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joe71
2 hours ago
Bisexual Cis Male, 58
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I think "Do you have a fetish?" and the OP's actual initial question are two very different things. Fetish, to me, means something either very non-mainstream that turns a person on (or maybe kink is a better word?), or something mainstream that you're so intensely into that it overwhelms everything else.

I love boobs, more than butts or legs, but I wouldn't consider that a fetish. Most people who love women love boobs. Big fucking deal. But I were so into them that I could only get off by being completely focused on them, to the point of excluding the vagina, the rest of the woman's body or the woman as a person ... now that would be a boob fetish. Ass is also not generally a fetish, nor are legs. Feet could be, since that's not as common, and people who are into them are often really into them.

Even my Bisexuality, while not quite mainstream, hardly counts as a fetish. It's just an orientation.

There are quite a few guys on Lush I would like to go down on. A few women too.

I'm getting somewhere on mine! I'd already figured out the type of art, the characters and the (sweeping, multi-location) setting, but it took a while to sort out the plot. Yes, there will be a plot.

And I just finished drafting the first of five scenes I have plotted out. So, progress.

AFTERNOON UPDATE: finalized the title and created cover images.

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So Pablo Picasso was never called an asshole

Love that song.

In my newest story, Becoming A Man: Bowling for Real, a double-date of Cosmic bowling under blacklight reveals truths of desire for everyone involved. Sarah shows Brenda the pleasures of being with a woman, confirming truths she suspected. Matt and I continue to explore manly pleasures as he reintegrates the lessons of the previous story, Becoming A Man: A Becoming Man. And Matt and Sarah will have a further surprise to reveal later in the evening.

Becoming A Man: Bowling for Real

A night of bowling under blacklight reveals the truth of everyone's desires.

Bisexual

"Bowling for Real" has just been released, making four Becoming A Man stories published this past month. Next, "Rapid Release in her Renegade" (my first Quickie story) is fully ready to publish, and the first draft of "Traction Trouble" (my first Medical) is complete. That will wrap up the Summer of Matt stretch of that series.

I need to keep a couple of planned efforts - "Succumbing to Good Intentions," and initial drafts of my Halloween-related stories - on hold, to make mental space for my contest entry. I have a good idea of the premise, multi-location setting (which will require a ton of research) and characters that I want for my competition entry, but the exact plot points and sexual encounters have yet to fully coalesce in my mind.

In parallel with that, I will continue putting together my Steampunk story, which I am getting very excited about. The vast majority of my stories so far have very deliberately been written such that they could take place anywhere between 1960s and present-day America. I believe this will be my first historical period piece, and it's set at a very specific point in time.

Did many times when I was a young man. With a number of different women, including a several-months GF who was substantially younger than me. I was highly experienced at that point, but she wasn't ready. Although I often wished she'd get ready - we had a great relationship, and she had a killer body - you have got to respect where your partner is at.

Now that I'm pushing 60, the question is almost completely irrelevant. There are almost no "virginal" women remotely near my age, and I would never sleep with a woman young enough for that to be a significant possibility. But hang on ...

* All this assumes that by "a virgin" you mean the narrow, obsolete definition, "a woman who hasn't experienced PIV sex." The semantics have evolved In modern times, both as the result of #MeToo, and also the Saddlebacking mass delusion that led millions of young ladies to have anal sex and pretend they were still virgins. Get fucking real, people. If you've had substantial, mutually pleasurable sexual activity - certainly if it was unclothed and led to orgasm - you might still be a vag-virgin, but you're not a virgin in any meaningful sense. Especially not if you've had a guy's cock up your ass.

** This also presumes we're talking about opposite-sex pairings. As a Bi male, most of my peers are still virgins when it comes to same-sex contact. I probably wouldn't "sleep with" another man who's never been with another guy unless he as looking to change that. But I would sleep with a man who's an anal virgin, and I hope he would respect me the same way. I'm a bit anxious about anal, and saving that cherry for someone I care about who'll be gentle and understanding.

Personally, I'd love to do it - but only if subjugation and humiliation aren't on the table. That kind of stuff is a hard turnoff for me. I understand that many people really enjoy being on the receiving end of it, though.

No "happy accidents" like that for me this time, although it has happened to me in the past. I do have a basic premise forming now, though the plot details are still a bit sketchy.

