Both are great, but overall I prefer to give
A good story needs set-up. If all you are interested in is sex, then porn is for you. But honestly, after seeing enough porn, it becomes obviously formulaic. Always this thing happens, then that thing, then ... the guy cums on the girl. BORING!
I am always interested in the build-up to sex. Without context, it is not erotic anymore. A good story makes a huge difference.
I like blowjobs, but I guess when I was young, I was not with women that were much good at it (probably due to inexperience, or lack of confidence or positive feedback), or that seemed to really enjoy it (Possibly some bad experiences in their past). So, I learned to get by without getting many. That was not a problem then, and is not a problem now.
Rather than insist on, or even ask for, a blowjob, I have always thought it best that it always be the giver's idea to give. That way, you do the things that you like, you put no pressure on your partner to put out, and everyone can usually find lots of different things that lead to fun and total satisfaction. A blowjob is just one of many nice things you can try together.
I strive to give great oral, and I absolutely love doing it. I actively try to do my very best to please, because I get off on the feedback. I don't feel there should be any pressure to reciprocate.
Whatever you do, you should both be enjoying it, and not ever keeping score.
Most recently Mockingjay Pt 2 via download, Star Wars Pt 7 in 3D at a theatre (GOOD!), and a Mad Max DVD my son got as a gift (not sure which number it was, lol).
I would be OK with my spouse having something extra-marital. I do not feel threatened by it, and I believe it may even enhance our relationship too. That is because we have a strong relationship at present, which allows for anything from flirtation on upwards.
As far as I know, she has not engaged in anything physical, but if she did, I'd certainly both forgive her, and of course want to know all the juicy details. No doubt the sex would be exciting, as it would be with someone different, so there is no reason to be concerned, in my opinion anyway, that she might develop a dependence.
If our relationship is to end, and another begins, so be it. Best to be always happy, and not hurt each other. That being said, we have been going strong for decades, and it remains satisfying. Even if it were to end, it has been a good run.
I have been in a very long relationship (close to 40 years), and as with many things, things change with time. But my relationship continues, and likely will indefinitely, barring some unforeseen circumstance.
I can't say I am having sex every day or two, like I once did, but I feel lucky that we have stayed close over time in terms of level of desire, and the need to have sex. Like any couple, we have weathered a few storms along the way.
Changes have happened because of our growing together, our aging. Some changes are driven by societal changes in how sexuality is expressed these days. I may have a higher level of desire than my wife at times, but sexual thoughts and ideas are easier these days to at least see or read about, through the Net. This site is a great help. I enjoy good sex stories, and the chance to read and engage in interesting conversations on occasion. A lot of internet video content is artificial, formulaic, and boring, but sometimes there is an interesting plot twist; I haven't given up looking for good video content.
I sometimes feel a need for satisfaction not matched by my partner, and I imagine at different times she is more interested than me (and she has a small selection of toys). I don't mind taking things into my own hand, nor do I begrudge anyone else engaging in self-love. I would rather not cheat. I am not into the extra intrigue, or into hurting anyone else, including myself, by bringing about emotional distress or disease through a tryst or an affair. That lesson is sometimes learned the hard way, but I could also argue that an affair is not all bad.
Self-love is safe, and it should not be a substitute for a partner, but should instead supplement a healthy relationship. It is not keeping me from giving my best to my partner, and I would argue at times it is inspiring. I do take the time to give hugs, kisses, and sometimes just a lot of cuddling, with no intent nor concern if we do not have sex. There are may ways to make love, an intense expression of an intimate connection. It is more important to feel connected, and capable of sharing anything, even if there is not as much sex shared as there once was. It is important to remain best friends, and to not be too concerned when the sex is less frequent than it once was. It ends up being different, less frequent for us after the decades, but just as satisfying overall.
If the friendship is gone, and you are just roommates mostly going your separate ways, maybe it is time to consider alternate arrangements, and not feel too sad nor surprised if you end up splitting. I imagine splitting is hard to do, but then again a change may be just what is needed to feel refreshed and alive. There are three paths to solving any problem: fix it, live with it, or leave. Consider the pros and cons of each, and you may find the best path forward. Best wishes.
