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I bounce on and off randomly in typically short spurts when I have a few minutes here and there.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Also, you have to realize sooner or later that most men prefer something very visual. If we did an experiment, letting them choose between porn or erotica to masturbate, I'm sure a lot would prefer the former.
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Oh, I expect the vast majority prefer porn over erotica. Just to get off, I'm typically the same actually. I still prefer a bit of scenario with my visual porn though too. it's just the way I'm wired.
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A low heel on boots or certain shoes is fine on a guy - as long as it still looks masculine and not too fussy.
It's a different story if it's a CD or transgender person though - the skies the limit as far as heels and shoes go.
It's a different story if it's a CD or transgender person though - the skies the limit as far as heels and shoes go.
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I doubt any girl is going to pick 'giving blowjobs' as the only sexual act she can ever experience for the rest of her life.
Like Metilda, I'd pick the fucking.
Like Metilda, I'd pick the fucking.
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Regular soap/cleaning with fingers and/or a warm-water douche. Not sure if you've seen them - it's kind of like a bulb with a slim squirty straw-type thing attached. They're reusable as long as they're cleaned properly afterward.
I've never heard of using a dildo to clean, but sounds like it worked well and was probably a fun cleansing ritual as well.
I've never heard of using a dildo to clean, but sounds like it worked well and was probably a fun cleansing ritual as well.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Still, in your first response you mentionned a lot of eye contact, interaction, proximity, etc. What if a guy is totally hot, but acts snobbish or mean, and totally ignores you? For us men, a very hot woman that's acting snobbish or mean will still provoke strong sexual urges, though it is possible to rationally decline her, just to confront her. This has happened to me in the past, on occasions.
Soo amusing to let them believe I prefer masturbation to their gorgeous annoyance.
Quite honestly, when I masturbate there's not even a hint of scenario in my mind. Just a nice girl and sex. Sorry if that offends you anyhow.
When I bring a lady home though, my romantic mind is fully active. I like to fantasize about what we represent to each other, for how long we had silent cravings, how the relation evolved, etc. I actually never slept with a girl without these thoughts, but I believe I'm outside the norm when compared to most males. Most men, in my opinion, simply enjoy the sex. The less fantasy, the better.
If a guy was really hot but acted like a douche, yeah his stock goes way down. Admittedly I will still find certain guys appealing that other women might find arrogant or annoying – but I think we all have certain personality traits that we consider deal-breakers as far as sexual interest goes. I guess the typical guy is probably less likely to care if it means getting laid by a hot girl. Thing is – when it comes to casual sex, girls typically have all the power. We're unlikely to invest in the chase with a guy being a jerk or giving attitude - there's probably plenty of other opportunity to turn our attention to.
Re the non-scenario fantasies - that's cool. I expect a lot of guys are like that actually. It doesn't offend me - it more just sucks if you're an erotica writer. It kind of kills your readership if you're the type that likes to spin a tale.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
This list was a bit exhaustive to offer different examples of what women might look for in a mate. Most of these are more important for long-term relations, but I still believe women must feel a certain degree of security when having sex with a casual partner. Let's face it, men generally have the upper hand physically, so it is an important consideration when portraying themselves alone with a man, naked.
Yeah, this is true to a certain degree. There is definitely more vulnerability for a woman when it comes to getting naked with a guy. You need to feel a certain vibe and gut intuition that the guy isn't a total psycho, or axe murderer. The more 'physical' a guy's presence (like build/muscle/attitude), the more it does come up in my thoughts (especially since I tend to like a bit of rougher sex sometimes) - there has to be a certain basic level of trust if it's someone you don't know very well. It's kind of faulty thinking though because most guys (even if they were soft or non-athletic) would be able to overpower the average girl if they really wanted to. Basically I just trust my intuition or feel out the situation. There was really only one case where I had to think it over a little more - unsure of what I might be getting myself into because the guy had the potential to be way more physically 'intense' than even the average fit guy just based on his physicality, but if my instincts tell me it's safe, I am inclined to roll the dice in certain situations I really want to explore. Luckily things have always worked out for me, without issue.
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Also, concerning pure physical attraction, I think women appreciate it more for what it implies, than what it simply is. For example, if a girl sees a physically fit male, her positive reaction might not be purely visual, as opposed to us males. What she enjoys might be the fact it implies that the man is physically/sexually active, has a certain status, has ambitions, can attain his objectives, can defend the girl, takes care of himself, etc.
