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Thank you Ms Daisy! Yes it counts. Thank you sweet girl. You deserve a ginja.

Ta. I don't need to be entered into the draw, though.

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eh I got bored, you and I have different perspective on reality and that's fine.
We could go on for days like this really, but I don't want to waste my time on this and tbh it's kinda annoying.
oh and ps. I could have those friendships it's just I don't want them.
We have different opinion on what friendship means I guess.
But if there is sexual tension, or pretension then it's not friendship. It's just someone you know. If you ever dream/think about having sex with your friend well that's fucked up.
oh and one more thing: I don't let my gfs hang out with their male friends because I know what I want with girls. It's not a trust issue, she wouldn't be my GF if I worry constantly if shes gonna cheat on me.
But shit happens, guys want to get in your panties, girls want something else and guys tend to abuse that.
Im done.

I did wonder how long you'd go for.



Good luck, asian2013!

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What if your partner don't want you hanging out with them at all? What do you do? Break up? And you love him.
You certainly don't go and talk with your friends because you look stupid and your partner looks like some ****. So you just slowly push them away.
And yes It's pretty small town, like 300k residents
But It's not like I cant have that I simply don't want to waste my time.
What if I fall in love with her? You know that shit can happen just by spending time with her, you found out that she is fucking amazing person and you fall in love, then you are screwed.

I do have few girl friends but it's mostly about hooking up. And when either one of us gets in a relationship, it's over. And we know it.

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And change the existing smaller head and shoulders, to several behind each other, indicating friends?

Do you mean like a Sausage Link? Because I read that can be dangerous. If you provided the lube, I reckon I'd be up for that.

<~~~ Clicketty Click

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oh many times actually, but there are things that ruin it. First- Relationship, when either one of us gets in a relationship partner gets jealous and you have to stop hanging with them start ignoring them and taht sucks.
Rumors that can hurt both, we are walking, going for a coffee and people start talking shit like they are dating and that is usually very bad.
I don't know in my friend circles or my town actually, when a guy is walking with a girl or gone for coffee, people think they are either fucking or dating. No third option

@a_chica
That's all cool but they are more like family than friends? You don't fuck your relatives.

Co-workers neighbors don't count. You don't want to fuck someone you see on daily basis because things can get very awkward if someone fucks up.

BRING IT!

In my own experience, I have had friends who, when in a new relationship, or who get married, do spend more time with their partner/spouse. That's normal and natural, and sadly for us, as it should be. However, the ones who ignore you that you never see unless by accident? They weren't real friends to begin with. My real friends make the effort to meet up. That's both sexes.

I know those stupid rumours. It comes from small-minded idiots with no life of their own, and nothing better to do. As long as the pertinent people have no issue, then it's no issue. It does sound like you come from a fairly small town, where such rumours are rife, sadly.

I can only hope that one day, you will be in a place to enjoy friendships with more people where their sex and gender is not an issue at all. Because it's possible, honestly. Good luck!

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So much hate :C
To ya'll sayin that those kind of friendships exist, can you go for a beer/coffee with your opposite gender friend?
Can you do random shit with that friend?
And if they are in relationship how does their partner feel about that?
I didn't mean friend as someone who you see occasionally, go to clubs together and shit.

Yes, when I'm well enough, I regularly go fishing with my friends (most of whom are male). And we meet up for drinks, walks and barbeques. It's just what friends do.

Those male friends who have partners are fine with us going out doing stuff. Not everything is tinted with sex tones for everyone. It's just people doing friendly people stuff together.

Perhaps all your female friends are either so attractive that it's impossible not to see them with a sexual slant, or you've not been lucky enough to meet people who share more in common with you yet, that just happen to not ring your bell?

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"Thank you" to everyone who posted.

I am aware the brevity of my initial post meant that it would be difficult to comment. Part of the reason is that we met on lush, and he is still a member here; another reason is that we are both private individuals. Each of your post describes an element of our friendship, and we've done most, if not all, of the suggestions, and usually, it leads to a few good weeks, seemingly improving before some silly incident (and sometimes, there's so actual incident too - at least, from what I can tell!!) causes the break-down again.

