I'm 42 and I still can't drive, seems like I never will

I'm 42 and I still can't drive, seems like I never will. People call me lazy for being 42 and not driving. I received over 30 hours of driving lessons in 2003 , on an automatic car, and I sucked so much the driving teachers had to rotate with each other for each session, as I "stressed them out" (they may have feared for their life too, now that I think about it) , so I stopped. The faces the instructors made were not only discouraging, but desperate. And I felt worse every day, because I never progressed in classes, I made the same mistakes.

I don't see the point in trying again. I feel like I would be a real danger on the road, so it's better for anyone if I just don't. My husband is driving me around or i am using an uber. I think it’s for the better I don’t wanna be a danger for others.

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I'm 42 and I still can't drive, seems like I never will...

I feel like I would be a real danger on the road, so it's better for anyone if I just don't. My husband is driving me around or i am using an uber. I think it’s for the better I don’t wanna be a danger for others

Probably a good idea if you don’t get behind the wheel. I had a cousin who was the same way. When she got in the drivers' seat she lost confidence and made bad decisions. She died from COVID in 2020 at 77 and never learned to drive.

60, never been interested and seen more of the world than most. There are plenty of more fun ways to be permanently broke.

My mother (died at 58) never learned. She was a housewife while we were little and when she went back to working outside the home, it was reachable by transit. But she was also of another generation where women were generally less likely to drive. My aunt (Dad's little sister) didn't, either. I imagine there's more pressure on women to learn nowadays. My daughter-in-law was late learning (after she married my son at 22) but she did eventually learn.

But really, if you can get everywhere you need to go by Uber or transit or something, I don't see it as a necessity. I will probably drop one of our two cars when I retire and don't need to commute anymore. If my wife needs the car, I have other ways to get around.

Then you probably shouldn’t. Unfortunately we’ve built a society that’s overdependent on driving, but if you’ve managed this long, looks like you’ve got it figured out well enough. And as you've said in other threads, money's not an issue, so apparently the cost of Uber isn't a problem.

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Unfortunately we’ve built a society that’s overdependent on driving

Yeah, having been to societies that are less so (a lot of Europe and Asia), I kind of hate this aspect of ours. I would love to take transit to work but it would literally take me three buses with associated lags for transfers. Probably an hour at least while I can do it in 20-25 minutes driving. Even my son's old high school, which I can drive to in probably 10 minutes, took him like half an hour and a transfer to get home by bus. I drove him to school during those years since I pass it on my way to work. If I lost my license or car for some reason, I'd probably be making Uber quite rich.

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Then you probably shouldn’t. Unfortunately we’ve built a society that’s overdependent on driving, but if you’ve managed this long, looks like you’ve got it figured out well enough. And as you've said in other threads, money's not an issue, so apparently the cost of Uber isn't a problem.

I have so many fears when it comes to operating a car and being on the road.

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Then you probably shouldn’t. Unfortunately we’ve built a society that’s overdependent on driving, but if you’ve managed this long, looks like you’ve got it figured out well enough. And as you've said in other threads, money's not an issue, so apparently the cost of Uber isn't a problem.

Plus i have social anxiety so the thought of communicating with other drivers via eye contact and gestures is horrifying to me.

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60, never been interested and seen more of the world than most. There are plenty of more fun ways to be permanently broke.

Thanks for your response. Honestly i am used to not driving. LOL

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Plus i have social anxiety so the thought of communicating with other drivers via eye contact and gestures is horrifying to me.

You use your automotive lights for that not eye contact or gestures

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Thanks for your response. Honestly i am used to not driving. LOL

I realised fairly early on it wasn't for me. In my late teens/ early twenties, friends were all finding out how much it cost to run a car and what that meant. Me? I was living out of a rucksack, seeing the world and experiencing things that have stayed with me for a lifetime. One of my better decisions!

I'm 47 and don't drive either. Don't really have any desire to.

Okay, what solutions have been tried in this scenario? What are the weak areas that need to be worked on? Also, how would you rate your own coachability on a 1 to 10 scale?