The way I figure it, for example if a girl masturbates while watching a naked model, is that her whole imagination complements the visual aspect. She might imagine such a fit man, portraying the attributes I mentionned above, approaching her and displaying a special interest for her. For us men, it is simply curves, boobs and ass. Even myself, being kind and romantic, can't really deny that, at least for casual sex.
Hmm... I might not be the norm for girls, but I am pretty visual sometimes.
What that means is - a hot guy can just be that to me - a hot guy. If I'm only interested in a casual fling or fuckbuddy situation, the implications are less important.
But re your example, yes I'm likely to have a bit of a scenario leading up to an actual sexual fantasy. I'm not just thinking of the in-and-out, I'm probably going to think about what leads up to it as well. But hey, I'm a writer - that's how my brain is wired. Do guys not think of a full fantasy scenario or do you guys just think like a standard porn flick - hot girl walks into room. Then you fuck. I guess that would explain the way a lot of porn is written/filmed actually.
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Here's some more from Picture Polish!
PS. Violet Femme will be mine one day soon - it's #1 on my wish list at the moment. That purple. Fuuuck..... so gorgeous!
PS. Violet Femme will be mine one day soon - it's #1 on my wish list at the moment. That purple. Fuuuck..... so gorgeous!
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Doll just introduced me to Picture Polish - Australian and cruelty free. i kind of hate her. looke at this!
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I like happy, intelligent, quick-witted, energetic people who don't take themselves too seriously and know how to have fun.
Let's face it - everyone needs to be serious sometimes, but there are some types that pride themselves on it (as a defining trait) and yet aren't 'mature' at all. Sometimes they present with a holier-than-thou judgmental attitude, possibly caused by an unfortunate tendency to conduct their life's affairs with a giant stick up their arse. The underlying issue is actually often an inherent predilection to being completely childish in attitude and outlook. Those are the people I prefer to avoid.
Let's face it - everyone needs to be serious sometimes, but there are some types that pride themselves on it (as a defining trait) and yet aren't 'mature' at all. Sometimes they present with a holier-than-thou judgmental attitude, possibly caused by an unfortunate tendency to conduct their life's affairs with a giant stick up their arse. The underlying issue is actually often an inherent predilection to being completely childish in attitude and outlook. Those are the people I prefer to avoid.
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Everyone loves a 6 ft+ guy but I'm fine with 5'9" and up. Depends on the guy.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Women seeking sexual excitement/release analyze many more factors such as emotional involvement, respectfulness, reciprocity, moral respectability, appearance, personality, overall status, etc.
This isn't necessarily true all the time. Sometimes there's a kind of excitement in not having the emotional factor at play. If a connection is purely sexual (or at least if it starts that way), there's a kind of freer release of inhibitions and sexual fantasies and desires. Hard to explain - but because you're not concerned about emotions or relationships, your focus is the physical and the sex often gets kinkier or more intense because you both know that's why you're there. I find this is when the really dirty stuff bubbles up to the surface more quickly - because you're not worried about what they might find offensive or what might cause them to judge you or how it would affect a potential long or short term relationship. The focus is on the fucking, pleasure, mutual release. It's just a little sexually freer more quickly.
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I thought to ask you what are the minimal requirements, for you personally, to get from an unaroused state to an horny one. Any past experience to share?
Some kind of deliberate physical contact from someone I'm attracted to (and this could be a total stranger I've just met as well). You know if there's a bit of chemistry and flirting and the guy brushes against you in just the right way while he's moving by you, or puts a firm hand on your arm or even just leans into your personal space while he's talking. Or finds some excuse to whisper something into your ear and you feel his warm breath along your neck and his lips barely graze your ear. Eye contact is important too - that kind of flirty, suggestive mischievous eye contact can get me heated up pretty quickly as well. To me - the turn on is really almost a kind of chemical reaction between two people - if it's there even at a low level, getting benignly closer to them or some kind of deliberate yet subtle physical contact can just seal the deal.
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- Is the simple sight of a gorgeous man enough to get you going, even without having spoken to him? What about a random picture?
- How much do you need to know a man before he can stimulates you sexually?
