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John Deaux
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Alabama, Alabama, United States
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28 Jul 2017 05:17
Nothing special.. I like the same things everyone else does. Movies, music, sports, sex...
Favorite Books:
I don't get the opportunity to read very much. I love to read, but with two kids it's hard to get enough quiet time to do it.
Favorite Authors:
Too many to list.. although the last book I read was by Wally Lamb.... I Know This Much Is True. Great book.. I'll definitely have to read more of his stuff.
Favorite Movies:
The Hangover, Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, Glory, Intimacy, Love Actually, lots and lots more.
Favorite Music:
I like most music. The only thing I don't really like is rap, just not my thing. Well, I don't really care for polka music either. hahahaa


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Topic: Intersex Surgery On Infants And Children
Posted: 25 Jul 2017 08:30

What is the point of giving us the link if you're going to copy and paste the entire article? Post the link and share your opinion, but please don't engage in an act of borderline plagiarism.

Borderline plagiarism? I never claimed or even hinted that I wrote this. Posted link plus posted the article for sake of ease. The article that has (AP) right at the beginning, showing it's an AP article?

I thought it was an interesting article and wanted to share. Nothing more.

Topic: Intersex Surgery On Infants And Children
Posted: 25 Jul 2017 06:49

Pressure Mounts To End Intersex Surgery

NEW YORK (AP) — Children whose sexual characteristics don't neatly align with the norm have for decades faced surgery to rearrange their anatomy to resemble that of more typical boys and girls — long before they were old enough to have a say in the decision.

But now the practice is under assault, as never before. The American Medical Association is considering a proposal discouraging it. Three former U.S. surgeons general say it's unjustified. And on Tuesday, Human Rights Watch and InterACT a group advocating for intersex youth — are releasing a detailed report assailing the practice and urging Congress to ban it.

"The results are often catastrophic," says the report, asserting that the surgeries "can inflict irreversible physical and psychological harm."

"The pressure to fit in and live a 'normal' life is real," said Kyle Knight, a Human Rights Watch researcher who wrote the report. "But there is no evidence that surgery delivers on the promise of making that easier."

One of multiple reasons for the concern: Some intersex children may undergo surgery aimed at assigning them as male or female, yet grow up to identify as the other sex — a potentially traumatic situation.

Intersex is an umbrella term encompassing various conditions in which internal sex organs and external genitalia develop differently than for a typical boy or girl. Experts say roughly one of every 2,000 newborns has so-called differences of sex development that might prompt a doctor's recommendation for surgery or other medical intervention.

Internationally, there's been vocal opposition to such surgeries. In 2015, they were condemned by several United Nations agencies, and Malta became the first country to ban them.

Major U.S. medical associations haven't gone that far, but the Human Rights Watch/InterACT report urges them to toughen their policies. The American Academy of Pediatrics says it's reviewing the issue, and wants parents to understand the risks and benefits of any course of action. The AMA's Board of Trustees is proposing a new policy statement urging doctors to defer intersex surgery on infants and young children "except when life-threatening circumstances require emergency intervention."

Adding to the momentum was a statement in June from former surgeons general Joycelyn Elders, David Satcher and Richard Carmona, who said the surgery "is not justified absent a need to ensure physical functioning," they wrote. "We hope that professionals and parents who face this difficult decision will heed the growing consensus that the practice should stop."

There are no comprehensive statistics on intersex surgeries. The new report says most of the 21 health professionals who were interviewed suggested that medically unnecessary surgeries were becoming less common, but none said their clinic had stopped doing them altogether.

Even as the new report was being compiled, it came under fire from the CARES Foundation , which advocates on behalf of families with children born with abnormal genitalia due to a condition called congenital adrenal hyperplasia, or CAH.

Girls with this condition sometimes undergo reconstructive surgery, often to reduce the size of the clitoris. The foundation, which has more than 20 physicians as advisers, asserted that the new report represents an unwarranted attempt to eliminate that option.

"The choices available to parents and patients should not be limited," the foundation said. "Medical decisions are difficult enough for parents without having to contend with the moral and philosophical agendas of certain movements."

The new report includes input from an unidentified 20-year-old woman with CAH who said she was glad her parents made her "look like all the other girls" her age when she was growing up.

