i have found, whenever i get ambitious and start a series, i need to sort of bounce around, write other things in between, come back to it from time to time and do a chapter, not because i feel i HAVE to, but because i have a fresh idea for it and i really WANT to. Those times i feel i HAVE to write a chapter, it usually shows - it's just not as good as it could be. I'd rather leave something hanging for ia long while than submit something that's just ok, rather than amazing.
As for other writers, yeah, you can kind of tell when they are going thru the motions because their publisher wants a story out of them rather then they feel the pull to write. i have abandoned well loved series because of this - it the author isn't into it, how does he expect me to be?
A note: i recently read Change - Jim Butcher's latest Dresden Novel. It's an amazing series and it doesn't disappoint, but yes, after the end, i found myself wondering how much longer he'd want to keep going - it seems he's moving towards a place he could easily wrap it up if he wanted to. Hopefully, he does it in style.
In a word, yes, no, and maybe.
Sometimes NOT cumming is part of the 'game'. As a sub, there are times when i'm told i'm not allowed to cum. My girl drives me to the edge, and leaves me hanging there for however long she chooses. It's frustrating, it's cruel, and it drives me into a sexual frenzy. i both hate it and love it.
Sometimes, all i want to do is to give pleasure to my partner, to make him/her cum. Yes, me having an orgasm would be nice, but it's secondary; giving them an orgasm is the goal, and it's satisfactory in itself and afterwards, i'm more then happy to just snuggle, etc.
Sometimes i am greedy. I want to cum. If my partner can't make me cum, i will, literally, take matters into my own hand. I'm not shy about masturbating in front of a partner (i know some are) and it's not meant as an insult, in fact, letting them watch is a turn on all by itself. Sometimes, partners have chosen to have their feeling hurt by this sort of a 'i can't make her cum, so she's forced to do it herself'. They shouldn't. It just happens at times.
That said, i'm very orgasmic, normally. orgasms come fairly easily, but everyone has their off days, and sometimes, it takes a little extra work. Not everyone is willing to put in the extra effort, and dammit, i deserve it, so i'm going to do it myself.
there are those rare times when i'm just not into my partner. I realize quickly that oops! should have slipped out the back door. i go thru the motions, fake the orgasm (usually timed with theirs) and pack up my things and move on as fast as i can. "yeah, sorry, didn't know it was so late - supposed to be meeting my mom at Denny's for Dinner. See ya!"
being able to say 'my wife' instead of 'my girlfriend'.
Oh, and i can DJ - i even own my own mixer and turntables and have several cartons of Vinyl stored away in my closet - it's a skill i haven't employed for a few years, but i'm wondering if it wouldn't be fun to get back into it.
Smokers are a huge turn off for me. Even if he's not lighting up on a date, i can smell it on him, and quite frankly, it makes me a little ill.
i'd have to vote for BDSM and - i think can encompass a whole range of things not pertaining to .
cover every square inch of her with kisses.
