Hi all,
Just writing to make myself heard.U see I have just found out that I love cock rather than pussy, I wonder if any of u guys are in the same predicament and what can be done about it?????
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Divine Rapscallion
Hi, rondel, and welcome to Lush! I see in your profile that you are married, so realizing now that you are gay could certainly create a predicament in your marriage. Is your wife aware of your sexual orientation?
How to handle it is such an individual and private matter, you need to decide what is best for you in your situation. Here is a basic guide to coming out with tips that might be helpful:
http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/a/Coming-Out.htm
Best of luck to you.
How to handle it is such an individual and private matter, you need to decide what is best for you in your situation. Here is a basic guide to coming out with tips that might be helpful:
http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/a/Coming-Out.htm
Best of luck to you.
Maggie R
Divine Rapscallion
Quote by bigguns
its not really a predicament
wrong choice of words buddy
but happy national coming out day just the same
Here's some good advice, buddy...it might seem vaguely familiar.
Quote by nicola
Maybe in future, spend 5 minutes thinking about a) is this a subject you have any experience in whatsoever b) did you think carefully about your reply, before pressing the submit button - and only then, join in.
Maggie R
Quote by magnificent1rascal
Quote by bigguns
its not really a predicament
wrong choice of words buddy
but happy national coming out day just the same
Here's some good advice, buddy...it might seem vaguely familiar.
Quote by nicola
Maybe in future, spend 5 minutes thinking about a) is this a subject you have any experience in whatsoever b) did you think carefully about your reply, before pressing the submit button - and only then, join in.
as a matter of fact i have loads of experience in this subject:
i took the minutes i really did i actually came back to this forum. him calling being gay a predicament really ticked me off it is just like my best friends parents calling it a disease before kicking him out of their house. being gay is not a problem or a disease it may be inconvenient in a marriage but if it is truly the way he feels then it is not a predicament as he so offensively put it. i would be more than happy to discuss my reasons for considering his description offensive with you in private but this is not the place. please follow up with me in PM if you wish
happy national coming out day everyone
Divine Rapscallion
What about the second part of the good advice, Bigguns? Did you think carefully about your reply, before pressing the submit button - and only then, join in?
Did you look at the OP's profile to see what personal circumstances might make realizing he's gay seem like a predicament to him?
Are you aware that the word predicament simply means difficult situation?
Do you own a dictionary or thesaurus?
Did you look at the OP's profile to see what personal circumstances might make realizing he's gay seem like a predicament to him?
Are you aware that the word predicament simply means difficult situation?
Do you own a dictionary or thesaurus?
Maggie R
Quote by magnificent1rascal
What about the second part of the good advice, Bigguns? Did you think carefully about your reply, before pressing the submit button - and only then, join in?
Did you look at the OP's profile to see what personal circumstances might make realizing he's gay seem like a predicament to him?
Are you aware that the word predicament simply means difficult situation?
Do you own a dictionary or thesaurus?
no i do not (other than a medical dictionary) but i am perfectly capable of searching thesaurus.com and dictionary.com: the definition they provide is: an unpleasantly difficult, perplexing, or dangerous situation. for the word. i simply stated that i disagreed with his word choice. in no way is being gay a dangerous situation (unless you are being bullied). if i were married and discovered i was gay i would be more sensitive and say something like. Help! i am just now realizing i am gay but i am married to a woman does anyone have any advice.-- see that was fine right?
i did read his profile and i did not want to make the assumption that he was married to a woman as you seemed so comfortable doing. this is an issue close to my heart and i would like a little more sensitivity for it in the world today so when i see injustice you can be damn sure i will call someone on it!
happy coming out day everyone
Matriarch
Bigguns - this thread is NOT about YOU. Stop butting into threads and trying to increase your profile here. The more you post, the more people are irritated by you, not only me, the site owner, but also the moderators and a significant number of members. Since you do not take subtle hints very well, I've spelled it out for you.
The OP can choose any words he wants, it's HIS predicament, not yours. The fact that you have issues with that word, is precisely that - YOUR issue. Arguing the toss over semantics makes you look like an insensitive fool.
Rondel, apologies. I hope everything works out well for you
The OP can choose any words he wants, it's HIS predicament, not yours. The fact that you have issues with that word, is precisely that - YOUR issue. Arguing the toss over semantics makes you look like an insensitive fool.
Rondel, apologies. I hope everything works out well for you
yes for the most part i am in the wrong when i post i will admit that. this is not one of those times. i posted because i saw something that made me angry i am not one to sit idly by and be irritated. as you have pointed out most people here aren't either. i irritate them, they irritate me and your moderator forums explode with anger because of me (which i am sorry about). one of the things i love about this site is all of the strong personalities on here (myself included). however, that more often than not leads to anger and resentment. it doesn't just happen with me. i have read plenty of forums where new people come in make an ass out of themselves and then the veterans attack. more often than not the new people retreat. i am sorry rondel if i made you feel unwelcome. i am not one of those retreating new people and that may be why i am making so many people irritated. having a strong personality is a good thing. especially when it comes to important things like this. i am not afraid to lose friends over voicing my ideas. if a people un friend me here i will not be upset. it will not be the first time i grew distant with someone because of a misunderstanding.
