Where does the OP even get the idea that we care about that “more than anything else?”

Oh yeah, because society tells her that we do. Guess what! IRL, guys (at least with any level of maturity) don't in general care about appearance as much as women are led to believe we do. The so-called “beauty” industry leads women to spend inordinate amounts of energy worrying about their looks (as evidenced by this thread’s very existence) while draining nearly half a dollars out of their pockets, contributing mightily to women’s lower standard of living globally.

I’m not saying there’s something wrong with trying to look nice, but too many women are led to become insecure about their looks and focus on it way too much.

Sure, when a big-boobed woman walks by, guys tend to notice. But in an actual relationship and actual sex, most guys don't care that much. i've known a number of guys, even horndogs always who regularly brag about their "conquests," who still professed "more than a handful is wasted" or even "more than a handful is too much."

Run what you brung.

I usually find natural to be a more attractive look than overly made up or surgically modified. For instance, I prefer women with relatively light makeup versus huge fake eyelashes and long impractical nails, and I prefer some bush to fully shaved.

Along similar lines, while I'm not opposed to subtle implants, boobs that are just obviously fake are not a turn-on. I have been with women with pretty big soft, natural (even saggy) boobs and never found them to be "too large" for my taste. Women with those usually tend to be larger-figured anyway, with bigger butts and hips and some belly fat too - which is FINE with me!

If you like it, go for it, but I’m glad it's someone else's wife doing it and not mine. I'm comfortable with my middle-of-the-road masculinity and really don't get the interest in being feminized (especially if it's paired with some kind of humiliation). I'll gladly take a cock down my throat or up my ass, though, as a masculine. man-to-man act.

I like Georgia’s idea of being able to tag media and make that searchable across individual users’ albums. As already pointed out, otherwise centralizing the management of uploaded media would make Lush unacceptably vulnerable under copyright law.

And like Seeker4 said, I too am starting to limit myself to using copyright-free images for my covers, either from creazilla or AI-generated. I don’t have a good way of knowing whether the more explicit images out there are copyrighted or not, so I'm moving away from using those.

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No more gyms with communal showers in London - sadly.

Wow, too bad. I think most gyms here in the US still have at least semi-open showers, with (at most) stub walls and partial doors for each stall.

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Update. Our sex life has improved and we’ve since shared a man together. Loved it! As did she! I want to be with a man again.

Hot!

I’m hairy (but trimmed). I know it’s pretty common for guys to shave down there now and don’t bat an eye. However, I do think it looks odd when a guy is hairier than average (chest, belly, etc.) but has a shaved pubic area. Still, I’d try not to look at him funny. Honestly, I’d just be disappointed, because I find hairy guys attractive and a shaved pubic region on them just looks incongruous to me.

I've tried it on dildos and kielbasas. I think I'll need a real one to learn on someday.

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Man above 50 should only ejaculate once a month. Twice at the most. The problem is, men lose a shit ton of energy when they ejaculate, that is self evident. And it gets more pronounced as we get older. If we’re constantly ejaculating, we’re just blowing all of our life force out of our dicks, all that wonderful healing energy is being lost.

And you’re making this proclamation at age 35. You know what I’ve noticed, being actually over 50? Life is full of people who overgeneralize and extrapolate from their own experiences and tell others what to do.

What medical evidence actually suggests is that "use it or lose it" applies, and that frequent ejaculation may be better for long-term erectile health than infrequent. We do NOT have a fixed reserve of "Life force" (as you put it) in our balls and prostate that is depleted every tune we ejaculate. Now, I'm NOT going to tell you what to do, so if you want to keep edging and retaining, feel free. It's your body. Meantime I'll keep jerking it daily.

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"Well, I, uh I, I first became aware of it, Mandrake, during the physical act of love. Yes, a profound sense of fatigue, a feeling of emptiness followed. Luckily, I was able to interpret these feelings correctly. Loss of essence."

My naughtiest was sucking a guy through a gloryhole, to this day still the only thing I've done with a guy. See story "A Hole New World" in my sig for the deets.

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Could have been worse, I could have just as easily kissed a guy.

