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Shylass
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
United Kingdom

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Quote by eroticstoryreada
Ladies, i love boobs, mostly big ones but i wanna know, what is your current bra cup size & do u have big or small nipples?


Just out of interest, why do you want to know? Are you doing a cross-section of Lush lady sizes? Looking for somebody to cam with? Wank material? Most people have trouble visualising from the numbers and letters alone, as every woman carries her size differently.

It's not a problem; I just wondered why you've asked. I'm not a fan of sharing such an intimate detail in public, really. I might if there was a good enough reason or kind enough person.
Quote by Hardallnight
Do you really think I'm that stupid and haven't asked her? She says and I quote "I don't know why" and when I try and go down on her she freaks out about the hers I could be getting of off her? I was hoping there may be some people here who think the same as her and could help and just let me understand, because when it comes to sex and talking about it with my wife she goes all quite and embarrassed even tho it's our sex life I'm talking about. So I get no help of her at all. But this is a woman I could never live with out, we are connected in such a way it's hard to explain. Maybe it's because she sat at my bed side while I was fighting for my life in a comma that makes us so close. And as well trust me, I'm a gentleman at all times I can. Surprising her with flowers etc... And I love going down on her because I can give her the most intense orgasum with my mouth.

P.s. It just thoughts in my head, I would and never could cheat on her, especially using something like CL. I was just opening up and hoping people could help, seen I find it incredibly hard to show emotion in most cases.


I think it's good to ask questions. Now that we know you've tried talking with her, that's the biggest answer tried. Nobody but you and your wife can deal with this.

However, I can give you a little insight from my point of view as to maybe why not. Trying to see things from her point of view is commendable, and leads to greater understanding, whilst hopefully helping to ease your own frustration.

I seriously hate the idea of a lad going down on me. I'm scared about how I look, smell, taste and feel to him there. I'm scared that whilst he might say he loves it, that he would be lying to make me feel better. I don't like thinking about pussies, and I don't like looking at mine, so I find it hard to understand how somebody else could.

The other point about receiving is the vulnerability it requires. To have his head down there whilst mine is up here means I would be totally expised and vulnerable (as all lovers should be able to do, in my opinion). It would mean that I couldn't read his face or emotions, so I would be panicking that he was repulsed but too kind to tell me.

And finally, I'm afraid of how it would physically feel. What if I hated it, and he thought it was his fault? What if I enjoyed it, but he hated doing it? The worry of all these (possibly needless) things creates a huge complex and confusing brick wall that is much easier to just shut away under "Do Not Enter". And the longer it's shut off, the more layers of worry are piled in front of the little door.



As for giving a blowjob, I've only tried it once, and I loved it, because I could see and hear the he did love it. However, I throw up easily, and I was scared of hurting him with my teeth when I gagged. If he hadn't been so clean (he'd had a shower a couple of hours before), I think his flavour might have been hard (no pun intended) to handle (again).

I was also scared that if he came in my mouth, the texture and taste would make me throw up, which I'd be mortified by. I can't help how my body reacts, and I would hate for him to think it was him, rather than my reaction.

Also, I would be very happy to try giving and swallowing, but I don't like asking people to give to me what I'm not willing or able to give in return. There is an element of me that says I must be willing to let him pleasure me that way, but it hits that wall, and automatically makes it more difficult, especially if it turns out that I'm crap at giving blowjobs!

It might be that forsaking blowjobs for love of your wife is something that you have to accept. How do you feel about that possibility? Is that something you can live with? Because for some reason, your wife may not be able, or is not willing to work through this.

I would suggest being as gentle as possible, but remember that if you are frustrated, you need to let her know that too. Perhaps talking to a sex therapist or couples counsellor MIGHT be a way forward, if you can find no other way. But it might be something you have to accept within your marriage, if you are able.

Maybe try showering together and seeing if that makes a difference to her germs theory?

Sorry for waffling, but I hope it's SOME help! Good luck.




Edit: Have you tried asking WHAT germs she's worried about? It may be due to her upbringing, health (physical and mental) or experience?

Quote by naughtynurse


Can I get some of that help too?

I also am not a very good poet and would like to get better.

There are some fantastic poets on this site: Laura lee, shy lass, frank lee, Delphi, and saga all have the power to touch me with their words. I'm glad the site is offering another way for the many wonderful works to be showcased.


Absolutely. I just need warning, as I'm not always able to concentrate. And thank you!
Quote by Coco


There are now two poem categories and the new addition, Erotic Poetry, is all encompassing. So we will not accept a poem in the Humor category, it should go in the erotic category and carry a humor tag.


I thought that's what you'd say, but it's good to know for sure anyway. Thank you.
Quote by Coco


At present the Humor section is for stories, but I will put this to the powers that be.


