Beyond maybe some light spanking, hard pass. Giving or receiving. Sex for me is about mutual affection.

Yes.

Everyone is different. For some people, it makes sense to wait. But with the average age of marriage pushing 30, it no longer makes sense for most.

And the pressure for people to wait until marriage is profoundly stupid. It's led millions of people to get married before they're ready, or to the wrong person, just so that they can start having sex. It's also led many couples who are sexually incompatible to get married before they've figured that out.

I think it's best to wait to get married until you're ready to get married, so you can be sure you're with "the right one." You may not be ready to have sex until then, and that's fine, but most people are ready long before that, and are better off NOT walking into a lifelong commitment as virgins.

The dominance of the wait-until-marriage point of view has led to far too many divorces, which are supposed to be the bane of conservatives pressuring people to save sex until marriage. Assholes.

Personally, being comfortable with my Bisexuality, I find both man-man and woman-woman play to be incredibly hot.

I think most (straight) men find it "gross," because even admitting they find it slightly interesting would threaten their self-conception of masculinity and/or "straightness." And straightness continues to be a big deal: even today, a lot of guys who will openly admit to an interest in sucking cock - and who clearly fit the definition of Bisexuality, should they choose to accept it - still officially identify as straight. Or as "straight, but ...", which has gotten vastly more fashionable than "bisexual."

Women don't care about that as much, of course, and it does seem that a few are turned on by the thrill of provoking two men to violate their usual sexual boundaries. I have featured women like this in a number of my MMF stories. That said, the primary appeal of MMFs for most women is being the center of attention, and significant man-on-man activity within the encounter is going to end up a turnoff for most. Numerous women have said exactly this on Lush Forum threads.

I've published dozens of stories on this site over the past six years featuring man-on-man sex, and I don't get the impression that very many women at all are turned on by the idea of it happening in the real world (by which I mean outside of porn and other than confirmed gay guys).

In some ways, man-man sex might be as threatening to a lot of women as it is to a lot of men, whereas woman-woman sex threatens neither, so here we are.

Great story. Sure, you could polish it up and submit it as an official story (title suggestion: “Leotards in the Last Frontier”), but that would take hours of work. I got plenty hard just reading it here!

I've made great progress this week! I got Beaches and Cream submitted for publication just seven days after even coming up with the idea. I've also finished my first draft of Cock 1, which I think is in better shape than most of my initial drafts, so it shouldn't take too many hours to get done once Beaches and Cream is approved. Next major goal will be to get Scandalous Sixties published by mid-December for maximum holiday visibility.

11/25 UPDATE: Beaches and Cream is Published! I’ll give the mods a break and wait until after Thanksgiving to submit Cock 1, which is now ready to go. I also just came up with straight story concept called Sloe Ride, which will eventually slot into the series just ahead of Cock 1. And Scandalous is evolving into three stories: Surprising Sixties, Scandalous Sixties and (you guessed it) Swinging Sixties.

The other thing I've been working on isn't writing at all: it's making sure all of my public media images (especially story covers, because of their visibility) are copyright-free. I've become aware that a handful of porn companies are making money by getting litigious around individuals' use of their intellectual property, so I have deleted all of my public media that might be copyrighted. Going forward, I'm only posting copyright-free images, whether by public license or by my creation using AI tools. A lot of my stories are missing covers right now as a result, but I'm steadily working on updating them - and often, coming up with hotter covers than the original ones.

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I also mostly try to avoid reusing names. At some point I may need to write out a list of all the names I've used, to avoid duplicates, but haven't bothered yet.

Finally did this the other day. I did find a couple of duplicates that I wasn't aware of, especially with minor characters. Fortunately Eric is the only name I've used twice for significant characters.

Also, as I flesh out my canonical Becoming A Man series, I just realized that one character has been referred to as Daphne in a couple of stories, and then as Heather in another. Oh well.

I'm also going to start a list of names I haven't used yet, to make future name-picking easier.

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Bisexual and gay male.

Same.

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I have to say, once I hit that publish button, I never recall. The reason is that by that time, I would have edited and read the story for hours, many more times longer than it took to write. Typically about 5x more. Happily, these days I'm fairly certain they will be published, although that doesn't mean they are perfect.

Same. I've reread and re-edited my stories so many times, by the time I've hit Publish, that I rarely take another look and hit Recall after that, though it has happened. Got plenty of other things to move onto, usually, and I hate to make more work for the overworked and underpaid mods.

