I fully support you on this. Cross-dressing might be fun gender play, but ultimately it’s just play - if you’re still living as a man. Being actually real-deal trans is a different level of commitment

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I hear there is a trend of not shaving or trimming anymore., like hairy armpits and legs too. ewwww that is for guys ffs

i like to wax...or at least shave. I would consider permenant hair removal. when i win the lottery

Have heard that rumor for fifteen years now, with precious little evidence that the tide has turned.

Mid-late fifties and over the past decade I don’t always get hard like I used to. Sometimes when I jerk off, I’m not fully rigid, but still cum just fine.

I tried viagra a couple of times, years ago. Didn’t seem to make much difference, but maybe worth trying again.

I think that when I do finally seek a male sexual partner (as looks increasingly likely before I turn 60, though I can’t elaborate right now), I’d want to l to find a fellow aging guy who’s patient and tolerant about that kind of thing, as I know I will be. As long as we can jerk and suck each other off, I’ll be thrilled.

That said, it’s intermittent. I still OFTEN get hard as a rock. Apropos to this being the LGBTQ+ forum, this happens most often when I’m watching bi/gay porn or thinking about man-man action. I’ll always be Bi, but maybe I’m getting gayer with age, which I’m totally fine with. In other words, I may still be able to top you.

No preset limit, BUT I don't think I could likely relate sexually to someone who's eighteen. I did catch myself ogling an eighteen-year-old girl a little too openly when I was forty, but that was a very long time ago.

It's not a hard rule, but the classic half-plus-seven guideline has always seemed like a good ballpark for an age range I consider attractive. That would put the lower bound around mid-thirties ... and the upper limit around 100. Yikes! OK, I can be open-minded.

So you’re asking on a very horny smut site where to find gay guys who are not horny but still want to chat? Do I have that right?

You might want to find a chat site that is not as sexually oriented. Maybe Reddit?

Congratulations to you both! Well-deserved in both cases, both excellent avatars.

As for my own flaming avatar. I intend to keep it even if Pride Month is over. Wouldn’t have done it without this thread, so thanks to ALL contributors for so much inspiration!

It’s because we live in a fake democracy in which both parties bend over for the plutocrats that actually rule us. Sure, the Republicons are better at spewing hate and grooming us all for a near future filled with increasing atrocities, but since when did the Dems actually do something that shows they care about real working people?* They both take money from the same overlords. Divide and conquer, folks. As long as they can make us see each other as the enemy …

* Answer: 1993. And working people have noticed. That’s how we’ve ended up in this new level of Hell with the Down button stuck in the ON position.

OMG, never experienced this, nor did I realize until this very moment that it could be a thing. Now I want to! Sounds amazing.

This effect will definitely make its way into my next MFF story.

My results are as expected too. Although my Bisexuality, my love for hairy pussy and my pee fetish make me an apparent outlier, and while I support open relationships and public sex, I have no interest in dominating, submitting to, degrading, being degraded by, controlling or being controlled by others, not even as play. I’m not judging others who are into those things, to be clear, as long as everyone freely consents, but I just don’t find them sexy at all. So apparently I'm pretty vanilla. Fine. I’m satisfied with this:

90% Voyeur
84% Non-monogamist
70% Vanilla
43% Exhibitionist
33% Experimentalist
16% Submissive
8% Dominant
0% Daddy/Mommy
0% Rigger
0% Ageplayer
0% Brat
0% Brat tamer
0% Degrader
0% Degradee
0% Little
0% Masochist
0% Master/Mistress
0% Owner
0% Primal (Hunter)
0% Pet
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Rope bunny
0% Sadist
0% Slave
0% Switch

Someone asked me this in a PM the other day. My response was John Cusack or Maggie Gyllenhall.

But come to think of it, conversely I'd just as gladly go down on Joan Cusack, or on Jake Gyllenhall.

Also a recent pic of Jean-Luc Picard has me thinking I'd gladly blow Patrick Stewart too. Probably a better chance with him than with Kristen Stewart above, who I'm sure would prefer the Lioness, but I wouldn't turn her down in the off chance she'd let me.

Speaking of Enterprise commanders, I'd still do William Shatner, even in his nineties.

I could do this all day, going through the degrees of separation between hot celebrities. Speaking of which, Kevin Bacon is probably tasty.

I’m Bisexual and have no interest whatsoever in cross-dressing or otherwise acting feminine. You will find that many bi guys are into those things and many are not. That said, I’d do it - and find it sexy - if my partner was into it.

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Most of them don't. They say they are bi because of fear, or boredom. Most bisexual men especially the married ones, will always crave cock, and a woman does not have a cock, so therefore a bisexual man needs to admit that he's gay instead.

Attitudes like this make the problem of Bisexual Erasure even worse.

While it is true that some men who are actually gay start their coming-out process by first claiming bisexuality, that does NOT mean everyone who identifies as bi is on that path. You are massively overgeneralizing from minimal data. If anything, the fact that your belief is so widespread discourages real bi men from identifying as such (publicly and/or in their own minds), because they know a lot of people won’t believe them.

