Of all the men and women I have had sex with I've only loved one. My husband and I met online and spoke on the phone for hours every night for weeks. When we met and went out for a proper date it sealed the deal- I loved him. Without reservation. We slept together that night. Took me three weeks to tell him I loved him though because I was worried I'd scare him off if I declared my emotions too soon.
But up until that point, I was pretty happy sleeping with guys and girls I found attractive and enjoyed spending time with, without being in love with them.
Sex is the easy part, declarations of genuine love come way after the physical connection has been established. Trying to rush with love in the modern dating scene would be seen as creepy and off-putting.
honestly sex would come before a I love you
I would say that first and foremost, for me, there is the possibility of "I Love You" with a person.
I can't fall in love with someone without getting to really know them and the attraction to fuck them comes so quick and easy. Understandably, most of us just want to get to the good parts and as a result, sex beats out love. But for me, with that sexual attraction there is the desire to want to love this person. Sure, it doesn't always happen but the intent is present. And hey, if me and them happen to have some physical intimacy along the way, all the better.
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Always need the "I love you", then it gets hot from there
sex always come first. dont know why, never fallen in love before sex.
Currently it is "Put your mouth on my dick" with his thrusting his pelvis into my face. Sadly I have never had to romantic experience of "I love you" before sex.
Since chaperoned dating went out of style, I'd go with sex first.
It was sexual attraction that brought us together. We started staying over at each others house after that. After about 2 months, we we're in love!
The first time the "I love you" came first.
After that, there hasn't been any other "I love you"... but it would come after sex. I think it's just the logical order of things.
Without emotion and love - what is sex? Love makes everything so much more relevant and intense. Definitely love first. You can do it without - it's just colorless and somewhat tasteless.
Sex and love are two completely different things. You don't need sex to love someone. You don't need to love someone to have sex. But I can't imagine reaching a point in a relationship where I would say 'I love you', without having already had sex, many times. So if you are talking about romantic love, sex always comes first.
Sex always comes first. Love takes time to grow. I don't think you can have love without having experienced the sharing and intimacy of sex.
Love to me is true emotion. Sex although fantastic, is an act.
We had sex first. The words "I love you" mean very little to me because of how they've been misused in the past, but he demonstrates love by his actions and that's enough. Good thing, too, because we both have a block about using the phrase.
For me I would say I love you. But here's the kicker every girl I've been with has dropped the love word before we even have had sex. It's a mind fuck when a chick says shit like: I love you, I've never met anyone like you, you're the best. I don't want to know that stuff. If it is true then it should go without saying. It's difficult for me to have sex with someone I don't like. I don't have sex as a pass-time. I have sex because it is the heat of the moment. A heat of the moment situation can last a life time for me. Every girl I've made a connection with has dropped the L-bomb before I have--everytime. Women are like that they are more emotional while we guys are more sensitive. When I use the word sensitive I don't mean soft or prone to getting one's feelings easily hurt. I mean very aware. Though I will say now a days more and more guys are seeming to be more emo.
Both. We have quite a bit of one night stands. Brandie and I tell each other several times a day, "I love You". Even after almost 38 years of being married.
Nawty
Sex you can have sex without love.
Love is completely different than sex.
Sex for sure, but sex with love is TONS better.
When I was young, I used sex to try and find love. It never worked. It just sucked.
I will never again have sex with someone I do not love.
