Thanks for the input, guys. We try to believe there's nothing wrong with him, that for some reason, this one thing doesn't work. He gets so close sometimes that I can feel his head ready to burst, so I know he wants it, but....
Yeah, we'll try to relax about climaxing. And this site is giving me great ideas about other things to try!
While I made a couple of mistakes in my younger years, it's been ten years or so since I had sex outside of a committed relationship, and even in those committed relationship, sex didn't happen until screenings happened. I was in a serious relationship, assumed monogamous, for a long time. When I learned my then-bf had been with someone who was known to sleep around, we split (for a while), and got tested. When found clean, and when he said he was done dallying, we got back together, but the trust and interest was lost. Then, I found he never HAD stopped seeing her. So, we were through, and I made sure to get a full screen well before I started seeing my current man three years later. We're totally committed to monogamy, as we've both been cheated on, and there's only my iud keeping anything but nature between us.
Older and wiser, though, if we ended somehow, there would be rubber between me and any more casual partner.
I would LOVE to do this to my partner. And I'd love to have him fuck me in the ass. But, he's squeamish about the area, "only for out, not in, blah blah blah." Despite a lot of initial hesitation, my ex did this to me a few times, and I came to love it. I didn't realize how much I'd come to crave it when it had been taken off the table. I'm starting to get my guy into letting me, at least, play with his ass when I go down on him, but it still doesn't help things much. He says there's too much sensation now, and it's distracting.
But, while no one has ever asked me to wear a strap-on, it's something I'd dearly love to do.
I'm a Blizz girl myself, starting with Warcraft: Orcs vs Humans, through the Diablo games (all three), a few years of obsession with WoW, and now I'm loving the Hearthstone beta. I played the WoW: TCG a bit, too, and seriously dated the 2008 World Champ. I've played the Sims, but that's more my partner's thing, and I do so very rarely. Minecraft is another game we pay together. He has Assassin's Creed 1, 2, and 3, and I want to try it. I've also enjoyed Path of Exile and Guild Wars Two. There are a few Android only games I like, too. No consoles.
But, really, my biggest passion is boardgames, and not crap like Monopoly or something. I mean, I can get behind a good party game with the right crowd, but I like Euro games (Vinci, or and commodity trading game), cooperative games (Arkham Horror, Pandemic, etc.), strategy games (Twilight Imperium), and other stuff (Race to the Galaxy, Dominion), to name a few. I go annually to the World Boardgaming Championship, which is held about two hours from Philly every August, and while I haven't won in a game yet, I have made the finals for a few.
Definitely, 35+. But that's not to say it hasn't been good with younger guys. It's just not AS good.
I actually orgasm EASIER and HARDER from penetration than any clitoral stimulation. It's a good thing, too, because it's odd that he'll play with my clit at all. Even me playing with my own clit often does nothing. But penile penetration... Oh yeah. He has erection issues, too, so it's rare that he's at more than half-mast, or even that he's what anyone would consider Hard. But just feeling and knowing that his cock is inside me is often enough to get me thrashing and moaning. I just love that feeling.
In the two years we've been together, my man has only been able to come once from head. Sadly, I DO crave cum, but only when it's straight from the source. Well, mostly, sometimes I want it so badly that I'll go "clean him up" after a fucking where he's come inside me, just so I can get a taste of that hot, hot sex. I love the taste of his juices mingled with mine. But, yeah, more than anything, I want him to come in my mouth. Partly, yes, because it's a gift he's giving me (I refer to it as "my reward" for a job well done), partly because it's dead sexy, but also in a large part because I want to taste what he has to give to me. I love the taste.
I don't think I'd like tasting the cum of a random guy off the street, but my partner, whoever he happens to be over the years, yes, please.
I just posted my first story on here, a fantasy I wrote out of frustration (please see my profile for it). I wrote it because, no matter what I do, no matter what tricks we try, no matter if I go down on him constantly for two hours, or take occasional ten minute breaks over five hours, he just can't come from head.
And I'm pretty sure it's not that I suck (okay, stink) at it. He is quick to give effusive praise, and EVERY single man I've ever dated has come back to tell me, once they're with someone else, that I was so good, I've ruined them for anyone else. No other girl, or guy, can compete, it seems. I've had exes who swore never to speak another word to me, but who felt the need to break that promise just to bitch me out for giving the best head ever.
So, I don't think it's me. My partner definitely wants to come, and he feels like something is wrong with him, since he can't. I try not to stress about it, but it's frustrating getting no reward. Doesn't mean I'll stop trying, though! And he is crazy-awesome when he is fucking me, so no problems there. Just head.
Any advice?
217 is my favorite number. Thanks for the contest!
Erm. 61.80812% - Extreme Geek. I guess I shouldn't be hanging out here....