However, Kyle Knight said there's no evidence that this type of abnormal genitalia poses a health threat.

"There are limits to what parents can do to their kids," he said. "Medically unnecessary irreversible surgery that carries a risk of lifelong harm should be one of those things."

For families with intersex children, one welcome development has been the formation of specialized teams at some hospitals that address a wide range of physical and psychological concerns.

Among the acclaimed programs is the SOAR Clinic, created in 2012 at Children's Hospital Colorado near Denver. Its team — which includes specialists in urology, genetics, psychology and other fields — develops an individualized treatment plan for each family, and encourages parents to participate in decision-making.

The issue of surgery for infants and young children is one of the toughest facing the team.

"These are really difficult, challenging decisions," said Dr. Jennifer Barker, who specializes in hormonal and glandular complications affecting children. "We've seen families decide to move forward to surgery, and some who choose not to."

Barker guessed that most of the team's physicians would feel unduly restricted by a ban, even as early surgery becomes less common.

The clinic deploys intersex people as patient advocates who can offer support based on personal experience. The most active volunteer is 40-year-old Noi Liang.

At birth, Liang appeared to be a normal baby girl. As she grew older, doctors discovered that — because of a rare chromosome condition — she lacked a uterus, and had internal testes rather than ovaries. When she was a teenager, doctors removed the testes, telling her they were removing potentially cancerous ovaries. Not until her early 30s did she discover the truth.

As a patient advocate, she sees parents worrying whether their children will be accepted by their peers.

"Isolation is a big piece of what they struggle with — they feel like there's no one else to talk to," Liang said. "They say it gives them a feeling of relief to speak with someone like me who more fully understands what they and their children are going through."

Several parents of intersex children have become activists, advocating against early surgery. Among them is Dr. Arlene Baratz, a Pittsburgh-based radiologist with two adult daughters born with the same condition as Liang.

"If there is a secret to raising healthy children," Baratz contends, "it is to accept and focus on what they are, instead of what they're not."

Topic: The Age of Un-Enlightenment
Posted: 24 Jul 2017 09:10

In this day and age, having a college degree is definitely a huge advantage. There are way more available opportunities to someone who barely got his General Studies degree than there are to some other intelligent person without one. That doesn't mean those same folks think it's "uncool" or "undesirable" to know how to read.

Your own comment later negates that theory... "But I know what you red state rednecks think about higher education. You are probably picturing a bunch of privileged white kids decked out in man-buns and jean shorts, sitting around a drum circle smoking weed and bitching about “safe spaces” in between philosophy classes. Am I right? " I do agree that this assessment is probably the picture that this 58% is talking about, that college is doing more (or less?) than educating someone for a degree/career as "doctors, nurses, teachers, dentists, accountants, architects, engineers". So, which is it? Do the 58% think being able to read is uncool or do they think college is bad because of man-buns, drums, weed, and safe spaces?

I mean, if these Lynyrd Skynyrd loving rednecks truly believed that knowing how to read is uncool or undesirable, none of them would send their kids to kindergarten, much less college.

Also, let's not confuse uneducated with unintelligent. They aren't necessarily synonymous. Hell, several times a week, I see teachers on facebook post all sorts of things with terrible/incorrect grammar and spelling. For all those doctors, nurses, teachers, dentists, accountants, etc..., they all have unlearned guys building their houses, plumbers, electricians, brick layers doing stuff for them. Not to mention all the other skilled labor out there. Welders, pipe fitters, crane operators... all these people know how to read and have lots of practical knowledge. They aren't any more or less dumb than the general population.

Knowing many of these types of people, I (and I'm sure you, too) know that most of those parents DO want a better life for their kids. Most of those laborers, and even the non degreed clerical/office type workers, want something better for their kids. They want them to go to college and better their lives and situations. Are there some mine workers that want little Johnny to join them in the mines? Probably. Do they all think that way? Probably not.

I'm down with a well educated populace, but that doesn't mean everyone should be able to recite Robert Frost. Some of those folks can be educated with practical knowledge like framing a house, safely moving heavy equipment, building bridges, farming/agriculture, working on utility poles and electricity, etc.