Thank you. I was wondering too. It could always have a "poem" tag.
Quote by Haineko

I understand that and it's a very good thing but my quest to have a story/poem in every category got just a bit harder.

I suck at poetry


If you want any help, let me know. I bet you'll surprise yourself.
Quote by Haineko
Another poem category?

Shit


It's nowt to worry about. It just means that not all the poems get lumped together into one massive section. Some people want to write about stuff that's not about getting people wet or hard, but other emotions and feelings, whereas other people do. It's just easier to find different sorts now.
Quote by DirtyMartini
Oh wow Nic...it looks like I might have might have to move most of my stories...

And stop bobbing your head while I'm trying to talk to you, will ya? Getting me dizzy here...


I've just had to go through all my poems. Blimey.
Quote by dpw

I think a lot of people have caught crabs in Blackpool.NieY0ZJafVaqN4DH


Maybe that's why nobody wants to go there. Bad memories (amongst other things...)?
Quote by simplyjohn


Sobs .. I ate all the cookies I had in my tin over Christmas and spent my January salary on the same so I dont have any cache either .. oh dear I am done for ..

Lol thanks I tried that and set to 'Stories' and 'Timeline' .. still got Home Page .. damn how am I going to manage .. smile


Have you tried telling it how beautiful it is?

Maybe you're just special. I'd try sending the sexy code monkey a PM.

Here's some extra cookies for you...


Quote by simplyjohn
I have mine set to 'Profile' but always upon logon find myself on the main home page .. perhaps its just lil ol me with this problem? sad


I have mine set to the timeline. Maybe try clearing your cookies and cache, and then set it for the timeline. See if it works, and then try setting it to profile? Good luck!
Why would I agree to cam with a complete stranger who appears to lack any sort of empathy to shyness, privacy and boundaries? I won't even show myself to my closest friends when we're normally chatting, preferring a blank wall or my Cookie Monster toy to show them.

You would no doubt be rude about what you saw if you can't conceive why I wouldn't cam with you, and for all I know, you might record the session and post it elsewhere on the internet. No thanks!

I'd be glad, because he wouldn't have high (or low) expectations of me! Ha ha! I'd be over the moon if somebody I cared about like that wanted to share it with me, and felt comfortable enough to.
Quote by dpw
It's strange, all the posts come from authors in this thread!
Self promotion methinks!
I get most of the stories that I read from the forums. Being a forum junkie I read profiles of people posting and if they've written a story I'll often read it. This has taken me into various categories that I would not normally check out. This way I've found some great stories I would have missed.
My biggest problem is the sheer number of stories on here.


I was one of the people Mazza had talked to about this subject. I was so glad when she thought of the idea, because I want to know how other readers feel about authors advertising their work.

As an author, I feel bad about advertising my own work, although I might blog about the odd one now and again, if I'm very worried about it, or relieved I finally wrote it. I'll use Twitter as well, as not many people follow me anyway, so it's like a fun thing to try and do. I do have a small section of my signature to advertise my own Lush book, but the original intention of it was to try and give a tiny bit back to Lush if there were any sales. I felt better about promoting that because of the hope it might. I know that there are far better authors out there than I, who can be found both on here and in Lush Publishing's books.

Any authors who have posted here have done so both as readers, and as authors who are keenly aware that readers have likes and dislikes on advert methods. Who better to see both sides? However, Mazza posted in "Ask the Readers" because we wanted to know what readers thought. Authors are readers too.

From a reader's point of view, I hate the endless mass mails (which I have gratefully opted out of, thanks to Gav!), constant blogs, and even single messages. But it's not because I find them tedious (although that's certainly an element). It's because I actually find reading very difficult. I'm trying to get past the mindset I was raised with, but what really hampers my reading, and therefore affects how I see the ads, is my mental ability to read. I go through long periods where I cannot write myself, or be creative in any way. In these times, I can read the same sentence over and over, and still get nowhere. I can read the whole story, and not remember any of it. Sometimes, it can take me three days to read the same page of a paper book.

I have a long list of people's stories I want to read; some are friends, some are not. I find poetry a bit easier, because it is shorter. But I can't always even do that. Doing my own edits is a nightmare, so I have taken to asking friends for proofing and editing, which I never used to do. During my short time as a story verifier, I couldn't process anything like the others could because of it. In the end, I gave up and left a place for somebody with better concentration than I.

So adverts for stories? I hate them, but I understand them. They just point out my inability. Plus, I cannot abide the flashing forum signatures (of any sort). I will refuse to read stories of people who have them, because if the ad stops me reading their thread post, I certainly won't put myself to trial trying to read their story. I will stick, rather, to my extremely long list of stories I already want to get through.

But I would love to see how others view the ad methods, as I am aware that not everybody thinks like I do.
My favourite male authors are Sisyphus, Frank Lee, Clum, and Elitfromnorth.