I find this question so obvious. Maybe the question should be "why do I not know my wife's fantasies?" Just sayin'...
A couple of things.
Made love to two women within 12 hours, and neither was aware of the other at the time. Long story, and definitely "wrong".
Fooled around with a GF with her sister also in the same room. We were all watching a movie. GF and I had a blanket covering us "to stay warm" and were getting naked below the waist and groping each other, without trying to get caught of course. Pretty sure the sister had an inkling after a while, and left in disgust. Maybe it was because of the pungent smell of sexual excitement...
Making slow silent love in a narrow little bed while a GF's sister was asleep on the floor next to us (sister was visiting and staying overnight). Had a secret desire we would get "caught", but probably my GF would not be pleased (not to mention the bed could not fit us all LOL)
In the process of going down on a girl in her basement for the first time, and having her very close to orgasm, we heard her soon-to-be-ex arrive upstairs at her place unexpectedly. She went upstairs naked to distract him, while I snuck out the back with my clothes in hand, and no shoes. Left my shoes behind at the front door, which fortunately were not noticed before she could hide them.
Can't say I am too proud, but "stuff happens"
I knew a woman, married, 29 years old at the time I met her and became her friend, and she had never had an orgasm before. Probably this was because of her very strict religious upbringing, and her less than skilled husband. She believed that masturbation was evil, and claimed that she had never, nor would she ever.
I would like to think that was just "the right thing" for her to say, and really, she had attempted it, but her hangup kept her from ever admitting the truth. Most women would say she was not being honest with herself, as the vast majority of women do masturbate, and that is of course perfectly fine and healthy.
She divorced about three years later (Her husband left her for another woman, while she had started serial affairs of her own, once she had found a patient and competent lover, and had developed a desire for sex). She was still claiming to her best female friend that she would never masturbate. When she was "single" again, she would get easily frustrated by men for reasons other than sex, and resented men for her dependence on them as the only source for her sexual pleasure.
I was not surprised to hear that, after several short relationships, and going through most of the readily available males at her place of employment, she had reverted back in her forties to a fairly extreme form of strict religious asexuality. Basically, she started to believe all men were evil, especially married men.
Needless to say, we do not talk any longer. It is sad, but I am not one to force anyone to change their ways or beliefs. She is no longer the good friend I once knew.
I was looking for a 30 minute choice. So, picked an hour instead. Usually 30 minutes is enough time to tease out a really intense, satisfying orgasm, just before I can follow up with a good pounding with my cock.
Is the Pope Catholic????????
I could never understand what the big deal was with tats. I never got one, because why get something that you cannot easily remove, and which may not look so cool a month, year, or decades from now.
They don' t turn me off if it is small and discreet. They don't turn me on, if you have a small one. Too many on one person look ridiculous.
Nope, I just don't get it.
But if you like them, I have no problem with you having them.
Any of these could explain it:
- you are relaxed, and usually not stressed out from a tough day at work, or whatever
- you may have a hard-on from a nearly full bladder
- you may have had a great dream that ended just as it was getting to a good part
- your natural testosterone level is highest in the morning
- you roll over to cuddle and feel that beautiful soft, warm, inviting, sexy body lying next to you, and you can't resist...
Yes, if you allow for, say, more than 15 years difference in age. Up to 17 years different, in my case. But really, age difference does not matter so much, as several have already said.
An enjoyable bit of serendipity, not an everyday thing, since I think there would need to be an emotional match to make it something that lasts, and often people are at different stages in their emotional and social development, and in the circles they keep.
And, I have to admit I have a bit of a Professor/student fantasy I think of often. But in reality, I am the safe old guy, to most attractive young women I meet professionally.
Do you actually have to ask?
Fuck yeah!
Never had a threesome. Oh well....
Math, especially calculus
. Wish I could reach down to the far end of the line and rip the head off of the caller that has interrupted my sleep. 
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Yes please!
