We've drifted way, way too far in the safe direction... We need to get back on track.
PICTURE NOT SUITABLE FOR FORUMS. NO ERECT PENISES OR CLOSE UPS OF OPEN VAGINAS, PLEASE.
hand or blow job.
EDIT: Oops. Sorry.
Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
Sensei
6 days ago
Straight Male, 58
0 miles · California
Forum
Active Ink Slinger
According to the late Kurt Cobain, one of the proudest moments of his career was when he was notified that Weird Al wanted to parody Smells Like Teen Spirit.
I've not read "50 shades," but I will say that the above picture is proof positive that its author Has Arrived.
I've not read "50 shades," but I will say that the above picture is proof positive that its author Has Arrived.
Active Ink Slinger
Are you male or female? Maie
How old are you? 44
Where do you masturbate:
In bed? 100
In the shower?
In the bath?
Outdoors?
At work?
In a car while traveling... ?
What do you fantasize about when you play:
BF/GF? 70
BF/GF's good friend?
A friend?
A friend's spouse?
A stranger? 30
A past lover?
Do you prefer..
written erotica? 20
porn? 80
What is your favorite porn:
Anal?
BJ/oral?
BDSM? 70
CMNF?
Cumshots/facials?
Exhibitionism?
Gangbang?
Gay/lesbian?
Group sex/orgies?
Interracial?
Reluctance?
Solo? 20
Teens?
Toys? 10
Young-old?
Have you ever masturbated to:
Pics of friends on FB? no
Name your 5 favorite erotica categories
Spanking
BDSM
Masturbation
Quickie
pass
How old are you? 44
Where do you masturbate:
In bed? 100
In the shower?
In the bath?
Outdoors?
At work?
In a car while traveling... ?
What do you fantasize about when you play:
BF/GF? 70
BF/GF's good friend?
A friend?
A friend's spouse?
A stranger? 30
A past lover?
Do you prefer..
written erotica? 20
porn? 80
What is your favorite porn:
Anal?
BJ/oral?
BDSM? 70
CMNF?
Cumshots/facials?
Exhibitionism?
Gangbang?
Gay/lesbian?
Group sex/orgies?
Interracial?
Reluctance?
Solo? 20
Teens?
Toys? 10
Young-old?
Have you ever masturbated to:
Pics of friends on FB? no
Name your 5 favorite erotica categories
Spanking
BDSM
Masturbation
Quickie
pass
Active Ink Slinger
I really should have asked this *before* I posted this story.
The crux of the story is that the girl in it has a window of opportunity of about 30 seconds or so to bring herself to orgasm.
Now, leading up to this, she knows what she's going to do, so the pump is primed, so to speak. But is this a scenario that is even remotely realistic? My instincts say "yes," but I'm just a stupid guy, so what do I know?
The crux of the story is that the girl in it has a window of opportunity of about 30 seconds or so to bring herself to orgasm.
Now, leading up to this, she knows what she's going to do, so the pump is primed, so to speak. But is this a scenario that is even remotely realistic? My instincts say "yes," but I'm just a stupid guy, so what do I know?
Active Ink Slinger
I did bring up this analogy yesterday while chatting, but it's something I had been pondering for a whole before then. And I expanded on it a little today while thinking about it.
As for how many people are submissive... I do believe that it's a predisposition based on gender - women tend towards submissiveness and men tend towards dominance. But in saying that I don't wish to imply that there is any less or greater value to those who differ. Those predispositions do not equate to value judgements.
As for how many people are submissive... I do believe that it's a predisposition based on gender - women tend towards submissiveness and men tend towards dominance. But in saying that I don't wish to imply that there is any less or greater value to those who differ. Those predispositions do not equate to value judgements.
Active Ink Slinger
Nobody asked for my opinion, but I feel like pontificating.
I'm a dominant, and personally lack a submissive mindset, so everything I know is secondhand. But I think I've managed to piece together a little bit of insight.
I'd like to bring forward exhibit #1: The modern roller coaster.
Why do people like them? Surely it's not as a mode of transportation, per se. A roller coaster lets you out at nearly the exact same place as you got on. It can't be the speed. Cars on the freeway go in some cases twice as fast. The answer that immediately comes to mind is that the rides are thrilling. But why? It's because of the lack of control. A roller coaster is thrilling because it is unpredictable, and it is unpredictable because the rider has no control. People will line up, sometimes for an hour, to cede control of their position and velocity to a machine. But why is that, in and of itself, thrilling? People have the same lack of control when they board a train, but that doesn't have the same level of excitement. Roller coasters are thrilling because they have a perception of danger to them, coupled with that lack of control.
