There have been three important men in my adult life (I’m not counting Bobby, the boy who took my virginity, even though I’ve never forgotten him. His only importance was that one act). The most important is Simon, my husband, the father of my children, the head of our family. I love him. Next is James, the man who seduced me into infidelity. He showed me that I am a truly sexy woman, one to whom men are attracted like fl...