How much does your personal sexual experiences affect the quality of your writing?

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Experience is a must to write credible erotica, in my humble opinion.

Yes, and also some general study of the biology of the processes involved. I think some folks don't exactly "know the geography" as it were.

Most of my stories are either based on experience or an embellished version of it. I was late to enjoyable, adventurous sex having been in a vanilla marriage for 27 years. I like to think that I fly the flag for good sex after 50.

One of the first things you're told as a writer is "write what you know".

Obviously that doesn't mean you can only write what you've personally done, but broad sexual experiences help to bring in the details that most people don't think about.

And well... I'm a bisexual woman what had a real slutty phase and is now in a strong, but very open, relationship. So... very broad experiences.

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Yes, and also some general study of the biology of the processes involved. I think some folks don't exactly "know the geography" as it were.

As a story moderator, I can vouch for that. 🙀

I think if I wrote about things I didn't know about, I would know, which would matter to me far more than being 'caught out' by someone who sensed that was the case. If it's something written intending to make fun of my lack of knowledge about something, I'll do that through humour and let my bungling character make it obvious he/I haven't got a clue. Using your opening quote, I'd then be not taking myself too seriously...and I do know a fair bit about that!

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One of the first things you're told as a writer is "write what you know".

Obviously that doesn't mean you can only write what you've personally done, but broad sexual experiences help to bring in the details that most people don't think about.

And well... I'm a bisexual woman what had a real slutty phase and is now in a strong, but very open, relationship. So... very broad experiences.

Quote by NatashaTsarinaErotic

Experience is a must to write credible erotica, in my humble opinion.

Ah Goddammit.

Alright, time to pack it up. See you, everyone 👋.

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Ah Goddammit.

Alright, time to pack it up. See you, everyone 👋.

Nope. A healthy imagination can write great erotica, too, C!

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Nope. A healthy imagination can write great erotica, too, C!

Or unhealthy! I think that guy that wrote Fucked In The Head may need a psych evaluation 😈😈.

All jokes aside, experience+imagination+reading the work of others+taking practical elements of porn can create great results.

Reading regular fiction as well as watching it. Getting a better understanding of how story works passively via that along with watching some YouTube videos for advice. If you've never had a threesome in real life, you can "common sense" your way into writing something practical. But above all else, fiction always involves a dash of dramatic seasoning that may veer a little from reality, but it's fiction at the end of the day. Superman flying at top speed to catch someone would shatter their skeleton in real life.

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As a story moderator, I can vouch for that. 🙀

We should collect examples..... 😇

I wish I could have the variety and intensity of the sex scenes in real life that I included in my stories.

I haven't tried to write any fictional erotica yet, but I tend to write how I speak, which doesn't make for very good quality, and have spent a considerable amount of time trying to refine my use of words and sentence structures. But what little I have written, I did learn one thing. That much of my actual experiences are driven through emotions and perceptual thoughts that's not easy for me to translate into words without them making me sound like some kind of psychopath. At least in my mind, anyway. Maybe fictional erotica would be much easier.

I tend to write from fantasy, not experience. It's not the things that happened to me, but things that I wish would happen (or not - some things seem hotter on the page than in real life). The majority of porn is highly unrealistic, but porn in general still remains popular. In my own work, I don't think any of my characters has ever worn a condom, but somehow no one's gotten pregnant or an STD. It doesn't have to be realistic to be entertaining. If you don't have a lot of experience, you can learn the foundations by reading other stories on here, or even just spending an hour on Google. Get the basic facts of anatomy and sexual response down, and you're more than half way there.

My stories very much based on my personal experiences. What I love and feel comes out in the characters of my writings. It is based on what I like to engage in and then fictionalized.

Experiences from my youth to my early forties run through my work. Whether from plot specifics to just parts injected into the tale, they are woven through every aspect of my work.

I respect those who can create from pure fantasy, but I find even when writing the fantastical, my past provides insight into sex and human relations that I wouldn't otherwise have

I have little experience to guide me, but some folks still seem to like my stories. Perhaps if I had more, there would be more who did. I'll never know.

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I tend to write from fantasy, not experience. It's not the things that happened to me, but things that I wish would happen

This is kind of my starting point. I don't have a ton of sexual experience so fantasies about things I would/might do in the right circumstances are a big part of my Lush work. However, there's also my writer's interest in portraying characters dealing with situations and other people. I mean, I obviously don't fantasize about being a participant in lesbian sex, but I have gone there a few times. I am just trying to see what story might come out of that situation.

I think experience helps, but for me, the sex is probably the least important element in my stories.

I want to build interesting relatable characters who have good reasons for doing what they're doing. For me, "you're hot, let's fuck" is way less interesting than, "I haven't been interested in sex since my husband dumped me, but you are stirring me back up."

Story is king. Action is secondary.

I have a healthy imagination, which makes it easy for me to fill in the blanks when it comes to what I haven't experienced in real life. 😊

For me, erotica is about flow, fantasy, and art that readers can visualize. Whereas sex is about intimacy, growth, and mutual satisfaction. The two are very different for me, so I can't say it has any impact on the quality of my writing.

My sexual experience is best described as consistent over time. There are things I’ve thought about trying and possibly will have the opportunity to try at some time in the future. From both a literary/sexual point of view I have no reservations writing about things I have never experienced. Writing is mostly about using one’s imagination in a creative way thus not driven exclusively by experience.