Sometimes I manage to get my entry submitted during the first half, or even the early days, of a competition, but that seems pretty unlikely this time. Getting this right will require a lot of research. I'm also starting to put a ton of thought and research into my Steampunk story, which for seasonality reasons absolutely must be done in July. Yesterday I spent some time considering how to make that story artier and eligible for the competition to avoid overloading myself, but I really don't think that's the direction that one wants to go.

Embrace the moob! My fantasy mind is starting to lean into it, and I’m increasingly having thoughts about sucking on a pair of moobs. I once slept with a woman who had hairy nipples (and small tits) when I was younger, so I know I can handle it and even find the idea sexy.

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Elected by majority vote

You keep repeating this, but being elected by a popular vote does not give you the right to shred the Constitution or trample the rights of the minority as Trump is doing. Our Founders were gravely concerned about both prospects, rightly fearing that they could be the undoing of our Republic. Maybe study some fucking history. Oh wait, the cons are shredding that too.

This offends me not only as an American, but as a Christian.

Because the people who want to force this shit on schoolkids are usually trying to teach a twisted, blasphemous version of Christianity, not Christ’s actual message of peace, love, tolerance, compassion and forgiveness. I’m so sick of His beautiful teachings being perverted by people who are at best misguided, and at worst full of hate.

Then you probably shouldn’t. Unfortunately we’ve built a society that’s overdependent on driving, but if you’ve managed this long, looks like you’ve got it figured out well enough. And as you've said in other threads, money's not an issue, so apparently the cost of Uber isn't a problem.

I voted earlier to axe it, but now I'm leaning towards keep. Maybe I'm biased, having just met the Prolific Author threshold on my way to eventual Omnium.

I do have a series in progress (It's A Date!) that has been on pause for a couple of years but will belong under Novels. Effectively, Act I is complete (though I didn't realize that's what it was at the time), and I've since plotted out the remainder of a three-act Novella story arc. When I return to it in the next few months, I intend to put all the chapters under Novels, so that it's a cohesive whole in a single place. As I think the Novels category was intended.

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I look over and see the biggest dick I’ve ever seen up to this day! I’m not exaggerating, it was over 8 inches.

He tugs on it a little , then sits how I was and easily puts 3 or4 inches in his mouth and sucks for at least 30 seconds. I was jealous as hell.

Fun encounter! Too bad you were like me, and didn't take the initiative to solve each other's problems together.

Is the sky blue on a sunny day? Is the ocean wet? This fucking question just won't die.

I'm a very oral person, so tasting you would be top of my list.

Well, good. It's a lot less harmful if you're letting this happen at a party than in front of the grocery store. I would not at all be surprised if you could peel one (or two!) of these women off from the group and go do something sexual with more privacy. Either at the party or afterward.

It's pretty obvious you want to have sex with a smaller woman who will degrade and/or dominate you. You want a woman who will fondle and suckle those big breasts, maybe even smack them a bit. I suspect you probably want to play with their little tittles, too. And I'm guessing you'll want to escalate to some kind of orgasmic release since your husband isn't giving you that, and as you say, this is making you horny as hell.

Finding a safer, more private outlet for these desires will keep you out of bigger trouble, and give you the strength to stand up to anyone who tries to humiliate you in full public view, allowing which is self-destructive and also (as I mentioned) harmful to your husband as well as the confidence and safety of other women.

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Another cherry to be popped here, but I also suspect I'm a top so maybe I could take both of yours. We three should meet up sometime for an MMM, perhaps. 😎

Who knows? Maybe someday. I might be vers, so maybe you could pump me and tickle my prostate, making me squirt into Hasabrain. Fun to think about.

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There was an instance this year of a woman who took Lush stories word for word and published them on Amazon for sale as her work. I tried to report that to Amazon (as a friend of the real author), but not being my work, they rejected my request to have them taken down.

That's disturbing that they'd rule like a court of law that you don't have "standing," and refuse to look into it. Did you at least let the impacted authors know, so that they could complain to Amazon? Lord knows, if someone did this to me, I would have no idea.

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Is there a wait for submissions to be look at?

Yes. As a Platinum member, I find it to be 2-5 days. For others, it can be a week, sometimes longer. The wait times got really long earlier this year (I think up to two weeks in some cases) as the moderators were really overloaded. They are underpaid (i.e., not paid) and overworked, and they read every single word of every entry, including some that are really poorly written or violate Lush rules. And they are now absolutely inundated with AI slop. How they keep from losing their minds, I have no idea.

Wish I could, but I'm not looking to do anything physical at this time. Sounds fun, though, especially if you were to reciprocate. I still have my cherry too.