Personally, I'd much rather have kissed a (non-related) guy than my sister.

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I don't know if I'm bi since I don't seek other men and I find women very attractive, but in the right circumstances...

Orientation is defined by attraction, not behavior. I fully claim the Bi label even though I've only acted on it once. If you're interested in guys or their hardware, feel free to call yourself bi (or curious, or flexible) regardless of whether you ever act on it. Or not. YOU get to decide how to label yourself.

Call me a cynic, but I'm skeptical that the OP is an actual ... uh, "Lezzy."

Good for you for trying new things, welshstallion.

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I’m sure none of us know what you mean by “self-enjoyment”, Joe, so would you please post pictures and a video.

Oh, they're right there on my profile page. You've been warned.

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We have a Menstruation category now? 😲

So by the same token, menstrual fluid would be okay in an image, as long as it's not actively flowing out?

My workaround, which only works if you discover the typo right away, is to copy the text of the botched message, delete it, paste it into a new message and edit before sending. I did actually do this once yesterday.

When I was a young man, there was a time that I'd gone over a year without sex, and I genuinely contemplated the 10-12 hour drive to visit a Nevada brothel.

It never happened, possibly because I ended up sucking a guy through a gloryhole instead. And I had a couple of hookups with women not long after that, taking off some of the pressure. Still might have been fun to try the brothel, though.

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Every word I’ve written is a true account to the best of my recollection. Do you approve?

"Approve" would be an understatement! So very hot.

I seem to be at my most creative when I’m either on vacation or particularly stressed. When I’m just plain busy with the rigmarole of routine daily life, I don’t seem to write as much or as well, though I still plug along in fits and starts. I guess that means that I’m at my best writing when I’m either having an escape from normal life, or seeking an escape.

As for the effect that writing has on me, while I feel like I probably shouldn’t be seeking validation in the likes and comments to my publications, there is no question that I do bask in that validation when it happens, and the “success” (by that metric) of my stories after publication certainly affects my mood. I just published a new one yesterday, and - ugh - here I am, checking on it more often than is probably healthy.

The other effect that writing has on my mood is before publication. Since it is basically a process of fleshing out my sexual fantasies, I find it highly stimulating. My self-enjoyment activity increases markedly when I’m actively writing.

I’ve never gone to the effort of actually writing (which I take to mean spending the hours to get a story past the outline stage) unless I really intended to publish it someday.

Not counting my many brief sketches of ideas, my unpublished work tends to be either (1) fully- or mostly-written stories into which I’ve put a few hours to flesh out a first draft, but not yet the many more hours needed to make it ready to publish, or (2) leftover story fragments too good to throw away after rearranging or cannibalizing to make some other story ready to publish.

In both scenarios, the intent to publish was there while I was making the effort to write, and at least with the scenario (1) stories it still is. Like everything else in life, it’s a matter of taking the time to get it done. That’s not just idle hope, though, because my backlog of semi-finished stories has gotten shorter in the past two years. EDIT; just fact-checked this, and yes, I’m down to about fifteen stories in the hopper that are mostly-written but need polishing.

Yep, once I figured out to add cover images to my stories, I went back and edited the two or three dozen I’d already published, making NO changes except adding the cover images and putting the Note To Moderator explaining that’s all that I’d changed, just as Seeker4 says.

In each case, they got reapproved quickly. That would probably not have happened if I hadn’t put in a Note to Moderator.

And also like Seeker4 said, there are stricter rules for cover images than for pics posted elsewhere on the site.

Rediscovered! reignites my bisexual Becoming A Man series exploring my sexuality as a young man, which has been dormant for a couple of years. Actually, this story is man-on-man only, but the series is bisexual. Two years ago, Eric discovered me trying to suck myself, leading to mutual pleasures ... followed by a scary freakout on his part. Now he is ready to offer me not only apologies, but gratitude. And maybe his extra-long cock.

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I’m intrigued as to how you lick a clit like it’s a cock? Does she have a large clit?

I’ve been with women whose clit got noticeably erect, and who had enough clit and/or labia to suck into my mouth like a little cock. While most women have enjoyed me sucking on their outer parts and swirling my tongue around, none ever explicitly asked me to suck them as if they had a penis. Sadly.