The purpose of starting this topic was to see if there was a way to improve a friendship, if not this one, then future ones.

Once again, Thank you for your time to provide your opinions.

In my opinion, good communication is the key for any relationship to sustain itself and/or develop. Without both hearing what the other is saying, as well as being open about your own needs/thoughts/feelings, then a healthy relationship is not only unequal, but also impossible.

If you both met on Lush, perhaps sexual needs were in the forefront of your minds, and it turns out that actually, you don't get on as people, even if a positive sexual tension exists. It's a possibility.

In my relationships with my friends, each of us has character traits that annoy the other, or upset them, etc. However, for the larger part, our "fun" or positive traits far out-weigh the silly, niggly things. We either ignore or simply accept the negatives because the person as a whole is somebody with whom we wish to spend time with. We make each others' lives happier.

However, if you are finding difficulties, I would ask both of you, what is it that leads to arguments and disagreements? If you like each other, are those things so trivial to your friendship that you could find a way to apologise and work together to either avoid them or work to change negative habits/reactions that hurt the other?

Perhaps you have different world views. Maybe one of you is more/less sensitive than the other. Maybe the positive traits cannot out-weigh the negative, and really, you just don't "click". How would each of you like the other to move forward in the areas where you clash? Is what the other would like you to do, something you will consider and attempt?

Who knows? Only you two do. I suggest trying to be honest with each other. If your friendship is important enough, it's worth the turmoil of trying to sort it out, in my opinion. If it cannot be sorted to the point where both of you are equally happy with the state of things more often than not, or built up and made better people because of each other, then it is destructive. That's bad. There is no shame in ending that, in my opinion.




For the record, I don't see why two people can't be friends, regardless of their genitalia. Inherent differences can be a wonderful thing, and are not specifically tied to it always being about sex. My friendships with the opposite sex are stronger than most of my relationships with my own. But I don't fancy most of them; I just love them because they're great people.

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That's quite some milestone!

A huge thank you to everyone who has published with us over the years. You make this community, what it is today, the best erotica site on the web.

Bottoms up!

It's a bit late now, but I took this screenshot (and then forgot to send it to you):





Effing well done!

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Just seems like you would like to... Just saying that acting like Eeyore from Winnie the pooh is what inhibits you from being able to flirt and especially prevents others from wanting to flirt with you. It's hard to see oneself from other's perspectives but think about how you would act around a guy who's constantly mopey, on the verge of tears and generally feeling sorry for himself. Would you want to flirt with him?

Believe it or not, some people like Eeyore. And Eeyore is okay with that.

For the record, you just described 50% of my male friends. And Eeyore is okay with that, too. But thanks.

This was just a thread for a bit of a sharing with others who maybe aren't as suave as some. Just an owning of reality, no more, no less.

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Sad sacking it up all the time is a major turnoff... Just saying.

Just as well I'm not trying to turn anyone on, then. Innit.

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Moi? *shocked face* Never!

What a surprise.

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I'm SERIOUS...

Investigating PTSD...

(VERY INTERESTING condition...)

Most 'in the news' for what SOLDIERS experience, (and validly...) I acknowledge a different experience... A CIVIL (???) trauma that might also have serious if very similar echoes...

I see it in myself and in several friends who I talk to (Including Here...) about mental issues... The WEIRDEST thing about being Manic Depressive, (and I am...) is that it doesn't PRECLUDE you from being affected by other mental issues...

I'm DIAGNOSED Bi-Pi/Manic Depressive... (But I have been FUCKED UP NOW for MONTHS which isn't about that... THAT'S being CLINICALLY DEPRESSED... (Just LONELY as all fuck and not mostly able to REALLY TALK...)

