Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
avrgblkgrl
Over 90 days ago
Fluid Female
United States

Forum

I'm reminded of an interview a writer named Terry McMillan gave. She was sued by an old boyfriend. He claimed she humiliated him in one of her books. It never went any further than a public accusation, I believe. No proof. The interviewer asked the writer if she did base her stories on real experiences. She just smirked and said, "What do you think?"

That made me laugh. I feel that if I made you believe the character, situation or attribute could be real, I've done my job. Whether I've pulled from something real or not should be my secret.
Quote by Metilda


I'm with her - even further away than her. I go out of my way to avoid using anything that reminds me of people I know or have met or have seen in movies and on TV. I can't stand the unaware filtering that happens, it bugs the crap out of me.

Only a few times have i actually written about my husband - and that was sex straight from my sex life, not just character traits.


I think it's something we all try to avoid.

I bow to all who are as masterly, creatively original as Ms. Morrison. More power to you. To create completely and as fully as she does from no mental influence is genius. Her genius is apparent. Chuck Palahniuk said that he is the combined effort of everyone he's ever known. (Yeah, I'm quote'n Chuck) I feel him on that and then some. It all gathers, then combines and forms something new within me. I won't deny the influences. I'm no genius.

I'd guess that those "few times" you pulled from your own sex life (and therefore your partners you thief ), you were thinking more like Agostinho da Silva. He felt that nothing is completely new. He was not interested in what influenced his writing; he was interested in "being true" (writing the believable or the realistic).

I think you are going to Purgatory. I'm not sure you can have wine. But if you change your mind, we have extra. ?
Quote by silverseeker
Dear avgblkgirl,
If you are going to writers hell, I'm coming with you and so is everybody else apart from Toni. She is going to be very lonely. Although there is enough variety among human beings to make literally any behaviour possible, and therefore we can make things up to our heart's content and it's still authentic to someone, somewhere, what is wrong with recounting an actual experience that interested or excited us so much that it wants to be written about?
You don't name names, of course, and it's highly unlikely that the person you're writing about is going to read your story on here anyway, but even in the wider context, I don't see a moral problem with using characteristics, foibles or even details of sexual practices that are based on real people.
The person we reveal most of in our stories is ourselves. You don't have to get far into one of mine to see what turns me on the most, and some of my stories are almost completely factual, so the other person is there too, but only she would know it.
So you're not a succubus - and as delightful as that word is, it doesn't even describe what you're being accused of. I don't think there is a word that describes it. You're not even a betrayer of confidences if no one knows who you're talking about.
Feel free, write free, give readers pleasure, don't hurt anyone.
You're fine.

Vic


Oh you and I are going to have a good time. ? I agree with you whole heartedly. No one is more bare to the world than I am in my writing. All that I absorb flows into my writing. It changes and it shifts as it combines with how I see it and feel it--and convey it to the reader. That's where the creativity comes into play. I'm not trying to use anyone. I'm not trying to tell someone's story, I'm trying to tell a story. I'm definitely not trying to hurt anyone. I'm writing fiction as real as I possibly can and I'm drawing from everywhere.

Write free. I like that.

So Vic, you bringing wine? Will you be playing naked Twister?
torschlusspanik

A German word, I can't seem to find a parallel English term for, used to describe the anxiety or fear that one’s life is passing them by and that their future opportunities are diminishing. It is also applicable to characterize the sense of urgency some people have in seeking a partner to settle down as they age.
literally: Panic as the door closes.
Quote by Callisto
Worst punishment ever...

Silent treatment- sucks balls.


I'm with you. Silence or indifference. It out weighs anything physical.
When I want to incite him (and it does have its advantages), a well emphasized "whatever" gets the job done.
Sorry love, both of you will need to move over there while I take this spot.
Quote by Coco
Just made an account, will follow back. @cocoluvserotica


Following.
I'm rereading a lot of my favs along with current criticisms. But I did fit some new things in last week...





The first one, I enjoyed. I'm still "thinking" about the second one.
Quote by kiera
Feeling a little melancholy today but that is just part of grieving I guess....it's a process...At least I am not mad and angry today, just sad sad

I miss him today, very much. Just got the kids to sleep and wondering what to do with myself and the tears just started falling :(


Hugs to you my dear Kiera.TlEpoNAdMv4DXLYC
Quote by principessa
I have had struggles because of things in my past that I choose not to disclose here, but they were shattering. There have been periods of depression. What I have learned is that I have strength that I was not aware of and that I can overcome almost anything. I decided to put that part of my life away and live my life as richly and with as much joy as I can. I will not give anyone the power to carry on hurting me with a place in my life. I think it was F. Scott Fitzgerald who said that living well is the best revenge.


