Depends on what you mean by “during sex.” Can I get hard enough to penetrate again, immediately after cumming? No, and I never could. I’ve always needed a few minutes between rounds, so I could never go a second time “during sex” unless you count going down on my partner for a while or engaging in pillow talk as I recover.

Do I need more time now, in my fifties? Probably. But if the situation is stimulating enough (as might be the case, for example, with a new partner) I’m sure I could go again before long.

Someone pointed out earlier in the chat that it's "against the law," but that's not true everywhere. If you have the financial means to do so, I'd recommend booking a trip to somewhere that prostitution is either tacitly or explicitly legal. You're less likely to get in trouble, you're less likely to catch a disease, the woman you're with is more likely to make a living wage, and you're less likely to contribute to organized crime. Amsterdam's the obvious destination if you're in the UK, and from what I understand you're pretty safe and should be treated well at a reputable Red Light District establishment.

If, on the other hand, you (or someone else reading this, looking for the same advice) were in the US, I would suggest you immediately book a flight and car rental in Las Vegas or Reno. Prostitution is NOT legal in Nevada's more populous counties (you will be arrested if you try), but it is everywhere else in the state, contributing significantly to rural economies. Which is why you need the car. Directions to the numerous legal, reputable "ranches" outstate where you can go for it legally are ludicrously easy to find, and several of them are a reasonably short drive from the cities. From what I've heard, a good "ranch" visit may cost you several hundred dollars, but you will get your pick from a number of attractive women who take pride in their work - and especially the sacred duty of showing a man his first time.

I feel for you frontierguy, but marriages usually need to have a really strong sex base in order to successfully bring in other people, or talk about this big of a new adventure. If she hasn't already expressed an interest in going down on a woman - or if, as you've hinted, is actively turned off by the idea - I very much doubt there's any chance of "convincing" her.

Given what you've said here and on other forum posts, I'm sorry to say your choices are probably (1) go without sex, or (2) safely and discreetly pursue it outside the marriage. As Dan Savage would put it, (2) isn't without risk - somebody could recognize you at the gay club you've mentioned. But I think he also considers ensuring each other's sexual happiness to be an essential component of a relationship, and if your wife is unwilling to help with that, you might feel justified going elsewhere. I personally know of a few guys here on Lush whose married sex lives have gone cold, but being here on Lush helps them keep their sanity while they stick with (1), and gives them a safe space to talk about whether to go for (2).

Option (3), DTMFA, which Dan sometimes advises, is pretty extreme, and I wouldn't necessarily advise it. It's fine for young people without kids, but for us older folks that's pretty difficult socially, financially and emotionally after building a life together.

Sometimes you've gotta borrow another guy's tool.

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But I kid you not, after we were done and just lying in the bed exhausted, she said, "That was almost as good as Dirk."

Ouch. That can be the downside of being with beautiful people.

Too bad he didn’t seem to like it, but hey at least you got to suck that first cock, and pussy-flavored no less.

Personally, I would have taken his cock popping out that third time as the sign that he wanted me to suck him. I would have done exactly what you did.

It’s a tough situation. Is it a betrayal for you to go smoke some dick? Then again, maybe your wife refusing you is a betrayal too. These are up for you to decide.

I’ve only sucked a dick once, but it was really awesome. If I ever decide I’m ready to do it again - and that day may come - I’ll can’t wait to get a hot penis pumping my mouth full of jizz again. Truly a wonderful taste and feeling.

Glad you had a good time at the club, and “All these beautiful dicks walking around waiting to be sucked” has me hard and stroking just thinking about it.

I’ve found Grammarly to be incredibly helpful in catching errors that my eyes skim over. And incredibly boneheaded in its suggestions about almost everything else.

By the way, I only use the browser add-in, which I enable only when I need it, and NOT the application. There was a time a couple of years ago, when I was still on a Mac, that my computer kept getting slower and slower, to where it was almost unusable, even if I was hardly running anything. Restarting didn’t help, either. The system monitor revealed that the Grammarly app was gorging itself on resources - doing what, God only knows. I deleted the app and my system immediately worked fine again. That is absolutely unacceptable.

Didn’t use to, and they’ll never be the the same to me as supple female tits, but as I’ve grown more attracted to men (no longer just their cocks) I like the idea of cupping a guy’s moobs and tweaking his nipples while I ram him. Or suckling him while he fucks me from above.