Dear Forum Mods ....
Can't you clean up the mess??
I find I am no longer amused at Bigguns self-centeredness nor his inability to filter. A few times, you just shake you head, now he is attempting to take over threads and focus whatever on himself.
I speak for a few, his ways are condescending and distasteful.
Thanks!
Yahtzee
EDIT: this should have been a positive thread for someone taking the HUGE step in being authentic. I applaud Rondel and all who are true to themselves.
Can't you clean up the mess??
I find I am no longer amused at Bigguns self-centeredness nor his inability to filter. A few times, you just shake you head, now he is attempting to take over threads and focus whatever on himself.
I speak for a few, his ways are condescending and distasteful.
Thanks!
Yahtzee
EDIT: this should have been a positive thread for someone taking the HUGE step in being authentic. I applaud Rondel and all who are true to themselves.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by rondel
Hi all,
Just writing to make myself heard.U see I have just found out that I love cock rather than pussy, I wonder if any of u guys are in the same predicament and what can be done about it?????
The best thing you can do is just be honest - with yourself and with your wife. You never know, it may not be a predicament, it may be an exciting new adventure for you and your wife just as you described in your blog. If not, it is better to end the marriage now before anyone gets hurt.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by rondel
Hi all,
Just writing to make myself heard.U see I have just found out that I love cock rather than pussy, I wonder if any of u guys are in the same predicament and what can be done about it?????
Welcome to the forums Rondel. Coming out can be difficult. I know people who feel that they cannot come out, because they live in cultures that are largely intolerant towards gay people, or because they are in straight relationships. I hope you find the support you need to be able to do so, and be yourself. As for what can be done about it, I think you need to do what is best for yourself. Good Luck!
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yes for the most part i am in the wrong when i post i will admit that. this is not one of those times. i posted because i saw something that made me angry i am not one to sit idly by and be irritated. as you have pointed out most people here aren't either. i irritate them, they irritate me and your moderator forums explode with anger because of me (which i am sorry about). one of the things i love about this site is all of the strong personalities on here (myself included). however, that more often than not leads to anger and resentment. it doesn't just happen with me. i have read plenty of forums where new people come in make an ass out of themselves and then the veterans attack. more often than not the new people retreat. i am sorry rondel if i made you feel unwelcome. i am not one of those retreating new people and that may be why i am making so many people irritated. having a strong personality is a good thing. especially when it comes to important things like this. i am not afraid to lose friends over voicing my ideas. if a people un friend me here i will not be upset. it will not be the first time i grew distant with someone because of a misunderstanding.
Good god Bigguns, did you not learn about punctuation, sentence structure, grammar etc?
It really gives me such a damned headache reading your posts, not just because they are pig-headed, coarse and self-centred, but because you give the impression that you don't stop to take breath, let alone think about what you are posting!
Rondel has started a forum thread, looking for, I assume, advice and support and all you can do is pick holes in his choice of vocabulary!!
I have to say that I think that you, of all people, have a damned cheek, not to mention being completely insensitive to someone's needs.
I can only hope that your bedside manner improves as your medical training progresses.
I despair, I really do...
Quote by mazzaQuote by bigguns
yes for the most part i am in the wrong when i post i will admit that. this is not one of those times. i posted because i saw something that made me angry i am not one to sit idly by and be irritated. as you have pointed out most people here aren't either. i irritate them, they irritate me and your moderator forums explode with anger because of me (which i am sorry about). one of the things i love about this site is all of the strong personalities on here (myself included). however, that more often than not leads to anger and resentment. it doesn't just happen with me. i have read plenty of forums where new people come in make an ass out of themselves and then the veterans attack. more often than not the new people retreat. i am sorry rondel if i made you feel unwelcome. i am not one of those retreating new people and that may be why i am making so many people irritated. having a strong personality is a good thing. especially when it comes to important things like this. i am not afraid to lose friends over voicing my ideas. if a people un friend me here i will not be upset. it will not be the first time i grew distant with someone because of a misunderstanding.
Good god Bigguns, did you not learn about punctuation, sentence structure, grammar etc?
It really gives me such a damned headache reading your posts, not just because they are pig-headed, coarse and self-centred, but because you give the impression that you don't stop to take breath, let alone think about what you are posting!
Rondel has started a forum thread, looking for, I assume, advice and support and all you can do is pick holes in his choice of vocabulary!!
I have to say that I think that you, of all people, have a damned cheek, not to mention being completely insensitive to someone's needs.
I can only hope that your bedside manner improves as your medical training progresses.
I despair, I really do...
Seriously, it is driving me to distraction. Agree with all your other points as well!!
