In the pre-internet era, especially after I graduated college I had trouble getting dates. The women at work were much older and/or had someone.
In bars it seem there were three (or more) guys for every girl. On the beach, girls were usually in a large group or part of a family.
I married an overweight girl I knew from high school. I was riding my bike one day and ran into her (not literally) and things went from there.
She is still overweight, even after gastric bypass surgery. She also has multiple surgical scars.
I would have divorced her, but child support and alimony would have ruined me and she is my best friend.
The kids are grown and pretty soon I will be too old to be required to pay alimony.
Some months ago, using a bogus address in another state I went on a senior dating site.
I put my best foot forward, but except for the bogus location, didn't lie.
Dozens of women asked me to contact them, some quite eagerly.
What would you do if in your twenties you couldn't get a date, but at 60 you had lots of options, but you were married to your best (but physically unattractive) friend?
You should be telling her you're planning on leaving. She might like to know. Specially since you consider her a best friend.
I mean, that kinda sounds like you dont have your best friends interests in mind at all.
Being married to your best friend sounds pretty damn good to me.
If she considers you her "best friend" too it would be cruel to just spring a divorce on her.
As for the hookup sites, most of the responses from "women" are bots or women who work for the site. Adult Friend Finder is somewhat reliable but most of the other ones are just a waste of money. At least they were for me. Hope you had better luck.
You are not her best friend
I can't say what I'd be tempted to do if I were in your position, but I'm pretty sure I'd never do anything to hurt my best friend and life partner.
I think your attitude is selfish and unconscionable. You have a different definition of best friend than I do. Aging and attractiveness isn't simply appearance my friend. If you're 60, you have 60 years of experience regardless of your appearance and have nothing in common with someone who is 20.
I think your attitude towards your wife is disgusting, as are your comments regarding her appearance, and having looked at your own profile, you yourself cannot be saying those things about her when you're so far away from perfect.
Do her a favour and leave, she'd be much happier without you. Best friend. Pfft.