Never had this, but being Bisexual, I would love it! From what I can gather, many women feel threatened by things like male bisexual activity that suggest us needing them less. The woman who genuinely and confidently wants her man to try it is a rare gem.

She may be just having some fun role play in the heat of the moment, but it’s possible she’s curious about seeing you try the real thing. Like kinkme said, you might try playing along and see where it goes. Maybe nowhere, and just because you play along with this fantasy doesn’t mean you actually have to suck a real cock it if you don’t want to.

Some people assume that because I’m Bisexual, I must be turned on by crossdressing too. I don’t find it either a turn-on or a hard turn-off, but as with a lot of things, what turns my partner on might turn me on. If I was with a guy who was really into it, I could be too. In fact, I will have a hot cross-dressing story coming up, probably early next year.

If by cuckolding you mean humiliating the husband while he watches someone else fuck his wife, I give that a very hard pass. I’m into sex as an uplifting activity for all involved, and putting people down turns me off. But I’ll give a big thumbs-up if you’re talking about hotwife activity, where a guy enjoys sharing his wife, and everyone involved is turned on by that.

Six, seven minutes on average, I suppose.

When I was younger I did go pretty long, probably half an hour, a few times. There was one time when I was young and drunk, and it was very late at night, and the girl I was with asked me to stop because I just couldn’t seem to cum. A rare event for me!

Depends on what you mean by “during sex.” Can I get hard enough to penetrate again, immediately after cumming? No, and I never could. I’ve always needed a few minutes between rounds, so I could never go a second time “during sex” unless you count going down on my partner for a while or engaging in pillow talk as I recover.

Do I need more time now, in my fifties? Probably. But if the situation is stimulating enough (as might be the case, for example, with a new partner) I’m sure I could go again before long.

Someone pointed out earlier in the chat that it's "against the law," but that's not true everywhere. If you have the financial means to do so, I'd recommend booking a trip to somewhere that prostitution is either tacitly or explicitly legal. You're less likely to get in trouble, you're less likely to catch a disease, the woman you're with is more likely to make a living wage, and you're less likely to contribute to organized crime. Amsterdam's the obvious destination if you're in the UK, and from what I understand you're pretty safe and should be treated well at a reputable Red Light District establishment.

If, on the other hand, you (or someone else reading this, looking for the same advice) were in the US, I would suggest you immediately book a flight and car rental in Las Vegas or Reno. Prostitution is NOT legal in Nevada's more populous counties (you will be arrested if you try), but it is everywhere else in the state, contributing significantly to rural economies. Which is why you need the car. Directions to the numerous legal, reputable "ranches" outstate where you can go for it legally are ludicrously easy to find, and several of them are a reasonably short drive from the cities. From what I've heard, a good "ranch" visit may cost you several hundred dollars, but you will get your pick from a number of attractive women who take pride in their work - and especially the sacred duty of showing a man his first time.

I feel for you frontierguy, but marriages usually need to have a really strong sex base in order to successfully bring in other people, or talk about this big of a new adventure. If she hasn't already expressed an interest in going down on a woman - or if, as you've hinted, is actively turned off by the idea - I very much doubt there's any chance of "convincing" her.

Given what you've said here and on other forum posts, I'm sorry to say your choices are probably (1) go without sex, or (2) safely and discreetly pursue it outside the marriage. As Dan Savage would put it, (2) isn't without risk - somebody could recognize you at the gay club you've mentioned. But I think he also considers ensuring each other's sexual happiness to be an essential component of a relationship, and if your wife is unwilling to help with that, you might feel justified going elsewhere. I personally know of a few guys here on Lush whose married sex lives have gone cold, but being here on Lush helps them keep their sanity while they stick with (1), and gives them a safe space to talk about whether to go for (2).

Option (3), DTMFA, which Dan sometimes advises, is pretty extreme, and I wouldn't necessarily advise it. It's fine for young people without kids, but for us older folks that's pretty difficult socially, financially and emotionally after building a life together.

Sometimes you've gotta borrow another guy's tool.