Went to them fairly often when younger, but haven’t been to one since well before the Pandemic.

I found that some jurisdictions didn’t have enclosed booths at all, just semi-open stalls. Others had real booths offering total privacy. I suspect the regional variations are due to local laws and/or enforcement. Only been to one establishment.with actual glory holes, and the tale of that glorious visit is here: A Hole New World.

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There is not going to be a first time with a guy. Either giving or receiving.

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Yea don't do it.

Dude, this is the LGBTQ+ Community Forum.

I have many times, especially when I lived in the Pacific NW. People there are less uptight about it, and at least amongst young people it's not uncommon to skinny-dip at lakes or hot springs. At least a little more frowned-upon elsewhere, I think. I have hiked naked too, in several western states. That's a little more daring, obviously.

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So just curious you guys.....whats the longest amount of time you have gone (one session not having to stop to get hard again).

Probably an hour or so. I was drunk - but, somehow, not too drunk to be hard - and just pumped her forever without cumming. Came zero times, because she eventually asked me to stop so she could sleep.

And what is the most times ypu have cum in one fuck session?

You might want to rethink your definition of "session." The way you put it, it is basically only possible for a guy to cum once.

On the other hand, if by "session" you mean "an evening together, focused entirely on sex, but taking turns pleasuring each other," I once came least four times during one particularly memorable session that started around 9pm and went to 5am.

Wow, congratulations! Only seventeen? I didn’t realize it was such elite company. Well done.

Personally, I have a plan to get to Prolific, but Omnium seems a whole other deal. As you said, doing so would ultimately require me to delve into things that disturb me. I have quite a few writing goals that are more important to me right now, but I suppose I could get inspired someday.

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I dont want a pilot flying my plane with my family on it who only got the job because they met some DEI target.

I find that racists in itself that a DEI hire gets picked if I am more qualified.

First off, even if airlines are making some effort to diversify their workforce and considering race, gender or economic background, no one hiring on as a pilot "only gets the job because they met some DEI target" (those are your words). There are still very high minimum standards. I'm a middle-aged white guy, and even in a completely colorblind application process, I'm pretty sure I can't just go get a pilot job. Please engage your brain and think about how the hiring process for a pilot might actually work. The Righties have been making this specious argument pretty loudly for several years now, so if you think you're somehow making an original case, you're not.

Second, racism and discrimination are different words with different meanings. If "DEI hires" are getting picked over more qualified white males, and you have not proven that this as a widespread thing, then that is (by definition) Discrimination. But also by definition, unless it is serving to perpetuate the subjugation of an underprivileged race - and we white people don't qualify as an underprivileged race, under any reasonable interpretation - then that is not racism. You can scream "discrimination" if that happens, but you don't get to scream "racism." Learn your words.

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This would mean Civil War.

Civil war, which many on the far right have wanted for years to provoke, may well be coming sooner than that.

Besides being a sop to those in his rural base who hate cities, Trump's/Hegseth's military invasions of "Democrat cities" seem deliberately intended to provoke resistance. Even a small amount of violence (or possibly even nonviolent resistance) on the part of protesters in the occupied cities will likely result in a disproportionate response, supported rabidly by Trump's base, and could quickly spiral out of control.

By renaming the Department of Defense to Department of War, Trump threatening in a speech this week to use domestic cities as "training grounds" for troops who are not ordinarily allowed to fight on American soil, and Hegseth boldly proclaiming an increased emphasis on military "lethality," the Administration is openly signaling a desire to wage civil war.

Keep an eye on what happens in Portland. Illegally federalized Oregon troops occupied the city for the first time yesterday, with a bit of violence perpetrated against protestors but cooler heads mostly prevailing. Then the city seemed to get a reprieve last night, with a Federal judge temporarily ordering a halt. That case will go to the Ninth Circuit, which is almost certain to uphold yesterday's ruling. And then ... it will go to SCOTUS, probably on the emergency docket, and who the fuck knows what they're thinking anymore?

Meanwhile today, Trump executed an end run around last night's ruling, whose scope was limited to the Oregon National Guard, by sending up the illegally federalized California National Guard. Watch this space and pray.

I think I’ve seen that in most past competitions, the front-page banner gets taken down the moment the deadline for entries has passed.

Seems to me the competition isn’t over until the winners are announced. Why not leave the banner up at least until the announcement, or maybe even a couple days longer, to draw more attention to all these wonderful contest entries, highlighting the best of Lush?

