Quote by milflover1996
Hmmm I still am an a virgin, too bad for me i never had a intimate relationship, well lots of my friend said they had this had that.
Had girlfriends before but never to bed.

Maybe its the way I think, I refuse on doing so cause i believe sex is truly wonderful when its done to one person for the rest of your life



So need your advice on either to continue being like this or maybe change and loosen up( enjoy life ;) )

Only you can decide what is right for you.

I was brought up in a strict Christian household, to believe that sex before marriage is wrong. I had very clear views on it up until a few years ago. Now I am of the mind that if a person cared for me very deeply, and I, for him, then it's okay. I think wanting to share such intimacy and making each other feel good is really lovely. I don't know what I think about marriage anymore anyway.

I have a nano-second of experience, but I cared about him very much. I was about eight hours away from telling him I was ready when he decided he wanted his ex, and I never did. But based on how I thought he felt about me, I would have.

I think what changed my feelings was not that I think nobody would ever want to marry me, but that there are different levels of intimacy, and unless we are willing to explore how we feel, and different ways of expressing ourselves, and making each other feel great, then we might be throwing away something that will allow us not only pleasure, but a connection we may never find in any other way. And I don't think it's a bad connection. I think it's a basic, wonderful connection.

If you choose to save that connection for somebody special, then that's wonderful. My somebody special might not be my husband, but I would have to care for them deeply, even if I am not in love with them, and vice versa.

There are also other things people can do to share fun and intimacy without penetrative sex, you know. Perhaps ask yourself how much you would like to share with a person. There's a whole world of exploration that doesn't necessarily mean penis-in-vagina (or even ass) if you wish to keep something back for a life partner. I think you can "loosen up and enjoy life" and still keep one part back for a life partner; I don't think it's all or nothing.

So, I'd say, don't worry too much, just look at the pros and cons, and enjoy the process. Trust me, I have spent years stressing about the subject!

I found a lot of the replies in these threads quite thought-provoking, so maybe you will too?

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst5318_still-a-virgin.aspx

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst13323_Sex-before-marriage-Or-marriage-before-sex.aspx

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst12536_how-do-you-view-sex.aspx


A forum search will find you countless threads on the subject, too.

Good luck!

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Different rules for different folks.

UK English has always made the most sense to me. It's logical.

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Authors write in the expectation of being read. Its most unlikely they would write on a desert island. Some hope to leave a legacy after death has silenced them forever. Words are our one way of getting at the future we will never see.

They enable the unlovely and the unattractive to enter the realm of desire. Fat unwholesome men, old ladies well past their prime, can in their imaginations be young studs or sex crazed beautiful young women.

But when the chips are down I would rather be popular between the sheets than between the pages.

Chips? Chips? NOM NOM! I'll have a battered pollack with mine, please.

When I first joined up, I saw "popular" authors as the ones with loads of high scores, many comments, and people following them. They were also the people with yellow ribbons, even if they had few stories.

Other "popular" people, sometimes authors, sometimes not, were the people who could banter back and forth with each other in the forums, sometimes alienating others, but most times being welcoming and friendly. That's what made them "popular".

Now that I have had time to build up a list of my own work, with a couple of ribbons and people kind enough to receive messages when I write some new material (whether they like it or not), I sort of have to re-evaluate what "poplular" means, since I never put myself in the definition I had when I first joined.

The rule of thumb to being generally popular, is that an author has built up a reputation for consistently great material (not just because of the genre, but because they are talented). People know their name, and their reputation, which is often earned, and sometimes not.

To me, how I view authors that are popular in my own reading, or how I would like to be "popular", means somebody who not only has a reputation for producing well-written material, but is able to really connect with their readers, to speak into their lives or spark their imagination in some way. They have to earn respect and their name and stories being shared. Only then are they popular in my own world. Other people may differ in what they look for, but I look beyond the reputation, and look at their style and quality. My "popular" authors are not usually on the wider "popular" list.

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I don't know why people bother posting threads like this. If someone gives an opinion other than "no, all dicks turn me on equally" they get their asses slammed for it and are ripe for the skewering. PC conformity at its finest.