They paint whole worlds within one sentence, and don't make me think I'm reading a story, but am somehow a part of it, without making me cringe or want to run away. They surround the action with atmosphere and detail that lets me "see" their story, as if the story pulls me in, rather than me having to dive in. That takes a great talent, as I'm persnicketty, and easily lose concentration and often the will to keep reading certain things.

Elitfromnorth, in particular, is the one author who helped me learn to read erotica. His blend of laugh-out-loud comedy and naughty detail was exactly the right mix I needed to start feeling more comfortable when reading about sex. I read a whole story of his in a certain category that normally I would have run away screaming from, but I read it all, and afterwards, realised that I was so engrossed in the story that I didn't have time to be grossed out. Skillssss.

I have read a few others, but the authors I mentioned are the four I know for a fact don't scare me off, but are wickedly brilliant for all sorts of people.
Quote by Jimhere1
I finally spoke with my neighbor lady today.

I saw her out on her patio, so I decided to go out on mine. When I'm home, I'm naked, so I went out to see her. And my cock was already hard as well. It's quite cold out today (below freezing) but it's sunny and there's no wind. I was but a bit worried that the cold would cause my erection to go down, but to the contrary it was quite stimulating. Usually my balls hang low, but the cold caused them them to contract, which made my cock seem even bigger.

I said hello to her and asked how her day was going. She smiled and said hello back and tried to make small talk, but she couldn't take her eyes off of my fully erect cock, which by this time was leaking large amounts of precum. I just came out and asked her if she liked what she saw and if she enjoyed watching me pleasuring myself to massive cumshots. She told me that yes she does and that she looks forward to seeing me on my patio with my "beautiful cock," as she put it, in plain view. I asked her if she might want a closer look and she said she would like that so I told her to cum (pun intended) on over any time I was home.

Then I told her that I needed to get back inside and get on about my day, but first I would give her the daily show. So I stood there at the edge of my patio and stroked my rock hard cock until I shot a nice load of cum for her. Told her I looked forward to getting to know her better and have a good day. She said "I'm having a great day. See you soon!"


You know, if you string all these posts together, add a few more, do some heavy editing and proofing, you could produce "Diary of an Exhibitionist Thread Starter". I bet you'd get some followers.
Quote by bluewolf12
Which would you prefer for a night of sex a virgin or experienced partner for me experienced


This has been asked many times before. Generally, most people on Lush say they prefer somebody who is experienced, as they don't have to worry about the virgin being crap or nervous, and can get off themselves without having to be understanding or sensitive. There are a few who like the idea of being with a virgin so they can "break them in" or teach them, and some who regard it as something special, that the virgin would share that with them.

And fewer still don't mind either way, if they simply want to spend time with somebody they care about. That would be my preference.

Maybe you could do a poll.
Quote by kornslayer1
I work on stories, but sometimes I hit the wall. Then I try to start with something different, but I don't always know where it's going, after I start it. Like I'm writing, to keep my spirits up for writing. Anyone else do this?


Most of my stories start from a word or phrase, and I never know what the story will be until I've written it. Sometimes I have a vague idea of what it will contain sex-wise, but I don't know how it will happen until I sit and let the words flow. I've found that, unintentionally, a lot of loose ends are tied by the time I get to the edit, even though I never knew they were there, or needed tying. I can only guess that my subconscious is aware of it as I'm writing. I don't do plans or outlines, or anything like that. I just write to see what happens, and what characters appear.
Quote by nicola
Did anyone tell the thrusting storm trooper?

If you don't enter a date, then it shouldn't default to any date, and you shouldn't receive a message.


I haven't yet, as I'm waiting for the 1st to be over (here, at least) before I start nagging him. Plus, I'm waiting for the Magic Tea to finish brewing (peace offering and bribery).

I just wondered if there'd been a glitch, or you guys knew something I didn't.

Happy New Year!
Thank you so much for the hugs.


Quote by Frank



No birthday, just a day of creation!



Dammit, my secret is out. I'm just an effervescent tube of snot. I was trying to keep that hushed up.
Quote by Liz


If you don't enter one, I think it defaults to Jan 1st. smile


It didn't last year.
I'm not sure why, but the Lush Team have wished me happy birthday on both here and Stories Space.

You see, I don't have birthdays, and I've never told the sites when the Day of Evil is. So, thank you, but I'm a bit confused. Unless you mean my Lush birthday, when I will be two on January the 7th?
Quote by Jack_42
Now if he also offered to buy a fish and chip supper it would be really tempting.


It'd be just the chips, because the fish won't go either, remember?

Mind you, there's a lot I'd do for just a bag of chips. It's a shame I only fit in the age bracket, nothing else.
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness


Hmmm... What do you think I should charge?


A hole in one, of course, and a beer in the club house.