It doesn’t matter how much cock you suck, or want to suck, or how much you love having another man squirt hot white cum in your ass. Are you still sexually an d romantically attracted to women? Do you enjoy sneaking a peek down a woman’s cleavage and imagine yourself suckling on those sweet teats? Do you love the taste of pussy and running your tongue through a woman’s succulent folds?

Every gay guy I know gives a hard pass on all three of those things. Conversely, if you like those things, then Bi-town is your final destination, and it is not just a stop on the road to Gayville. Sexuality-erasing bigotry notwithstanding.

In my five years on Lush, I have met quite a few fellow middle-aged guys who find themselves craving dick more and more, but still love pussy. We fucking exist. Stop negating us.

After many years of only rarely penetrating my ass with a toy, I’ve started doing it again, and have recently given myself prostate ejaculations three separate times. And while I was more or less right when I said above that it wasn’t quite the same as a true orgasm, it was really fucking pleasurable and more than I remembered. Plus it made the actual orgasm more intense when I did finally stroke that out of myself.

Highly recommended! And just enjoy the pleasure. Don’t worry whether it “makes” you gay or bi (although for me that is not a problem).

I've published a couple of Midlife Renewal chapters this month and while it's been fun to write the testosterone-addled, four-chapter rental Cabin sequence, I'm ready to bring some femininity back into the story already. While I know what I want to happen in the next 2-3 chapters, I've been struggling with how I want to write it. Sure, I know the basic sequences of events and sexual choreography, but any keymonkey can write about connecting body parts with each other. How do I keep the writing fresh, emotionally involving, and maybe even a little surprising or suspenseful, especially with characters that are already well-developed?

Fortunately, I went on a long dog walk today, and while I was listening to music and struggling with the above thoughts, unrelated clevery, pithy chapter titles suddenly started popping into my head. I had to pause my walk a couple of times and write them down. Some are better than others, but I'm now pretty sure that the planned mall-chase scene in my action-heavy Joe Dick federal agent series will be entitled "Mall of Contusion."

Many of these new title ideas also spawned story ideas to back them up, including a series that will be my first time writing from a feminine perspective.

And then, the act of thinking that through inspired some additional ideas for the next Midlife Renewal chapter that deepen the developing relationships and the story arc of that series. Not the first time I've found my writing blocked, and ultimately that the way to unblock it was not to push harder, but to find another way around.

Dick Job was my longest, at 8900 words. Despite placing in the Top Ten of a competition and becoming a Recommended Read, it's barely had 4000 views over the years.

Contrast that with my ongoing Midlife Renewal series, which I started not long after Dick Job, is now past 40,000 words in total, and is unlikely to win any accolades. I've taken care to keep the chapters bite-sized, some of them shorter than two thousand words, and any of which can be read standalone. That way, the reader can jump in anywhere and ... uh, enjoy one or several, coming back for more when the urge strikes again. Consequently, every single chapter that is more than three months old exceeds Dick Job in viewership.

Definitely a lesson in there about submitting long stories.

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Golden Showers are awesome. I like the feeling of the warm trickle of piss on me. I have had boners & pissed on myself which felt awesome. There was times that i pissed in my hand & rubbed my own warm piss on my nipples. Ok it might sound weird but to each my own,

Let’s just say it doesn’t sound weird to me: Gee Whiz | Going with the Flow

Joined Lush.

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The exhaust pipe doesn't look very comfortable😕

Well, make sure not to do it right after the car has run. Wait an hour or two until it reaches a nice temperature.

Might surprise myself with one, someday.

My all-male extravaganzas are cumming fast and furious for Pride Month! The man-on-man-on-man(-on-man) weekend at a rental cabin that started with "Trouble on the Turnpike," "I Shag the Sheriff" and "Cabin Fever" blasts a splattery crescendo in "Three Men's Semen." A veritable Ode to Spunk and featuring a relevant foreword cribbed from the great Herman Melville, it spurts a whole lot of the slippery stuff, making it one of the gooiest stories I have written yet. I hope that it urges you, too, to Squeeze! Squeeze! Squeeze!

As mentioned in my last post, many more chapters to my Midlife Renewal Series are yet to come. After the cabin-weekend mess, the all-male action will take a bit of a break now. The all-lesbian chapter, which I promised above as next up, will follow an intervening Bi-male MMF with Eric and Tori before they start figuring out how to go about making Tori's bukkake (and Eric's hotwife) dreams come true.

Short answer: No.

Closest I've come to that is almost having sex with two women within a 24 hour period, on consecutive nights. I did have sex with the first woman, but I wasn't able to close the deal with the second. She and I had known each other a long time and really liked each other, this particular night featuring a very long makeout session and some clothing removal before fizzling out.

But this outcome was probably for the best: she shared at one point being grossed out by the idea of oral sex (giving and receiving). I just can’t even imagine that perspective, so it might have ended up a deal killer for me anyway, at least for any kind of ongoing sexual relationship.

There have been women who would rather not kiss me after I’ve tasted them, so I always take that into account and ask first. Also, in my experience, women love it when you use your words to ask if it’s okay for you to go down on them.

