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Hi I am married and both myself and my husband love sex. My husband is away quite a bit with work. My question is this.Is it cheating to have online sex,or is it only termed cheating if penetrative sex? Just wondered what people think. Thanks Alice x
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Its cheating if your partner doesn't know about it .
techgoddess
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Different people will answer that in many different ways. I had to do a double take though, as I am a red-haired, bi female whose husband travels all the time for work (which sucks since we also both love sex). I thought for a moment that I created an alter ego while sleepwalking. LOL.

Seriously, my own opinion is make sure your partner knows what you are up to, otherwise it can damage your relationship. But I can't speak for everyone. Just my humble opinion.

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Everyone has different dynamics at what works for them. In my opinion if you have to lie and keep it a secret then you are being DISHONEST and CHEATING
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In my long married life, prior to wife's passing, we had one rule...LYING IS CHEATING... that's it ...if you have to lie, you are cheating...
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I married. I, occasionally, play around online. My wife is aware of it and ok with it. If she had an issue with it, I would stop. If you're open and honest about it and you both decide it's not cheating, than it's not cheating. If you're doing it in secret, than, obviously, you're pretty sure that your partner won't be ok with it, in which case it is cheating. it's different for everyone.

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I totally agree, if you have to hide it your cheating. Ask yourself, how would you feel if it was him, would you feel he was cheating? Maybe talk to him, ask him how he would feel about it, He might surprise you. Wish you the best of luck. hard situation to be in.
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I totally agree, if you have to hide it your cheating. Ask yourself, how would you feel if it was him, would you feel he was cheating? Maybe talk to him, ask him how he would feel about it, He might surprise you. Wish you the best of luck. hard situation to be in.


That's it, exactly. Open relationships are fine as long as the parameters are agreed upon by both in the relationship.

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Hi I am married and both myself and my husband love sex. My husband is away quite a bit with work. My question is this. Is it cheating to have online sex, or is it only termed cheating if penetrative sex? Just wondered what people think. Thanks, Alice x


My husband said before we married that he would never dream of denying me girlfriends. That I didn't have one until recently was my issue. He doesn't know about Lush, even though he has benefitted from my improved mental state. If he wants to know what I do online he will ask, but I am acting within our agreement. He did not ask to meet my girlfriend, but I brought her home once. If I reach the point where I am considering sex with a man I will discuss it with my husband first.

So, Alice, I think that more important than is it cheating is are you lying.

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Meagananne1986
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I struggled with this one for a long time. I've been on Lush for a couple of years now. Started mainly as a platform on which to write stories. Since then, haven't gotten to know a lot more people that I wouldn't of met in the real world.

I struggled because the one thing that has defined me sexually is that I need commitment from my partner. I've never had sex outside of a committed relationship. I've been very fortunate in that regard and have enjoyed five of the six men in my life and we are still good friends - I married the sixth. (The third was in college and although I thought we had a committed relationship, after he bedded me, I just disappeared from my life. Found out he was a trophy hunter. He pursued girls who were reluctant or hard to bed.)

I love sex, but for it to be satisfying for me, I need the emotional attachment as well as the physical. I doubt I'd enjoy sex as much as I do, if it were simply fucking rather than making love.

That said, I have always wanted my friends to be honest, open and truthful. My then boyfriend (now husband) knows I'm on Lush and correspond with a lot of the men and women I meet here. However, he also knows me well enough to know that I'd never stray or be unfaithful to him in real life. He understands that Lush is just a sexual social media site. So neither of us considers it cheating although some might construe it that way. As long as you're both OK with Lush, then being a Lush member isn't cheating.