A random picture of someone I don't know or a naked model - yeah, maybe - but I'd have to be generally horny to start with. I have gotten very turned on by sexting/pics but in those cases they're guys that I at least vaguely know or am planning to get to know very soon. I will say that I don't need to 'know a guy' to some complex level to want to have sex with him. Straight up physical attraction does work for us girls too, or at least it does for me. Sometimes it's literally instantaneous, other times it's more like a 'hmmm, maybe' - and in those cases maybe you need to feel things out first to see if you think you'd vibe well together sexually before your panties start to get wet.
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In stories, I think it's best to describe the breasts - large, soft, perky, firm, voluptuous, soft etc rather than just dropping an actual bra size.
However - if you insist on giving an actual bra size or the character in your story is, for some reason, picking out a bra and the size is required as a description - the rule of thumb is this:
Band size (this is the number) - This fluctuates with the weight of a woman - let's say that a typical Playboy or bikini model type body frame will wear a size 34 band. A 36 would be an American average/curvy woman, and a 38 would be a thicker woman - and it goes up from there. A very slim runway model body type or petite/thin girl will be a 32 and a very tiny 'funsize' woman might be a 30.
Cup size (this is the actual size of the breast) - I think guys understand this one more. A-cup is very tiny/flat, B-cup is average/smallish/athletic. C-cup is a solid handful, D-cup and DD-cup is larger/boobalicious-sized and it goes upward from there.
So basically you just pick the band size based on body type and the cup based on breast size. When in doubt - just go for 34C - nice sized breasts on a typically nice sized body.
But like I said - your story will do better if you describe the breasts and what they are like rather than leaving it up to a bra-size to do it for you.
Hope that helps.
EDIT: you can also use a website like this http://famousbrasize.com to check what certain celebs sizes are if you want to use their body types as a general template for characters.
However - if you insist on giving an actual bra size or the character in your story is, for some reason, picking out a bra and the size is required as a description - the rule of thumb is this:
Band size (this is the number) - This fluctuates with the weight of a woman - let's say that a typical Playboy or bikini model type body frame will wear a size 34 band. A 36 would be an American average/curvy woman, and a 38 would be a thicker woman - and it goes up from there. A very slim runway model body type or petite/thin girl will be a 32 and a very tiny 'funsize' woman might be a 30.
Cup size (this is the actual size of the breast) - I think guys understand this one more. A-cup is very tiny/flat, B-cup is average/smallish/athletic. C-cup is a solid handful, D-cup and DD-cup is larger/boobalicious-sized and it goes upward from there.
So basically you just pick the band size based on body type and the cup based on breast size. When in doubt - just go for 34C - nice sized breasts on a typically nice sized body.
But like I said - your story will do better if you describe the breasts and what they are like rather than leaving it up to a bra-size to do it for you.
Hope that helps.
EDIT: you can also use a website like this http://famousbrasize.com to check what certain celebs sizes are if you want to use their body types as a general template for characters.
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Even though Peppermint Bark is usually reserved for the holiday season, I still make it year-round if I'm craving it enough.
Here's the recipe.
Awww... I always end up buying a tin of this at Williams Sonoma during the holidays. I *love* it. I should try making my own this year. Or at least pretending I made it on my own.
I bookmarked the recipe though cause I'm going to be optimistic like that.
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What about some light wrinkles on the head, small discoloration on the shaft, etc? Does that matter to you?
As I'm getting older (31), I start to see some of these appearing. I tried looking for creams, to no avail. Should I bother with this at all?
Thanks.
No, don't bother with the creams. Nobody is expecting a perfectly airbrushed penis.
I have only seen one truly perfect set of cock and balls in my lifetime and he was likely some sort of genetic genital anomaly.
As long as it's clean, the right size, shaved or well manscaped and in working order, the whole veining and discolouration thing and minor imperfections aren't a big deal at all. If you're into someone and attracted to them, dick-aesthetics probably fall further down the line of importance as long as it's not something super freaky.
I mean, a genuinely mangled and spottled dick and shrivelled up balls are probably going to be a turn-off, but most guys are well within the norm and have nothing to worry about.
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I love rose-gold.
These would look so glam with a sexy little white dress and nude heels.
Oooh - and maybe these aviators too.
These would look so glam with a sexy little white dress and nude heels.
Oooh - and maybe these aviators too.
