Here's one from last year, said to me while ON a formal date.
"Well, yes, technically I AM married. Why... does that bother you? I wasn't trying to hide it, but you just never asked."
(and no, he was not wearing a ring).
on the SECOND date:
"I hope you don't mind, but I invited my parents to have lunch with us. I wanted to introduce you to them".
I then went back to his house and found a picture of me, framed, and sitting on his fireplace mantle. Again... this was our second date. I had to pick my jaw up off the ground.
I've heard a lot of women say that they link a full head of hair on a man with sexual virility and attraction. We all know there are many products geared towards men who have receding hairlines or are losing their hair. Of course, personality and love will override everything if you're in an established relationship and a guy starts losing his hair, in the same way that you're supposed to be able to overlook your significant other gaining a few pounds.
But my question to the ladies is... if you were set up on a blind date with a guy, or when you first look at a man... would it make a difference to you if he was balding in terms of your immediate sexual attraction to him and/or desire to enter into a potentially long-term relationship?
I'm sure the age of the people answering this thread will factor into their feelings, but I'm just wondering how much of a difference (if at all) it makes to the beautiful ladies of Lush in terms of first impressions.
I agree with the other posters.
He's not afraid of his feelings...
He's afraid of being alone.
He'd rather have you in his life at this point, but doesn't want to give you false hope or seal any kind of verbal commitments that will get him into trouble if/when he decides to bail again. If he can't say it, he doesn't feel it. That's just the truth. We (as women) tend to make all kinds of emo-excuses as to why he just can't utter those words, but the reality is he just wants to have fun with you, with no strings attached.
If you want to 'get back together' with him, I'd suggest you tell him that you only want to casually date at this point and definitely keep your eyes open for other opportunities. Also, please don't believe the drunken "I love you" he might say in panic one night when he realizes you're not totally invested in him. It's a manipulative (temporary) tactic at best.
have all the money I'd ever need... (I wouldn't want to know the future, even if I could).
Fall in love with your soulmate or win a $1 million lottery?
I think that every woman will be different, and there are many who will appreciate the "strong, silent type" or the guy who is an excellent listener, so don't lose faith. There are some women out there who will be happy with this.
For me, personally, it's a turn-off, but I'm a highly communicative person and pretty outgoing, so one my greatest turn-ons is a guy who has something to say and knows how to say it. I dated a quiet guy once (we did a lot of active, sporty things together to distract from the fact that there was nothing to say), but I quickly lost interest. My brain is often going a mile a minute and I need someone who can interact with me on an equal level.
If someone isn't able to hold their own in a conversation, then the other person just ends up talking about themselves constantly... which is great at first if you have an exhibitionistic personality, but pretty frustrating in the long run.
Maybe you should just work on opening up more and becoming a more skilled conversationalist... when it becomes easier, you'll probably find that you enjoy it more too.
I think we tend to get inspired by cases where the average man successfully overcomes an extreme situation to go against the cultural establishment... particularly if the guy starts to market himself as a 'criminal celebrity' of sorts, like this one is doing.
Running from the law is always has an exciting "hollywood-esque" kind of thrill to it. When it happens in real life, it definitely gets our attention. We start to identify with the criminal and forget whoever was victimized.
I still remember reading about that Bambi Bembenek case where the ex-playboy waitress escaped prison on a murder conviction and went on the run. The media was generally cheering her on with the whole "Run Bambi Run" slogans.
I think we just love a case where Hollywood translates to real life, and we can root for the underdog.
I've noticed on Lush, Qs like this tend to label women as either skinny or curvy. The word 'skinny' tends to suggest a bone-thin couture runway model physicality... which, I think most men (and women) don't find as particularly sexy. There is a difference between 'skinny' and slender, IMO. For example, what kind of body types do men consider a Victoria Secret model or a Playboy model have? Do people consider that body type as 'skinny' and therefore unattractive? I think the masses would disagree based on the raging success of those magazines and catalogues.
Women take note of the female bodies that men seem to drool over the most and try to approximate them in whatever way possible. If you go for a Hollywood ideal, is Megan Fox considered too 'skinny'? I don't think most women are thinking men want women smaller than that size... just my opinion though. There are some hyper body conscious women that will take it too far because of body dysmorphia or related issues etc.
But first, I think we need a better definition of what is considered 'skinny'.
I've always been against women attaining an ideal they can't maintain in the long term. I will always believe that 'healthy' is what makes a woman 'sexy'.
I'm a natural blonde, but with a lot of sitting in the sun, I seem to be getting blonder and blonder at the moment...
I've always kept my hair long (from mid to lower back).
I style it straight and it's either left loose, or in a ponytail or bun (depending on what I'm doing).
At the moment it's up in a long ponytail.
I've never had short hair... longer hair has always just been 'my thing'...
Good for them!
They are using the fact that "sex sells" in an intelligent and efficient way.
Viva la PETA!
I find it amusing that society loves to tear down these 'celebrities' that were made famous at an age that was filled with random mistakes and errors in judgement in our own lives. I'm not a LiLo fan at all, but the reason people like her, Paris Hilton, and Nicole Richie are famous and making cash on their image are because we, as society, have deemed them entertaining enough to justify it.
They trainwreck their lives, and we all ridicule them and point in judgment. So what would have happened if someone had given you a multi-million dollar check when you were still in high school?
No excuses for the mistakes, but the reason a lot of these celebs are so famous is because they get the press to warrant it. We supply that demand.
If you think she is such a despicable human being, then stop watching her movies and buying her records... problem solved.
But somehow we enjoy watching a public trainwreck unfold.
It says something about our society, not just about the objects of our adulation and subsequent condemnation.
Sometimes there is more pleasure in kicking the sandcastle down, then there was in building it in the first place.