That said, I did recently withdraw and resubmit a story after it was published, and after polling a number of readers who'd made comments for more specific feedback. Based on that, I decided to make some aspects of the tone and internal monologue more subtle, though probably 97% of the words were unchanged. Again, I hate making extra work for the mods, but I felt that it made the piece quite a bit better.

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None or just a little. I hate hair in my mouth.

Apparently no one knows this anymore, but brushing beforehand solves that problem almost completely.

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I've got a steampunk story going . But I was thinking today it's time for a new competition. Hopefully the Lush bosses will have one up their sleeves soon!

I'm thinking that too. Most years we see something holiday-related around now.

Working on outlines for three stories simultaneously, all three about ready to start actually writing:

• Midlife Renewal: Cock 1, in which I help a friend restore a classic Mach 1 Mustang. And other things.

• Scandalous Sixties, following on my recent Secret Sixties contest entry. Apparently, Diane did hear Jerry and me talking, and she wants in.

• Beaches and Cream, a rugged outdoor (and sexual) adventure on the wilderness coast of Olympic National Park.

No time crunch on these, except that Scandalous Sixties is Christmas-themed, so I'd like to get it done within the next month. Also for Christmas, I plan to finish a holiday-themed poem that I started on during the Small Moments poetry comp earlier this year.

I'm going through the process of converting ALL of my story covers to images that are copyright-free and not exploiting actual humans who may not have consented to the use of their likness. I am also deleting or hiding anything in my Media folders that might be questionable in these respects. I'm hearing about more companies getting litigious and even extorting settlements out of people, so better safe than sorry.

Nightcafe does decent SFW images, and although the process of getting free credits is a bit convoluted, it's not hard to pile up a decent stack of them. And while it's not AI, Creazilla also has a nice trove of stock copyright-free images that I use for quite a few things.

That said, I want to do NSFW images, including for story covers (because boobs), so this week I started experimenting with Perchance. As vampire_vixen found, it will generate something I can work with using relatively simple prompts and not too many attempts. If you just ask for nude bodies in various settings, it tends to do that fairly well, with reasonably realistic (but perhaps too pretty) bodies, including penises, breasts and (because I request it) pubic hair on women. It even gets the pubes right, usually, but occasionally generates a trans woman by throwing in a penis. Not that I mind.

Where Perchance seems to go haywire is if you ask for much physical action between the people in the image. It usually gets kissing right, and renders cocksucking acceptably about half the time, but anything more than that and you seem to end up with a tangle of phantom limbs, mutated genitalia and the usual malformed hands and fingers. Still, overall I'm happy with what I can get from a free tool.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Being out of work certainly puts a damper on things. I hope you find work soon.

Not really into it, but not judging those who do like it. I may not be ultra-masculine, but I present and identify as a man. End of.

I absolutely adore 69, and have no issues with concentration. I suspect I would especially enjoy the mutuality with a man, where you can do the same thing to each other or "trade" actions on each other's cocks.

I think it's fair to say that one of the greatest sexual disappointments for me in life is discovering that very few people share my level of enthusiasm for sixty-nine. It doesn't seem like many women enjoy it except (briefly) as foreplay, due to the distraction issue, though some will tolerate it as an end in itself once in a blue moon. From the looks of this threat, sounds like not that many guys are into 69 either, at least as an "ultimate" act.

Fine. If I don't get to do it that much in life, I can write about it in my stories as much as I fucking want! You will notice that 69 features in a disproportionate number of my stories, often to orgasm. My 69th story (published earlier this year) was in fact an ode to 69.

Sounds like a load of crap to me. It only feminizes you if you think if feminizes you. I know plenty of gay men, most of whom are plenty masculine, and I've never heard of them avoiding anal sex for this reason.

As for a "frot movement," I'm all for one as long as it doesn't exclude other things! Frotting is awesome!

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Frottage (rubbing cocks together) is a thrill if you both have really stiff cocks. Best if you sensitise your cocks with foreplay before so the cock-to-cock friction takes you to cum. I find usually one cock cums first and the other needs a tug off. Its nice to have cocks together parallel and one partner stroking both.

And once the first guy cums, you're all slicked up, increasing the pleasure especially for the guy who hasn't cum yet.

Where does the OP even get the idea that we care about that “more than anything else?”

