For myself, it's very important. You have to let your partner know what you like and don't like, and what your fantasies are. If your a good match than They should be open and accepting of your sexual needs and even support them. Some people are more... sexually open and adventurous and you need to find someone that's 'on your level' haha. Don't waste your time/life on someone who holds you back and doesn't fulfill your needs, sexual or otherwise.
Get Kinky!
The big problem is we are all different and to be open you need trust. Trust doesn't come automatically, it grows and has to be earned. There's no way that you go out on a first date and say "I'm into fisting", you'll end up with a lot of first dates if it even lasts that long!
Once you've built up trust then you can introduce fantasies and fetishes but you have to encourage your partner to open up as well.
Another thing is you are rarely born with them, they develop and can change constantly. You can grow out of a fetish as easily as you can develop a new one. I think this will become more widespread through the internet, we have access to things we never knew existed and the more adventurous will want to try it.
For myself, I was very vanilla when I was young but grew to be willing to try out lots of kinks partners had. They may or may not have done anything for me but I've never been asked to do anything that I refused, although there are things that I wouldn't do.
there is no easy answer.... sometimes it comes upfront ... sometimes it comes little by little... sometimes u hold back because every indication is it's not welcome.... that's when relationship questions become soooo hard..
I grew up in a Swedish family in the US. I never knew there was any difference in what sex is from what my friends knew. For example, It was common to see dad with his hand down the front of mom's top, hear them going at it in their bedroom. The crucifix on the wall was next to the nudist calendar. I grew up with open honest respect for sex, and especially for making love. It wasn't until I was put into Catholic school did I develop weird ideas of what others saw as 'wrong' sex. BS about it being only for procreation.
I have raised my kids to open and honest about sex and my (edited by admin) daughter comes to me about sex and female things because her mother is repressed when it comes to talking about it. Yet her mother has no problem spreading her legs for anyone she fancies.
Now that I'm coming out of the feminist BS about sex I will stay true to myself and if whomever I'm with can't accept my openness then it's Hit the Road Jill.
Life is too damn short to not live it the way you want (w/o hurting others - unless they're into that ;-) Especially now at 67.
For me sexual openness is paramount to a successful relationship with me.
If the relationship is built on trust and honesty then openness is included.
I personally feel that it is impossible to have a truly healthy relationship with your partner if you can't be honest, are hiding who you truly are or what you need to be satisfied. How can you grow together? Sexual openness is necessary. Otherwise, what's missing might pop up and be available somewhere else. Atleast if you know, you can make the choice.
I would want to know. It's not always easy to say, but its your partner. They need to know. hiding it is not going to help you
That's an easy one total openness is the only way to truly get what you want!
You don't blurt out your sex preferences on a first date, but if the relationship is going to progress, a gentle introductory discussion early on could save bad feelings later. If it is goilg to become a full-on relationship, then full openness is necessary.
It depends. What else is there in the relationship besides sex? If that's all you have, then it's critical. If you have awesomeness everywhere else, then it's secondary.
My kink is having my feet played with ;)
i think its very important in any kind of realationship me being in bdsm and owned i think its so important he knows what i want try might want try no way doing and love .as well as i like to know what he likes and donest like.