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Tori might have gotten her reward in the previous chapter, but Joe and Eric are in for their own treat as she spins out Tori’s Torrid Tale, telling of the relationship she enjoyed with lesbian Jackie during her earlier separation from Eric. My first solely woman-to-woman story, this is the latest installment of my wildly Bisexual MIDLIFE RENEWAL series, and the first chapter in which a woman explores her Bisexuality. For what it's worth, this has been published on Bisexuality Awareness Day!

Haven’t had sex with anyone but my wife since I married, but as I’ve aged I have become very interested in sex with other men.

Prior to that, I did have sex with a man. And enjoyed it very much.

For some reason, the other guy in my “Sexy Sixties” Obsession contest entry had to be named Jerry. That name came into my head just as the story idea formed. I considered other names, but somehow Jerry is who he had to be.

Can't imagine a lot of orgies would want to have me. It's about as hypothetical a question as you could possibly post on here.

Like GMOFL said, there are a lot of reasons possible, starting with age. When you’re 20 you can get and stay hard for almost no reason at all. By 50, I found that I had to be mentally stimulated - truly into what and whom I’m doing, and not anxious about it, or I’ll shrink right up.

So if he’s middle aged, the guy has to really into it. Maybe he’s really into your wife and he’s letting you be present as a favor to her - or you. Maybe he got a little remorse, either for cutting into your marriage or for being around a hard naked guy. Maybe he’s not really bi and the sight of your dick turned him off. Maybe he was insecure not about her but about you … guys are competitive, and he wasn’t ready to have another guy see him hard and naked.

As everyone else has said, give him another chance and make it low-pressure, so that erectile performance is not necessary for a good result. Make it more about exploring each other’s bodies and exchanging tactile and oral pleasure than penetrative. And offer your support as another guy. If/when it comes up again, make yourself vulnerable and admit it’s happened to you.

Have I ever had an M2M fantasy? Hell, it’s 6am and I’ve already had M2M fantasies today. Wanna know what my MM fantasies are, just read one of my stories at random and you have an 80% chance of hitting one.

Not going to celebrate any political assassination, even of an asshole like Kirk. I despise his speech, vehemently, but I have to defend his right to exercise it. Regular assassinations of people like him and Melissa Hortman (even closer to home for me) for participating in public life are terrorism, plain and simple. And a very, very bad omen for our country's future.

And for the world's. It's not just the USA that is fucked, as dannig pointed out, the way things are going. The dearth of assault weapons in other countries might seem comforting, but no one is safe from the dehumanization of political opponents and the normalization of political violence that is reaching every corner of the globe.

You certainly could publish it here in the Novels category, Milik. Your idea immediately reminds me of Ursula K. LeGuin’s writing, especially The Left Hand of Darkness, although other of her stories also explored gender and sexuality adaptations of humans different than found naturally on Earth. I’m not that big into sci-fi generally, but a hardcore envisioning of something like Left Hand would have me cumming every few pages.

The question is not exactly “should they be illegal?” I believe that in most US jurisdictions, the bigger ones already are. The operative question is “should the law be enforced?”

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I think she damaged me. It was too painful to ejaculate for nearly two weeks because my balls were really sore. But I've tried to jerk off and I can't get any cum. I'm worried she has kicked me far too hard and I really want to jerk off.

if any of this is actually true, get yourself to a doctor, NOW.

Just published! My entry is Secret Sixties, in which my lust and my remorse battle for control of my mind and body. Forced retirement, a burgeoning friendship and a low-sex marriage create a quagmire of conflicting, escalating feelings that tempt me to cheat on my wife.

I have read some excellent stories on Lush set in churches, usually featuring irreverent takes somewhere between sarcasm and sacrilege. My entry, by contrast, presents a more earnest and modern angle on religion as Joe struggles with questions of faith, fidelity and fucking. I hope readers enjoy this exploration.

In Secret Sixties, my entry into the Obsession writing contest, my lust and my remorse battle for control of my mind and body. Forced retirement, a burgeoning friendship and a low-sex marriage create a quagmire of conflicting, escalating feelings that tempt Joe to cheat on his wife.

I have read a number of excellent stories on Lush that are set in churches, usually with a tone somewhere between sarcastic and sacrilegious. This story, by contrast, presents a more earnest and modern angle on religion as Joe struggles with his questions of faith, fidelity and fucking.