In the United States last year, there were about 8,000 emergency room visits caused by accidents relating to amusement park rides. That sounds like a lot, but by contrast, we *kill* more than 30,000 people every year in cars. Clearly, roller coasters are safe - orders of magnitude safer than cars. And yet, riding in a car is not at all (or at least, is not supposed to be) "thrilling." So it's certainly not a lack of *actual* safety that drives the thrill factor of roller coasters, merely the *perception*.
Can you see the parallels I'm drawing here? Submissives seek to cede control over themselves to a dominant. The thrill they get from doing so is the *perception* that doing so is unsafe, while in actuality, they must, of course, be confident that they are safe in their dominant's hands.
Not everyone is a submissive, but then, not everyone likes roller coasters either.
I'm a dominant, and personally lack a submissive mindset, so everything I know is secondhand. But I think I've managed to piece together a little bit of insight.
I'd like to bring forward exhibit #1: The modern roller coaster.
Why do people like them? Surely it's not as a mode of transportation, per se. A roller coaster lets you out at nearly the exact same place as you got on. It can't be the speed. Cars on the freeway go in some cases twice as fast. The answer that immediately comes to mind is that the rides are thrilling. But why? It's because of the lack of control. A roller coaster is thrilling because it is unpredictable, and it is unpredictable because the rider has no control. People will line up, sometimes for an hour, to cede control of their position and velocity to a machine. But why is that, in and of itself, thrilling? People have the same lack of control when they board a train, but that doesn't have the same level of excitement. Roller coasters are thrilling because they have a perception of danger to them, coupled with that lack of control.
In the United States last year, there were about 8,000 emergency room visits caused by accidents relating to amusement park rides. That sounds like a lot, but by contrast, we *kill* more than 30,000 people every year in cars. Clearly, roller coasters are safe - orders of magnitude safer than cars. And yet, riding in a car is not at all (or at least, is not supposed to be) "thrilling." So it's certainly not a lack of *actual* safety that drives the thrill factor of roller coasters, merely the *perception*.
Can you see the parallels I'm drawing here? Submissives seek to cede control over themselves to a dominant. The thrill they get from doing so is the *perception* that doing so is unsafe, while in actuality, they must, of course, be confident that they are safe in their dominant's hands.
Not everyone is a submissive, but then, not everyone likes roller coasters either.
Active Ink Slinger
I wrote one not too long ago too:
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/spanking/tiny-dancer.aspx
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/spanking/tiny-dancer.aspx
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by DirtyMartini
I don't know if this sounds like a good idea to me...I think it could cause problems for people editing something if changes are auto saved too often...
Personally, I think you're better off just getting in the habit of hitting the "save" button now and then...I know I do it after I write a paragraph or so...
Well, yeah, but that's done by preview, save, then go back to my stories, then pick the story and edit it. It's less than fluid.
Active Ink Slinger
Perhaps I'm unusual - I actually write my stories in the story editor rather than write them offline and paste them in.
I have become accustomed to occasionally previewing the story and clicking 'save draft.' My feature request would be for a javascript on the page to just save my draft every 30 seconds or so for me.
Perhaps this could be enabled for pre-submission stories only. Once a story is submitted, you don't want to "save it" automatically like that, as that implies a trip back to the approval queue. That should be explicitly demanded by the user.
I have become accustomed to occasionally previewing the story and clicking 'save draft.' My feature request would be for a javascript on the page to just save my draft every 30 seconds or so for me.
Perhaps this could be enabled for pre-submission stories only. Once a story is submitted, you don't want to "save it" automatically like that, as that implies a trip back to the approval queue. That should be explicitly demanded by the user.
Active Ink Slinger
Introduce the title of your story:
The Training of Lucy
Genre/Category: BDSM
Provide the link: http://www.lushstories.com/stories/bdsm/the-training-of-lucy-prologue.aspx
1. What first inspired you to write this particular story?
At first, I wanted to write a scene where a dominant bound and controlled his submissive without ever touching her. I came up with a gimmick to achieve it and thought it made a good short story. But I wasn't satisfied with leaving it there, so it morphed into a longer story about the start of a new TPE relationship. Along the way, I tried to make the story as real as possible by touching on the issues of 24/7 master-slave relationships. I think the result is a true D/s romance story, but one that feels almost real.
2. How did you come up with these characters?
They were a byproduct of the story. The names were picked almost randomly. But they grew out of the telling of their story.