Taking this on face value, it is quite a situation. I can't say that I've ever heard of anyone - male or female - getting away with publicly groping and humiliating someone like that. I would suggest that you:

1. Do not tolerate being treated like this publicly. It is sexual assault, period. Even if it secretly turns you on, which is something I encourage you to explore some other way. If it continues, consider pressing charges. If doing so blows up the social order of your town, too fucking bad. This behavior must never be tolerated, and doing so gives them license to do it to others in the future.

2. Explore your internal feelings for other women. Like you said at the beginning, don't worry about labels, especially the binary label "straight," which is basically meaningless. The vast majority of people have at least some occasional attraction to the same sex. You probably have the most common sexual orientation there is, the peak of the bell curve: those that Kinsey described as "Predominantly heterosexual, but at least incidentally homosexual" in their attractions. Yes, it's normal.

And let's talk about the meaning of the word "attraction" or "attracted," since you said, "I'm not attracted to them but at the same time I'm interested in sex with them." Yes, you are sexually attracted to them, because that's literally what "interested in sex with" means. You're just not romantically attracted. Those are two different things, although many struggle to even recognize a distinction, finding that their sexual attraction aligns perfectly with their romantic attraction. Until some point in their lives when it doesn't, which is what you are describing. This is normal.

Enjoy the freedom this can give you! Exploring sex with someone who attracts you sexually, but doesn't pose a romantic risk to your marriage, might be exactly what you need.

And speaking of your marriage, given that yours is sexless, it's especially normal to become more interested in the same sex. Your subconscious may be steering you that way, because it feels less like cheating. Again, normal.

3. Explore your submissive side. You may be getting turned on by this because you enjoy having someone else in control or otherwise subjugating you. That's normal too (and particularly common amongst people like yourself who are used to being socially dominant). But it would be a lot safer for you to explore your dom/sub feelings privately than in public like this.

4. Consider actually hooking up with a local woman who turns you on and you think you can trust not to humiliate you publicly. It might not be any of these three, but I think it's likely that other women, seeing what's happened, may come up to you privately and express sympathy. Not only might you find a mutual interest with one of these women, one of them might even be willing to dominate you in private, but in a more respectful way. If you don't find anyone locally, and - as you say - you have plenty of money, it is very easy to find dom women online who will give you want. It may even be that you don't actually want to actually have sex with a woman, you just want one to dominate you. The Internet is crawling with dom women of all strips who will indulge you. In fact, I get the impression there are a few mistresses right here in the Lush membership who get off on that kind of thing, and might do it for free.

5. You might want to examine some deeper questions too. Are you allowing youself to be publicly shamed (and presumably socially shunned as a result) because you hate this town and you're trying to self-sabotage your presence there? There may be a better way out than with your tails between your legs. I use the plural because your husband is also being shamed by extension. Are you on some level allowing this to happen out of resentment towards him?

Best of luck to you.

Matt has been stuck in a rut since high school, acting like a bit too much of a man's man. Although he and Joe trade bro-jobs regularly, he's never progressed beyond that level. Joe is certain there is more depth to Matt's Bisexuality locked away somewhere, but he's been struggling to find the key. And in a Very Special Episode, Becoming A Man: A Becoming Man, Matt hands it to him.

I've been wanting to write a cross-dressing story for some time, knowing that it's an important enhancement for many Bi men's fantasy and/or sex lives. So here you have me covering yet another variation of Bisexuality, just in time to wrap up Pride Month! Matt's blustery macho attitude is what caused Sarah to leave him at the end of high school. Now she's finished college and moving back to town, and he wants his true love back. So he shocks me by showing up for dinner as Mattie, a feminine alter ego I never knew existed.

Making himself vulnerable to me in exploring not only his feminine side, but (an even bigger shock) his submissive side, is not only the key to Matt(ie)'s deeper Bisexuality, it just might be the key to becoming a better-balanced man and winning back his beloved Sarah.

Becoming A Man: A Becoming Man

I've been trying to figure out how to help Matt unlock the next level of his Bisexuality. Tonight, he hands me the key.

Cross-dressing

No, I am not transsexual, nor even gender questioning, nor really into cross-dressing. But I took the test anyway.

I later found is that the quiz is "designed specifically for the uncertain pre-transitional Male-to-Female gender dysphoric," but I still took it because the question page doesn't clarify its intended audience. I had some difficulties answering some things, because questions like "Why do you dress like a woman?" don't allow for a negative or "not applicable" response, and "How do you self identify?" doesn't allow for a fully Male response. Also, it seems that more of the questions reference stereotypical "male" vs "female" abilities and attributes (math, spatial reasoning, finding your way around; versus music, writing, empathy, reading people's emotions, remembering faces) than about how you feel about your identity, appearance and life experience with respect to gender.

