Neither of us had slept with a man before. Until last night, when I finally gave in to Rick’s ongoing flirtations, and we both experienced the glories of another man’s body for the first time.
Waking up Saturday morning, a little drowsy from a long night of mutual sexperimentation, not to mention a bit sticky from a middle-of-the-night play session, we found the sun a couple of hours above the horizon.
We had a deck to build this weekend! Better get moving. We hurriedly slipped on clothes, grabbed some energy bars for a quick breakfast, and headed to the backyard to start cutting and fastening the joists to the posts we’d sunk the previous weekend.
We stayed focused on our work through the morning. I think we both would like to have talked more about this turning point in our relationship - and in our sex lives - but his yard is small and the fences have ears.
Rick seemed a bit anxious for much of the morning. I knew he had been worried the night before about “dragging” me into a relationship with him. But I was totally fine with going forward with this. We had already been spending most of our free time together, so why wouldn’t I be thrilled to add sex to the equation?
Plus, having recently divorced, maybe I liked the idea of a partner with zero chance of wanting to rope me into something too serious. His wife, Emily’s, longtime gay relationship with her friend, Jackie, hadn’t harmed their platonic marriage, and I figured Rick wanted a similar arrangement.
Did I say gay relationship? Fine. I guess it was, even if I wasn’t. Rick was certainly gay, or at least as much as his wife. I, on the other hand, was still attracted to women, and I think he was worried about that. I was not worried about it.
Rick looked even more nervous when we went into the kitchen. "About last night ..."
"Hey, don’t you 'About last night' me! We already talked about this, when it actually was last night!”
"I know, I know. But this is asking a lot of you. Are you really sure you're ready for a relationship with a man?"
"Listen, Rick. In the last few months, you've become the best friend I've ever had. And then last night, we had what is at least tied for the best sex I've ever had. Why wouldn't I want to keep that going? Plus, you know I don’t want anything like a marriage again, or even a lovey-dovey type relationship. With a man or a woman.” I continued my blustering speech. “I’m past forty. My world is different now. I admit I hadn’t thought about anything like this until last week, but now it just seems so obvious. Having the best friendship with you, plus being able to have some damn good sex? I couldn’t think of a better deal than that.”
He held up his hands as if to defend himself from my impassioned speechmaking. “Okay, okay. I just wanted to check again after we both had a chance to sleep on it."
"Yes, Rick. I want to be your boyfriend. Is that clear enough? And … is that what you want?"
"Yes, and yes. And just so know, you could still date women. I mean, I have a relationship with one myself, so it’s not like I could be jealous.“
"I’m not even sure I would want to right now, but I am still attracted to women, so that is nice to know if it comes up. So it will be an open relationship ..."