In the summer of 2021 I had been exchanging heated messages here and there with a Spanish dude (yes, there’s a pattern forming here) called Emilio, who lived on the other side of the city from me. He was pretty active with checking in but the distance and his very dashing good looks had me thinking this was more an ego stroke for him and that it was unlikely to materialise into anything. This guy was 37 but already a tota...