Somehow my own result was a score of -75 (on a scale of what I'm not sure), corresponding to "COGIATI classification THREE, ANDROGYNE." "What this means is that the Combined Gender Identity And Transsexuality Inventory has classified your internal gender identity to be essentially androgynous, both male and female at the same time, or possibly neither. In some cultures in history, you would be considered to be a third sex, independent of the polarities of masculine or feminine. Your gender issues [sic] are intrinsic to your construction, and you will most likely find your happiness playing with expressing both genders as you feel like it."

That's pretty far off. Although I am very good at certain classic "masculine"-identified attributes like geometry, math, finding my way around, I have also striven throughout my life for balance, being very good with music and with (duh, I'm a writer on Lush) the written word, and most of my workplaces have strongly valued teamwork and collaboration. So apparently that makes me Androgyne? To me, these things are about me expressing my abilities and interests, not about me expressing one gender or the other. Although I'm not ultra-masculine in my physical appearance (definitely not big, tall, hairy, muscular, etc.), I've never thought of myself as female or feminine, nor has anyone close to me ever suggested that, nor have I ever once been aware that someone misidentified me as non-male. While do I try not to avoid toxic masculinity, that doesn't make me Androgyne. I am well aware of the "third sex" concept and I respect it, but it ain't remotely me.

So here is my question to those who are genderquestioning, genderqueer or fully transitioned: Given that it focuses more on traditional gender expectations than it does on your personal experience, feelings and expression of gender, is this test helpful to you? I understand that gender identity can't completely be separated from societal norms, and that one often becomes aware of gender dysphoria as the result of their individual traits not matching the expectations of their assigned gender ... so might this be helpful for a younger audience still exploring their abilities and figuring out who they are? I have known many, many people with multiple attributes that misalign versus the expectations: guys who are terrible at directions or are exceptionally empathetic and collaborative; and cis (and trans) women who are really good at math and spatial reasoning or are crudely insensitive. Does focusing so heavily on traditional gender stereotypes contribute to the quality of this questionnaire? Do you find it validating?

No, it isn't monochrome, just (mostly) inverse, with text appearing as light grey on dark grey. Everything that appears in normal mode as red text is pink in dark mode. But you're right that the hearts aren't red, as I had thought, so I had that part wrong. When you click on "Like", the rectangle surrounding the light grey heart and the count turns from the same dark grey as the background to black, so you can easily see that you've hit Like. But when you return to the same page later, it's no longer highlighted in this way.

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This happens in all modes. Likes are temporary, disappearing at random. It's been that way for ages and reported many times.

No, this is a different bug than that. I think you're describing how the Like count resets to 0 on certain items, like Media images, Group posts and Story comments. That indeed happens in both modes.

This one happens on items (like Stories themselves, and I think also Forum posts) where the Like count is correct and Likes don't disappear without a reason. The issue is that it doesn't correctly show with a red heart whether you've liked it or not. Works properly in light mode, not in dark.

There is a minor bug in Dark Mode that the little "Likes" hearts only show up as red temporarily when you click Like. During subsequent visits to the same page they won't show as red. So it might look like you haven't Liked something before, even though you have. And then you think, "Huh! How could I not have Liked that before?" So you click the Like button, and the counter goes down instead of up. And you click Like again to restore it. Which I'm sure results in the owner of that past getting a second notification.

Minor annoyance, but definitely an annoyance.

Having just split my recent county fair story into two chapters due to its length, I've submitted "A Becoming Man," the sequel that finally shows me the way through Matt's facade to get him to explore his Bisexuality more deeply. And with those two Fair entries in the Money genre, I've achieved Prolific Author status! Going for Omnium in 2027.

I've also nearly finished the first draft of "Bowling for Real," in which Brenda (whom I met in Fair Fare Trade) gets a turn at finally exploring her own Bisexuality, and in which multiple life truths will be revealed and life decisions made. There might be a Medical story involving Matt too.

And I'm starting on "Succumbing to Good Intentions," the second chapter in my gay Succumbing to Destiny series, as well as "Oregon Steam," my gay Steampunk entry. And with Halloween just a few months away, I'm fleshing out my ideas for my Monster story, and possibly Horror too.