This makes me want to hug you and then make a toast. Your words mirror my feelings exactly.

"Here's to the best revenge."
Quote by jollylolly
When *someone* carelessly awakens an ancient, malevolent spirit that has been slumbering underground for centuries. It's just so annoying.


I'm partial to this one.
Mike, you did an excellent job with The Price of Admission and choosing Virgo to read was genius. It's flash at its finest. ?
The virginal me believed in love and then sex. But once I passed that first love hangover, I really felt that waiting for sex was overrated--beautiful, but overrated. I'll do sex before love with no guilt or intention of loving. There would have to be something I loved about you (an initial attraction), but I didn't have to be falling in love with you to fuck you. My guy and I started out with the definite clarification that this was a purely sex thing. It made me feel so mature. Did everything possible to keep it that way. LOL Well what can I say, marriage is great.

I think it's important to not get "just sex" and love confused.
My first submission here was an erotic poem, free verse of course. It's called "Messy Love" and is still here. I wasn't bold enough to submit any fiction at the time. It was received well. Everyone was pretty kind to this newby.

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/erotic-poems/messy-love.aspx

You will have to give it a read and let me know if you think I've developed any as a poet. Seriously. I hope that I have. It is definitely different from "The Muse's Poem", but I can't really see conveying the moment that birthed it any other way. So no, I wouldn't rewrite it.

My first actual story here was really not a story at all, but more or less a scene. It's called "Lessons" and I need to remove it. I've found it plagiarized a couple of times in other places and I find that amusing. I didn't spend very much time on it at all. I can definitely see where I've grown a bit as a writer. Submitting it was scary. Remembering makes me laugh. Once again, you'll have to let me know what you think. I'm cringing already.

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/interracial/lessons.aspx
Quote by _darklord
Great introduction ABG, and after reading this entire thread, I am in awe of your gracious and humble replies, and would like to congratulate you on your award-winning work. I am mainly here for the social aspect, hanging out in one specific chatroom, but ever since I discovered writers like yourself, I crack open at least a story, treating it like prep-talk, before I open the seediest chatroom, LOL. Keep up the great work. My friends also say thank you, wink wink.


Well I aim to please wherever I can.
I'm a bit shy when it comes to the chat rooms,
but I'll make an exception for yours...
Quote by Simmerdownchick
Right now, I'd say Varrik and Regina.


To be mentioned by you and then have my name alongside Varrik's is an honor.
Thank you beautiful. ?

(Whispering: I do hope that you are talking about me and not another Regina or this post is really going to be embarrassing.KRd9IMCztLFr4CyV )
I stay waxed and recommend it. It leaves the skin looking better, smoother and softer. I've been getting it done since I was 20. So, I'm what they call trained (no apparent follicles and regrowth is extremely fine). I can go longer periods between maintenance and I don't get that stubble feel. I've never had any type of reaction. I recommend that you go to reputable spots if you choose to have it done. To me, it's one of those you get what you pay for kind of things. I've had girlfriends switch to where I go and the experience has been better for them.
Quote by DirtyMartini
Hi there Regina...nice to meet you...




Rumor has it you're one of the finest writers on this here fine story site...anyway, in case anyone don't know who I am...don't worry, I can't remember my own name most of the time...but I do believe it might be Alan...

Anyway, have fun...and see you around, here and there...

Cheers,
Alan.


Alan you are so crazy--in a good way though. Luv'ya. ?

Hey everyone, Mr. DirtyMartini is the go-to-guy if you are interested in getting published in journals, contests and announcements for anthology submissions. He's a well published poet.

Quote by Jinxy
What is the difference between Honorable Mention and Recommended Reads?


Hi, I don't think I've met you before.

Simply put, an honorable mention is generally defined as a commendation given to a candidate in an examination or competition who is not awarded a formal prize. I love Google.LjBwxmYdAOYttx3z


Honorable mentions here on Lush are generally announced. They are the remaining stories within the top ten of a writing competition after 1st, 2nd and 3rd place are announced. Here's an example for you, just in case you are confused: From the Site Announcement thread. I looked and you have a Recommended read, so you are familiar with them.

I was in the top ten for the Historical Competition. It was a lot of fun. I was lucky to be included. Some of my favorite writers competed. Lupus won with his story called Legion. It's an excellent story.

Here's a quick link: Trust by AvrgBlkGrl

Happy Writing.