But unless my partner prefers me not to, I can’t imagine not giving them oral pleasure as part of an encounter. Before and/or after vaginal, if that’s also happening. I’ve gone down on women more times than they have on me, if I think about it. As Dan Savage puts it, “oral comes standard” with me.

I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve only been here a few years and wasn’t very familiar with her writing, but I did have My Love of Bushes, one of her stories, in my Queue. Hearing of her unfortunate passing, I have just read it now.

What drew me in was my own love of the other kind of bushes, but what I found instead was a unique and special tale of sexual self-discovery. It’s not often that you hear of someone being turned on by a spider crawling over her nipple. A sweet story, well written. I now have several other of her stories in my Queue.

Edit: I also have now read Discovery, her Gay Male story, a genre I particularly enjoy. I thought she perfectly handled the emotions and sensations of a young man experimenting with both sexes and awakening to his hidden, but true, sexuality.

Hot video! Looking great!

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What if we just like sex and the gender of the partner is inconsequential as long as they're willing and interested? Would that fit the definition of bi?

What if you enjoy giving orgasms to people regardless of their sex. Does that make you bi or just someone that likes to make others feel good and be happy?

You could still call yourself Bisexual if you want - how you identify is up to you, not for someone else to define you - but what you're describing is usually called Pansexual.

Personally, while I am highly attracted to both men and women, my attraction doesn't work the same for both (something that's stated explicitly in the Bisexual Manifesto and describes my feelings remarkably accurately). A partner's sex and gender is highly consequential in how I am attracted to them - and certainly in what I want to do with their bodies to pleasure them or have them pleasure me. I have the utmost respect for Pan folks, but in some ways it is almost the opposite of Bisexuality as I experience it.

Good for you for ... uh, straightening your friend out.

To the OP: I fantasize a lot about gay sex (I mean, just look at my stories), but I'm still attracted to women. I love the taste of pussy, the feel of a soft boob in my mouth, the feminine curves. All the gay guys I know are turned off by those things. So yeah, you sound Bisexual like me.

Cabin Fever is the latest chapter of my Midlife Renewal series, an immediate followup to I Shag the Sheriff. In this all-male installment, Rick, Eric and I further … uh, plumb the pleasures of anal sex after Eric has just received his very first assfuck. Steamier than the cabin windows after spending too much time in the shower!

A little look-ahead: the next installment (to be entitled Three Men's Semen) will wrap up the Big Gay Cabin Weekend, to then be followed by an all-female story that may or may not include a lesbian threesome. After that will be more mixed-sex Bisexual action leading up to the bukkake night of Tori's dreams. And that's not all: I've got a lot more plans for this series.

Regrettably not; my Lewd Beach story is fiction.

Well, the second half is. The first part is true, in which I was so turned on by all the naked bodies that I jacked off in the woods behind the nude beach. The part about the passing woman staring at my reddened cock afterwards, then smiling at me, happened too.

Based on what I have seen of nude beaches, I’d have a better chance of getting hit by lightning on one than of getting to have sex with a woman on one. On the other hand, the odds of getting to have sex with a man, were I to seek that at the gayer end if the beach, would be damn near 100 percent.

Definitely not.

I grew up with bush being the norm, and I’m imprinted. Shaved still screams “Prepubescent! Stay away!” to my subconscious, and is an instant boner shrinker.

I thought I’d adapt to shaved being the norm eventually, but it’s now been about thirty years and … still nope. Hard pass on the bald puss. I literally don’t think I could get it up for a woman who was completely shaved.

Fortunately this problem is hypothetical for me, outside porn.

Plenty of NOs here, perhaps a disappointing result for a lot of us bi guys (we are capable of being at least as faithful as straight guys, who it should be noted don’t have the best record), but not major news. Mind you, I’m not asking for women to change, and certainly not asking those on this thread to defend themselves. You have a right to your feelings, and to veto any prospective partner for any reason.

I know that not all women are repelled by Bisexual men, but most of us see the odds and we STFU, often carrying their true orientation to their grave.

If I were ever to become single and free to date again (which I am not currently), I’d at least be in my sixties by that point, and way past kidding myself about seeking lifelong exclusivity. So personally, I’d navigate this landscape just fine. Although I’d love to find women who accept me for what am, and I would prefer not to live on cock alone, I’d get along just fine if it came to that. Which it very well might. C’est la vie.

Although I’m a guy and things may be different, through my fifties I’ve found myself in less good of physical shape (though the Pandemic was the trigger if not the full cause). But even that was only incremental, nothing has fallen off yet, and the only major change is that I’ve become a LOT more in tune with my sexuality, for which Lush gets most of the credit.

Free advice may be worth the price, but my best suggestion is to get as well in tune with yourself as you can. Any unmet wishes, bucket list experiences, and so on will NOT go away. They will assert themselves. Even if you can’t act on all your desires, listen to them.

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I’m told duct tape is more effective, if a bit industrial. And what sort of glue? 🤔X

Cum. Definitely cum.