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OK, girls why do most girls pass over the nice guy for a bad boy?

I'm afraid I'm sometimes guilty as charged for going with the 'bad boy' over the 'nice guy'. It's not that I have an appetite for assholes, or enjoying being treated badly, or fantasize about having a lover with a rap sheet. I prefer none of those things, and in most cases I actively avoid them.

But, smiler's point about the 'mousy guy' is a good one. Also, let me advance the possibility that the nice guys take themselves out of the game through their own words and actions, then when they find themselves treated like a friend instead of a potential lover, they feel sorry for themselves and wonder why I (or any girl, really) went with someone else and can't see them in a romantic light.

I offer a few tips for all the 'nice guys' out there, knowing I may well invite a flame-out from males and females alike, but my disclaimer is that these represent my opinions, not necessarily those of girls in general:

1) Most 'nice guys' understand that girls like to be inquired about, and like to be listened to, it makes us feel special and that our company is worth their time. However, avoid engaging us to talk about ex-boyfriends, what kind of guys we like, what we shop for on the weekends, or generally egging us on to talk about how pissed we are about random friends or co-workers we have. Doing those things are perfectly fine, but by doing so you become just another awesome guy that we know, adding to our evidence that 'guys are so much easier to get along with than girls."

2)On a related subject: avoid talking about your girl/woman troubles. It makes you look indecisive, insecure, and vulnerable, none of which are sexy to women unless they happen to be into submales. It also strips away any mystery about you, and when women look at men for possible dating and/or sex partners, mystery is good. I really can't stress that enough.

3)Trust your instincts. If you think we might respond well to a kiss, or an embrace of our hand, or a gentle arm around the waist, then do it. If you don't, then we can only logically assume you aren't attracted to us, and we won't waste our time wishing for it. Worst case scenario, you get gently rejected, but is that worse than dragging it out over weeks while we only get to the same conclusion: that you're friend material, not dating material? Nice guys everywhere, take heed: you're smarter than you think. Take a chance. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You can take empty solace by rationalizing that you 'respected us too much to be aggressive' but that's usually bullshit, you just chickened out.

That's all for now, i'm sure others may have something to add, but notice that nowhere in there was there anything about treating women badly, or callously. It's more about attitude, mystery, and actions, than it is about how 'nice' you are. Ideally guys have it all, and unless unfortunate baggage in our history gravitates us to abusive relationships, we ladies have no quarrel whatsoever with nice, respectful guys. That might explain the difference between guys' perception and womens' response that OnionTat referred to above.

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It's not necessarily that I like "bad" boys but, I like a man that's a real man and not some simpering whiner. He has to have strength of character, muscles in his brain as well as his arms and use both. Never or rarely show fear. If he does something whether right or wrong take responsibility for it. Jesus, I don't have enough room to put all the reasons here.

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"Oxy Cotton" - Lil' Wyte

Where did you get it?

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hey smiler i have asked the same question to my close friend after watching American Pie.
And he said ''Yanks might do, but i don't'' lol.
Hey no offence yankees. Oops again.wsgq60qc1Ihs0JLd

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The Orient Express? How romantic!

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That is one huge thumb!

I am 6'9", and I do have big hands. Thumb is 3 1/2", so . . .

. . . the rest I wish - not! So take it from there.

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