Oh yeah, because society tells her that we do. Guess what! IRL, guys (at least with any level of maturity) don't in general care about appearance as much as women are led to believe we do. The so-called “beauty” industry leads women to spend inordinate amounts of energy worrying about their looks (as evidenced by this thread’s very existence) while draining nearly half a dollars out of their pockets, contributing mightily to women’s lower standard of living globally.

I’m not saying there’s something wrong with trying to look nice, but too many women are led to become insecure about their looks and focus on it way too much.

Sure, when a big-boobed woman walks by, guys tend to notice. But in an actual relationship and actual sex, most guys don't care that much. i've known a number of guys, even horndogs always who regularly brag about their "conquests," who still professed "more than a handful is wasted" or even "more than a handful is too much."

Run what you brung.

I usually find natural to be a more attractive look than overly made up or surgically modified. For instance, I prefer women with relatively light makeup versus huge fake eyelashes and long impractical nails, and I prefer some bush to fully shaved.

Along similar lines, while I'm not opposed to subtle implants, boobs that are just obviously fake are not a turn-on. I have been with women with pretty big soft, natural (even saggy) boobs and never found them to be "too large" for my taste. Women with those usually tend to be larger-figured anyway, with bigger butts and hips and some belly fat too - which is FINE with me!

If you like it, go for it, but I’m not interested. I'm comfortable with my middle-of-the-road masculinity and don't have much interest in being feminized. I'll gladly take a cock down my throat or up my ass, though, as a masculine. man-to-man act.

I like Georgia’s idea of being able to tag media and make that searchable across individual users’ albums. As already pointed out, otherwise centralizing the management of uploaded media would make Lush unacceptably vulnerable under copyright law.

And like Seeker4 said, I too am starting to limit myself to using copyright-free images for my covers, either from creazilla or AI-generated. I don’t have a good way of knowing whether the more explicit images out there are copyrighted or not, so I'm moving away from using those.

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No more gyms with communal showers in London - sadly.

Wow, too bad. I think most gyms here in the US still have at least semi-open showers, with (at most) stub walls and partial doors for each stall.

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Update. Our sex life has improved and we’ve since shared a man together. Loved it! As did she! I want to be with a man again.

Hot!

I’m hairy (but trimmed). I know it’s pretty common for guys to shave down there now and don’t bat an eye. However, I do think it looks odd when a guy is hairier than average (chest, belly, etc.) but has a shaved pubic area. Still, I’d try not to look at him funny. Honestly, I’d just be disappointed, because I find hairy guys attractive and a shaved pubic region on them just looks incongruous to me.

I've tried it on dildos and kielbasas. I think I'll need a real one to learn on someday.

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Man above 50 should only ejaculate once a month. Twice at the most. The problem is, men lose a shit ton of energy when they ejaculate, that is self evident. And it gets more pronounced as we get older. If we’re constantly ejaculating, we’re just blowing all of our life force out of our dicks, all that wonderful healing energy is being lost.

And you’re making this proclamation at age 35. You know what I’ve noticed, being actually over 50? Life is full of people who overgeneralize and extrapolate from their own experiences and tell others what to do.

What medical evidence actually suggests is that "use it or lose it" applies, and that frequent ejaculation may be better for long-term erectile health than infrequent. We do NOT have a fixed reserve of "Life force" (as you put it) in our balls and prostate that is depleted every tune we ejaculate. Now, I'm NOT going to tell you what to do, so if you want to keep edging and retaining, feel free. It's your body. Meantime I'll keep jerking it daily.

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"Well, I, uh I, I first became aware of it, Mandrake, during the physical act of love. Yes, a profound sense of fatigue, a feeling of emptiness followed. Luckily, I was able to interpret these feelings correctly. Loss of essence."

My naughtiest was sucking a guy through a gloryhole, to this day still the only thing I've done with a guy. See story "A Hole New World" in my sig for the deets.

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Could have been worse, I could have just as easily kissed a guy.

Personally, I'd much rather have kissed a (non-related) guy than my sister.

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I don't know if I'm bi since I don't seek other men and I find women very attractive, but in the right circumstances...

Orientation is defined by attraction, not behavior. I fully claim the Bi label even though I've only acted on it once. If you're interested in guys or their hardware, feel free to call yourself bi (or curious, or flexible) regardless of whether you ever act on it. Or not. YOU get to decide how to label yourself.

Call me a cynic, but I'm skeptical that the OP is an actual ... uh, "Lezzy."

Good for you for trying new things, welshstallion.