Whether or not education should be subsidized, that's a whole other debate.

The real economic death sentence is when a person isn't educated AND has no skill (and an unwillingness to learn) to turn a screw, float sheet rock, or install a fixture. Add in not even having a high school diploma or an ability to speak/deal with others, and you can't work in sales or other fields that require one-to-one interaction.

Topic: Purpose of Humility?
Posted: 30 Jun 2017 06:51

To me, being humble is a healthy attitude. Everyone has that one thing or things that they do better than most other people. It's okay to be proud of your abilities, but it crosses the line when you expect those abilities to garner you extra special attention and/or excuses you from crappy behavior. There's also fake humility, like when an athlete wins and award and wants to "thank God for giving me the ability... blah blah blah".

Mariah Carey comes to mind for the recent shots she's taken for her behavior while filming The House with Will Ferrell and Amy Poehler. She lacked so much humility, she's not even in the movie.

Being humble or not.. it's like American Idol. The contestants that are talking all kinds of smack... talking about how great they are and they're going to blow the judges away and they've been singing all their lives and everyone LOVES the way they sing. Then you have the people that are thankful for the chance to sing and audition, they're incredibly nervous and respectful of the judges. Usually.. the big mouths SUCK!!!!! While the humble ones kick ass.

Topic: Gay Men Touching Boobs For The First Time lol
Posted: 19 Jun 2017 10:31

Straight dudes touch penis for first time.

Topic: Gay Men Touching Boobs For The First Time lol
Posted: 19 Jun 2017 10:16

and vagina for the first time...

Topic: Gay Men Touching Boobs For The First Time lol
Posted: 19 Jun 2017 10:12


Topic: Weird things about about people's bodies.
Posted: 19 Jun 2017 07:49

People explain the weird things about their bodies

Some really fascinating things here. Of course, for Lush, #7 is interesting. For anyone into golden showers, it's twice the fun. Wonder if he gets double barreled cumshots too?

Topic: watching wife cum on strange cock
Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:23

Yet another prospective new paying customer run off by the welcoming committee. Here yesterday, gone today.

Imagine if you joined a club and the first time you opened your mouth, the members mocked you. Would you go back?
Think if you went to a church for the first time, and the regulars there jumped your shit the first time you made a comment. What would you think of those members? How badly would you trash that church as a whole?
Imagine if you went to a new high school and the cool kids teased you for your clothes or outfit or accent, would you feel welcome there?

Lush is a great place, I've enjoyed my time here, but sometimes we can be really fucking mean. Especially to newcomers that don't know the "unspoken" rules of the forum. What is gained by being so cruel for no good reason? And really, that's what it is.. undeserved cruelty. I'm not talking about some new dude joining and throwing his dick around in a chat room or sending dick pics to unsuspecting women. He posted about a kink that lots of folks have. On a site devoted to kinks. The horror!

There was a time when Sprite would welcome new members posting on forum. She'd thank them for joining, and if the newcomer's post was questionable, she'd politely suggest they roam around and get a feel for the place. I think Lush needs more of that again. Seems like we'd get a lot more members that way than by virtually pointing and snickering... look at the new moron, he's so dumb. Not exactly welcoming.

Topic: More Attacks
Posted: 07 Jun 2017 05:48

I work in London. Sadly ID cards and Stop and Search are highly unlikely to have stopped this attack. It does however appear that closer monitoring of the individual twice previously reported to the authorities might have stopped it, But with 23,000 individuals on the police radar, I don't know. Some extraordinary stories of bravery.
Condolences to all those affected, whatever their religion or nationality.
We do stand tall. We do stay calm. We do carry on.

I'm not sure that stopping (profiling) random people and asking for ID and searching them is the answer, but I think it's something to be at least discussed. Whether or not it would have stopped this attack is unknown. Stop and Search, if employed, may have stopped one or more of the attackers from even being there that night. They could have been detained a day or a week before. Who knows. A Stop and Search plan is a longer term solution, than it is a short term just pre-attack solution.

At this point, authorities should be open to discussing all possibilities. We've been saying for a long time, people need to get involved and report anything suspicious. Well, people did get involved and they did report, nothing was done. Reporting someone does no good, if there's no follow through by those who receive the reports.

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