So she doesn't like small dicks. She's entitled to her opinion. That's what makes threads enjoyable to read - variety and honesty. People are attracted to different things. Just because someone isn't attracted to a quality you possess doesn't make you any less of a person. Nor does it make them.

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but he hasnt fixed the constant booting problem,i still get bumped a few minutes after i enter a room and try to have a conversation with anyone

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I've had to reconsider making fun of all the poor lads here. Close to 100% of them on my friends list will be hurt now when I make any references towards them and their short "staff" or try to compensate any of their "short comings".

A girl just can't catch a break these days.

Hugs to you girly. I'm off to make you some gingerbread in the meantime.

I don't mind being mean to and about mean people. And politicians. Does that help?

Nom nom, Gingas!

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I felt so bad I messaged Shylass a private apology. This is my public one.

I never meant to hurt anyone in any way, shape or form by my posting. It was thoughtless and callous of me to do so.
I believe I am initially at fault for making the original posting and will take full responsibility for being such a heinous bitch.
I'm very sorry to anyone I may have hurt. I was not thinking and I have no excuse.

Sincerely,
Angel

You aren't a heinous bitch! Like I said, there's nothing wrong with having a giggle. And some of us really are funny-looking.

I just know how I would feel if I was one of the ladies posted. One person in particular from Lush saw a picture of me, and told me what he thought (cruelly). If that picture, just a picture of a lass who loves her cookies and has a funny-looking face, was posted, I would be gutted.

As you know, we all have insecurities and things people have said to us that were unthinking and/or hurtful. And I'm aware that whilst there are some brave funny-looking people here, there are others who aren't brave. There's enough condemnation in the world even without laughing at how we look.

We can all have our opinions, that's fine. But in doing so, we (I'm speaking generally) need to be aware of the consequences of expressing them in certain ways. I put my foot in the poo ALL the time and am constantly having to apologise for it.

I feel bad that I made any of you feel bad, because I know you are genuinely upset about it, and for that I'm sorry.

It's true that people take one look at certain pictures or find out that the body shape of the person they've been chatting up turns them off and they run away after being mean, or ignore them after a lot of fun exchanges. It's happened to another friend of mine on here. I do see the funny side of what you were doing, honest. I just couldn't laugh.

So I'm sorry to be the party-pooper, but I couldn't let it go, sorry. And I proper love you guys for the apology, whether private or public, and I'm sorry for the stick up my (fat) ass.

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No, we did not identify anything. Honestly, I have no response to this. Its a joke, right?? Actually, I'll just say this, I feel sorry for your mother..Your father must be a piece of work..

Maybe his mum is a bitch?

(Sorry, I couldn't resist it).

I don't know why people have to be one thing or the other. I have friends who hate being alone, and have to have a partner no matter what, even at the expense of their family and social life. Likewise, I know a few who prefer not to have any sort of commitment at all, just having random sex when they can get it.

I have fears about what guys are like based on the few experiences I have (not very pleasant, for the most part), but it wouldn't swear me off all of them for life. The hope that they aren't all liars and abusers some how manages to cling on, no matter how much it might make me bitter or afraid. And if it did swear me off them all, that would be my fault, not theirs.

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What was this thread about? I'll have to go and read the original post because I can't remember.

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For me, the intimacy is enough on those occasions. But to see the disappointment in his eyes, to have him question his manhood, is unbearable. So if me faking it on occasion to prevent that, then so be it. He satisfies me completely and I will do anything to make him know that.

I understand.

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You what???

Huh?

Come again?

Quote by lifeafterdeath


You're damn right I am.

Let me get this straight... You actually wanted us to think you're a wanker?

Okay.

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The right-hand picture of my signature has spazzed out. Frank's stories are obviously too hot, or something.

It's back to normal now.

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This gets asked about twice a week.

And following that helpful message, here are some links you might find useful:

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst23807_pubic-hairhow-muchif-any.aspx

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst24690_Do-you-like-your-men-shaven.aspx

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst23496_Manscaping.aspx

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst23344_Manhair.aspx

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Shylass- Maybe you have been on the other side..people who do lie in those beds and are guests might have other thoughts and desires which could be difficult to understand..