3. How does it differ from some of your other stories?
If nothing else, it's much longer. But in that length, the characters had a chance to develop much, much more than in the other short stories I've written.
4. What was the most challenging thing about writing this piece?
I struggled to balance the characters - particularly the dom. He cares deeply for Lucy, so much so that it sometimes overrides his sadistic desires.
5. Anything else you want to tell us about it?
I picked the title ironically. The stereotypical "Training of X" story usually involves a sadist keeping a damsel chained in a dungeon and periodically torturing her. This story is definitively not that.
The Training of Lucy
Genre/Category: BDSM
Provide the link: http://www.lushstories.com/stories/bdsm/the-training-of-lucy-prologue.aspx
1. What first inspired you to write this particular story?
At first, I wanted to write a scene where a dominant bound and controlled his submissive without ever touching her. I came up with a gimmick to achieve it and thought it made a good short story. But I wasn't satisfied with leaving it there, so it morphed into a longer story about the start of a new TPE relationship. Along the way, I tried to make the story as real as possible by touching on the issues of 24/7 master-slave relationships. I think the result is a true D/s romance story, but one that feels almost real.
2. How did you come up with these characters?
They were a byproduct of the story. The names were picked almost randomly. But they grew out of the telling of their story.
3. How does it differ from some of your other stories?
If nothing else, it's much longer. But in that length, the characters had a chance to develop much, much more than in the other short stories I've written.
4. What was the most challenging thing about writing this piece?
I struggled to balance the characters - particularly the dom. He cares deeply for Lucy, so much so that it sometimes overrides his sadistic desires.
5. Anything else you want to tell us about it?
I picked the title ironically. The stereotypical "Training of X" story usually involves a sadist keeping a damsel chained in a dungeon and periodically torturing her. This story is definitively not that.
Active Ink Slinger
I can respect the desire to self-identify. However, I do wish to respectfully ask this:
If there is no difference between the two, why do you choose one over the other? In my mind, "slave" is not derogatory or anything other than descriptive. But, perhaps, my mindset is not universal. If you say that there's no difference... Then what's the difference?
If there is no difference between the two, why do you choose one over the other? In my mind, "slave" is not derogatory or anything other than descriptive. But, perhaps, my mindset is not universal. If you say that there's no difference... Then what's the difference?
Active Ink Slinger
To me, the only difference is that a slave is one full time as opposed to a submissive, who submits only during scenes.
Slaves have limits just like anyone. Where those limits are varies, of course, but there is no such thing as a no-limit slave. There are slaves whose limits are beyond those of their masters. That scenario might be describable as "no-limit," in the sense that the slave's limit is not restrictive, since the master does not desire to exceed it. But even if I were capable of ordering it, there are things no slave should ever want to do just because I say so.
I bring all that up because I firmly do not believe limits are in any way a defining characteristic in differentiating submissives from slaves.
Slaves have limits just like anyone. Where those limits are varies, of course, but there is no such thing as a no-limit slave. There are slaves whose limits are beyond those of their masters. That scenario might be describable as "no-limit," in the sense that the slave's limit is not restrictive, since the master does not desire to exceed it. But even if I were capable of ordering it, there are things no slave should ever want to do just because I say so.
I bring all that up because I firmly do not believe limits are in any way a defining characteristic in differentiating submissives from slaves.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by sexalted
Does it matter what you are as long as you enjoyed yourself and your buddy also did as he certainly had an orgasm?
Not to pick on you specifically, but a lot of other repliers here have expressed the same sentiment. That if the receiver had an orgasm, then what's the problem?
But if the scenario was changed to a woman being woken up for sex by someone other than who she thought in a dark room, there'd be no question that that was .
That's an unacceptable double-standard, in my view.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by 1202024
Ok guys I have been trying to explain to a buddy of mine that receiving oral sex from another guy doesn't make you gay.
Here is the arguing question.
You find yourself being woken up receiving a blowjob. Its dark. You think its your girlfriend you just go with it.
Next morning you find out it wasn't your girlfriend. The only other person around was your roommate.
You are not gay for getting off. Just because you didn't know it was a guy doesn't make it wrong. You didn't go looking for it. It just happened.
So.
Question.
Do you think it makes him gay or is it ok?
I think it doesn't make him gay, but that doesn't mean it's ok. I would say that he is a victim of involuntary sodomy, which is a pretty serious felony.
Would it not obviously be if the recipient was a woman and they had hetero intercourse?
