody would have known you told me you had a date. That was the extent of what you told me.

Kiera, you have already berated me via black box. I blocked you so you have no other way to gossip about me other than create a thread about me. You also berated me on behalf of the other friend I mentioned in my original post. We had already discussed it and sorted it out yet here you are trying to prolong it.

Your rage is far too intense for it to be about a little comment of mine. Something else bugging you? My friends know who and what I am and know I am a true friend. They also know what you are...

Now, how about we all stop wasting the moderators time, (I'm sure they're watching this thread) and go do something constructive!!

Oh, p.s. There are over 250 000 members here. If anyone here could have guessed who the two were from my original post, I take my hat off to you.

Post edited to correct a couple of things.
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Quote by trinket



Just trying to understand your answer to the thread's question... are you saying: it's ok to do if no names are mentioned and it would be difficult to guess who it was?

Your thread that you mentioned was certainly the genesis for this thread - which is why, for full disclosure, I posted a mention of this thread in your thread.

My thread - this thread - was posing a ethics question on the broader topic - as I do BB, email, etc., I am curious how others think about the privacy of such communication.

But yes - without question and with full disclosure per my post in your thread - your thread was the idea starter for this thread.

Ok... think I just said thread 22 times... anyhow... I do appreciate the advice on what to do with my time - I did just go buy some shorts - and have retaken my AV pic and have updated it... amazing how sweet clear plastic shorts feel smile
Dani
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Honestly, I don't know what it is about this particular group of people (you know who you are) and making public spectacles of themselves.

This is an ADULT site. Why is it that a bunch of adult men and women cannot take their internet beef away from the public eye? All of this could have easily been solved with a few PMs. If you couldn't have worked things out that way, a simple block would have done the trick. Or you could simply avoid each other being that the lot of you bring out the worst in each other. Perhaps that may be asking too much of those that thrive on drama.

For a great length of time now, people have been privy to your ridiculous public disputes as well as your subliminal messages to each other. There is a place for all of this nonsense, and it is NOT the public forum. It's old and stale, as well as tiresome and a complete waste of time.

I don't wanna see anymore of your playground antics on the forum. Period.

Find another litter box.

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