Rondel, good luck with whatever you do, and welcome to the forums. I think that the link that magnificent posted has some very useful information in it.
well rondel my sincerest apologies for exploding this forum earlier. my inflammatory posts have since been removed. i would like to respond to your question with another question. you ask if their is anything you can do and what i want to know is if you mean how can i pick up guys or how can i get this feeling to go away. based on your original post language you seem unsure whether it is a good thing to be gay. i am here to tell you that it can be a wonderful thing. my best friend loves his life and everything about it he has told me so numerous times. i hope that if my assessment is right, and you are not at peace with your new found sexual, orientation that you may soon find happiness with who you are. i may not have been welcoming at first but if you have any questions whatsoever you can PM me anytime and i will respond or even pass your questions onto my GBFF (gay best friend lol) cheers and happy national coming out day (at least it is here in the US)
Internet Sensation
Hi,
welcome to lushstories and I have an advice where you can find people here at the site to talk about this:
The chat room: The Mens Room
There are usually very kind men around there willing to talk about things like this (so I've heard) or other things.
I hope you'll get to enjoy many cocks, I must admit I'm more of a cock person myself.zqFdx8SprlTFaUDt
welcome to lushstories and I have an advice where you can find people here at the site to talk about this:
The chat room: The Mens Room
There are usually very kind men around there willing to talk about things like this (so I've heard) or other things.
I hope you'll get to enjoy many cocks, I must admit I'm more of a cock person myself.zqFdx8SprlTFaUDt
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I do wonder what you mean by "just found out". Was it an epiphany, or a drawn out realization?
I personally believe that sexual preference (or whatever a person calls it) is decided at birth, and that it is something that doesn't change.
Still, best of luck to you.
I personally believe that sexual preference (or whatever a person calls it) is decided at birth, and that it is something that doesn't change.
Still, best of luck to you.
Active Ink Slinger
I think FtLM is right, in saying sexual preference is decided at birth, but I can understand lying to oneself because of all the outside influences. I think ithe important thing you ned to do, before "coming out" is be certain about yourself. I have several friends who "came out" and destroyed some relationships, only to discover they weren't strictly one-sided, and were really bi-sexual. UNfortunately, because they had made positive, definitive statements, they had "painted themselves into a corner". They went through considerable pain and agnst, because of that. I can think of people I wish that on, but I don't know you well enugh to dislike you that much, so I simply suggest, be really sure of yourself. ANd I wish you well.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
Quote by FtLMale
I do wonder what you mean by "just found out". Was it an epiphany, or a drawn out realization?
I personally believe that sexual preference (or whatever a person calls it) is decided at birth, and that it is something that doesn't change.
Still, best of luck to you.
Actually many people believe (or would like to believe) that it is a choice and they can go back when they want. Personally i believe that i was born gay (and if you look at baby pics of me you will too) however, not everyone does.
Wild at Heart
My heart goes out to all the young gay people out there that are still in the closet. Coming out must be one of the toughest things a human can do. I remember having a really hard time telling my parents whenever I was suspended from school... I'd make up some bullshit. Just Imagining having to to tell my dad I was gay at age 15 makes me want to have a fucking panic attack.
Quote by Magical_felix
My heart goes out to all the young gay people out there that are still in the closet. Coming out must be one of the toughest things a human can do. I remember having a really hard time telling my parents whenever I was suspended from school... I'd make up some bullshit. Just Imagining having to to tell my dad I was gay at age 15 makes me want to have a fucking panic attack.
I was so young when i did it i just did it and didn't really think about it. Well i paid for that mistake (haven't talked to my parents in 12 years) My hear goes out too. I have around five friends or so who haven't come out to anyone but me. Everyday i try to support them to come out to their community.
Quote by RicoGQuote by Magical_felix
My heart goes out to all the young gay people out there that are still in the closet. Coming out must be one of the toughest things a human can do. I remember having a really hard time telling my parents whenever I was suspended from school... I'd make up some bullshit. Just Imagining having to to tell my dad I was gay at age 15 makes me want to have a fucking panic attack.
I was so young when i did it i just did it and didn't really think about it. Well i paid for that mistake (haven't talked to my parents in 12 years) My hear goes out too. I have around five friends or so who haven't come out to anyone but me. Everyday i try to support them to come out to their community.
really..... who give me the names bro. LOL
i know you would never betray their trust especially on a public forum..... SO txt me!
lol JK
Internet Philosopher
Quote by FtLMale
I do wonder what you mean by "just found out". Was it an epiphany, or a drawn out realization?
I personally believe that sexual preference (or whatever a person calls it) is decided at birth, and that it is something that doesn't change.
Still, best of luck to you.
I don't know if sexual preference is always decided at birth. It might be, but I remain unsure. If someone had suggested gay sex to me a year earlier then I tried it, I can't say for certain it would have interested me. I would not have been scandalized, but it hadn't been a dark desire.
To me it was something I tried almost on an impulse and the discovery that I enjoyed it so much was something of a surprise. I believe we should not limit our love or our quest for fulfillment.
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