Personally, I find INPUT and INTERACTION a great way to get out of the dark... (The SNAG is that you generally don't want/bother to do that...) I have REAL FRIENDS here... (All will say I've not been myself for quite a while...)

A post like this IS GOOD because you get responses from people who live with what YOU live with...

And in a way that surely helps...

(Even just to know IT'S A THING it's not all you ARE!!!)

I'm Mr Cyber Brilliant, here... (Haven't done that IN WEEKS!!!!)

I always tell myself it will pass...

So far it has... (This time I'm waiting... Waiting... WAITING...)

I have a SERIOUS business meeting on Tuesday. It WILL go well... But I STILL feel like I'm acting...

You FIGHT it every day... You FUCKING FIGHT IT...

(They are BASTARD DEMONS and they're not YOU...)

They go away. (Until next time...) Then you have to fight the FUCKERS again...

xx SF

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Oh, is this the line for cock-cookies? :S
Do you have anything that caters to those with a low-cock-cookie dietary requirement?
I'm cock-cookie intolerant, so I can't go anywhere near them :P

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what no red heads? U.S. Gingers do have souls.

But I eated it, so BiMale73 is right - no cookies.

Instead, here is another ginger cock...

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Is that what the kids are calling it these days?

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We all don't like small cocks

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Batgirl told me specifically in an email that she wouldn't share that story with anyone but me! I can't believe she lied to me :P

I think my best option is to commit a mild crime (perhaps jaywalking) and both of them will be bound by their crime-fighting vow to come and "sort me out" ;) I just hope that Batman and Robin don't catch me before the girls do :S

I have it on good authority that Batman and Robin will only keep you in custody until the lasses get there. It's not worth the nagging if they sort you out themselves.

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Dani, with her Fun Police Badge, is the real thread killer around here ;)

Edit: damn, don't leave me hanging here folks. Post!

The ubiquitous "titties" is the salve on that burn, lad.

I actually got online this morning to make sure I wasn't the last poster in here. And now I am AGAIN!

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I'm concerned because I want as many people as possible to read what I write (I know, I'm weird like that). There's no chance they'll enjoy it if they don't read it! I don't want a potential reader to give my story a skip because it has an artificially low rating (or because it's visibility is compromised). My point being that readers are less likely to enjoy my work and stay to the end if it's artificially broken up in spots that serve an arbitrary word limit rather than the flow of the story.

My longest story consists of 9,931 words. Before I tore into it, it was well over 12,000. Even with its edits, I was still accused of over-indulgence in my scene creation and character development.

In general, it is my shorter stories that generate the votes and re-reads. Perhaps I'm just better at writing shorter stories. Or maybe I'm crap at longer ones. Either way, I chose to publish on Lush, and agree to fit into the guidelines, rules, policies and preferences of the site, regardless of how I prefer to write my stories.

One of the things I've learned here is having control over my words (only in stories, not in forums), and the power less or more words can have. There are other places to publish one's stories that have no boundaries, or more "acceptable" boundaries, but Lush's standards are a great way to gain control over one's writing skills. If it doesn't fit the guideline format, have you the skill to make it so? Harsh editing can be a great thing.

However, if you're so great a writer that you mustn't deign to compromise and find natural breaks in your stories (as is your right), then you ought to properly publish and sell the whole thing for your readers to wank over all at once. If you're a great writer, then pubLushed story readers will click the link for when it gets to the sex. They'll be absolutely gagging for that next installment with all the promise of juices and squelching, and you won't need to worry.

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A barefoot masquerade ball at the Bat Cave?
Holy comically sweet erotica! Perhaps I'll finally get to meet Bat Girl!! :P

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I heard a rumor you guys threw a party for me in my absence. Thanks!! *wanders up to the table for the cake crumbs*

I miss all you lovely people too. Life has a way of being well... life and consuming. I'll be back, but im busy right now.

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You know you're at a grown up birthday party when you're allowed to wear shoes in the jumping castle, and you get to take home suggestive sweets in your goody bag