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The person comes across as though they have very little-to-no experience with dating and relationships. The sentiments are kind of like tired romantic cliches. It might be fine though if it's an ESL ad and the person is trying to come across as though they want a serious relationship and/or marriage - it's likely to attract other similarly inexperienced people, so overall things might mesh - especially if they're looking for the same thing.
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"No house should ever be on a hill or on anything. It should be of the hill. Belonging to it. Hill and house should live together each the happier for the other." - Frank Lloyd Wright
Wow - that is gorgeous! Love!
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That's so cute. I love the snow-capped nail look. These colors are so refreshing. This is definitely going on the list.
Yep, literally all their colours are so perfect. It's so frustrating to my bank account!
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Hmmm would you like to elaborate what exactly you find uncomfortable about it?
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lying face to face, nose pressed against nose, him inhaling your hot breath and you his, lips pressed lightly into each other.
There is a pillow pressing down on your heads.
This. Noses pressing, inhaling each other's breath, with a pillow pressed down over your heads? All night? Seriously - who sleeps like that??
I would also suggest that unless he's hung like an anaconda, a soft dick will not stay in while in this position all night long and it's logistically uncomfortable. Plus I can't sleep all mashed up in someone's face like that. Sex is good. Cuddling is good. But when I sleep, I like some space.
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I understand but just wanted to add an alternative perspective. Imagine lying face to face, nose pressed against nose, him inhaling your hot breath and you his, lips pressed lightly into each other, you are both under the blankets on a COLD night, the freezing air making the warmth of your lover so deliciously comforting, you feel like you are in your own little world especially because there is a soft pillow pressing down on your heads, away from the cold, you feel sooooooo safe in each other's arms and you just drift off into a blissful sleep... with his manhood still inside you along with his cum...
I understand it might not be for you, but just wanted to show you an alternative.
Nope. Still uncomfortable.
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Tongue-wrestling until I'm forced to tap. That's how I like to roll.
But really - yeah, I think most women like to vary it up from slow to intense to explorative to consuming... Personally, if there's no tongue though - I'd get bored.
I would also give a thumbs down to the nose-to-nose pressing and too much feathery slow-mo stuff. You need to feel the hunger behind the kiss.
But really - yeah, I think most women like to vary it up from slow to intense to explorative to consuming... Personally, if there's no tongue though - I'd get bored.
I would also give a thumbs down to the nose-to-nose pressing and too much feathery slow-mo stuff. You need to feel the hunger behind the kiss.
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Hey, pretty girl! Happy Birthday!
I hope your day is glorious and sweet. Enjoy every minute!
XO
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I am wearing exactly this manicure.
Colours:
NCLA Santa Monica Shore Thing (the green)
NCLA Poolside Party, All Eyes on Me (the orangey/peach)
Tart Deco (the coral - I ended up getting this recently as a freebie)
Zoya Purity (white tips)
I'm kind of in love with NCLA lately. Their colours are so perfect and I really like the company vibe. Their polishes are smooth as silk too and wear like iron - I don't even get tip wear with this brand and zero chipping a full week later. Really impressive.
Colours:
NCLA Santa Monica Shore Thing (the green)
NCLA Poolside Party, All Eyes on Me (the orangey/peach)
Tart Deco (the coral - I ended up getting this recently as a freebie)
Zoya Purity (white tips)
I'm kind of in love with NCLA lately. Their colours are so perfect and I really like the company vibe. Their polishes are smooth as silk too and wear like iron - I don't even get tip wear with this brand and zero chipping a full week later. Really impressive.
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I will admit I am very evil with my toothcare regimen. I use drugstore brand toothpaste (the mintier tasting the better), minty or cinnamon floss
and I love my Listerine Total-Care mouthwash that yep - boasts of 7x greater fluoride uptake vs ACT.
And... wait for it... I have also professionally whitened my teeth before and they look awesome. *ducks as bottles of oil come flying at my head*
And yes, I know it's all horribly un-organic of me, but I don't care. I have tried the healthy toothpastes with sea salt etc but they honestly make me gag. I just can't get around it... Sworrry...
and I love my Listerine Total-Care mouthwash that yep - boasts of 7x greater fluoride uptake vs ACT.
And... wait for it... I have also professionally whitened my teeth before and they look awesome. *ducks as bottles of oil come flying at my head*
And yes, I know it's all horribly un-organic of me, but I don't care. I have tried the healthy toothpastes with sea salt etc but they honestly make me gag. I just can't get around it... Sworrry...